Do you belive in the "Soul Mate", thing in a relationship ???
 

just read this :winkwink:
http://www.cnn.com/2009/LIVING/perso...ove/index.html

100% yes.

Only if I'm trying to find my shoes.

Yes
I think you were meant to be mine :)

I believe. I don't think that there is only one person out there that is made just for you or anything, but when you find a soul mate you know it.

Really ???:helpme

Personally, I think it's a really bad concept that causes people to pass by or even leave people who otherwise would make great long-term partners. Luckily, I'm not speaking from experience, it just seems like something that would make people miss out on a lot of good time.

I think you lose part of your soul in any relationship (personal or professional). You can decide whether or not that's good or bad or worth it depending on the relationship.

To me, finding your soul mate is akin to hitting 6 out of 6 numbers on the lotto.

I don't know, alot of people I know seem to settle with people who don't really make them happy.

I was with this one guy for about 5 years. He was all about walking down the aisle and as much as my friends and fam were all for it I just wasn't feeling it. I know it sounds cliche, but in the end even though I loved him I wasn't IN love with him anymore.

When I broke up with him I caught alot of shit. I mean, yeah he loved me, never mistreated or cheated on me, we hardly ever fought, but there's just more to it than that.

Alot of my friends, especially my girl friends, couldn't believe I chose to walk away. "Oh my god! He's so perfect! He wanted to marry you! What are you, nuts?!?" They just couldn't get it.

Even though I took alot of shit for it I honestly think it was one of the best moves I ever could have made. Now I'm with someone who for me is the total package. He's not perfect, but neither am I, and who is? There's just this synergy that's there that has always been missing in my other relationships. We kick ass for the lord.

I think society puts too much pressure on people to marry and live happily ever after. If anything I kinda feel it's the opposite, people don't walk away from good potential long term relationships as much as they seem to settle with bad ones because they're afraid of being alone. Maybe my perception is skewed by my own personal experience, but that's the way I see it. :2 cents:

It's odd. People find ways to push themselves out of the toughest equations. Mysteries of life? Only God knows. Rescue a loved one? Thank God. Someone makes you feel good and doesnt tick you off too bad? It was Fate.

Geez, give yourselves some credit! Y'all do pretty damn good! Give yourself a pat on the back! (unless god and fate made you too fat to reach, those jerks)

I never said anything about SETTLING for someone who doesn't make you happy. I was talking about passing up people who COULD make you happy, because you're on the search for that ONE perfect person who instinctively understands everything about you and feels the same about everything etc., who, in reality, doesn't exist, and if they did, it would be the most boring relationship you could ever imagine.

I agree 100% on your last paragraph, though. Too many people aren't independent enough to go it alone and see what comes along. I know plenty of people who are happier with people they met serendipitously than those who met people they were desperately on the hunt for.

:helpme I guess so

Great JFK! There goes my happily-ever-after romance;)

Cute article:) Relationships require both parties to work together for one common goal. If not, no matter how hard you try, it just won't work.

No, I don't believe in relationships either :)

So which one was _your_ soulmate? The mail order Asian that left you or the 20 year old porn whore you were banging despite having a wife and children in the house? Either way, double fail.

OH im sure youll get great replies about "soul mates" on gfy :1orglaugh

Quoted for truth :thumbsup

Sorry, I didn't mean to sound like that's what you were implying, I didn't think that.

I agree. Relationships are a two way street. If someone's expectationsare set too high and they expect to make something work w/o working on it then yes, that is a recipe for disaster as well.

AAAAAAAAAAAAAWWWWWWW I'm so sorry , come here, lemme give ya a cyberhug:liebe028:

Yes and I am sitting next to mine..

Been married for 8 years and together for 11.

I believe in "Soul Mates", my whole heart just returned home from work just as I opened this thread (Pretty weird). Now I'm going to spend some time with her and start making dinner.

First sighting was back in high school and we both knew it the first time we laid eyes on each other.

We are both are 35 years old and married for 17 years. :winkwink:

I'll even give ya a few pics...
http://i82.photobucket.com/albums/j2...drty/gnfno.jpg
http://i82.photobucket.com/albums/j2...y/DSC01694.jpg

i do....

awww I like high school sweetheart stories

I believe in it, but I think its extremely rare to truly happen.
WG

cmon now, let people find solace in their fantasies :1orglaugh


j/k sticky, what you believe for yourself is all that matters, although I think the whole soulmate concept is a complete bunch of bullshit though :2 cents:

of course not.

Just fuck whatever you can get, you stupid fucking monkey bitches

Also - WiredGuy is a homosexual hairy arab poofter.

That's how I feel.

They are few and far between, but they are out there. Be open to finding them and they will enter your life.

Both lovers and friends. Sometimes the only difference between a best friend and a lover is physical intimacy.

There is nothing better than having a lover that is also your best friend.

Of course there will be people you really really like and there's such thing as compatibility. The rest is all disney type nonsense to make people think they're anything other than semi sapient monkeys with a tendency toward hyperbole and habitual self delusion. That being said, I see no reason not to believe in soul mates and any other such fairy tale things either. Whatever makes you happy.

We each have many, many soul mates. The idea of there just being one is what's ridiculous about it.

I am still looking:(

I count myself among the lucky few to have found my soulmate.

Married to her for 11 years (together for nearly 15 yrs.).

We finish one another's sentences and can tell what the other is thinking with a mere glance.

We got to know one another over local BBSes (before the 'net, kids) - before finally meeting IRL at a local nightclub a few months later.

After marrying two women I was not suited to I decided I had had enough of the marriage game. Then I met Eva and 12 years later we're both happier and more in love than we ever were.

Yes we're each others soul mates.

Eva also finishes my sentences, she takes them over half way through. :1orglaugh

No. People watch too many fucking movies.

This is why in never really got off the ground dude :)

So Blame it on me ? Its always about YOU isnt it??:Oh crap

we are nothing but 1/2 retarded baboons doing what we are genetically programmed to do... find food, find shelter, find a mate, fuck and have babies. we have a lot of ways of rationalizing and explaining these simple innate driving forces inside us... and a lot of ways to make ourselves feel secure in the relationship by coming up with concepts like "we were meant to be together"

what is "love"?

love as a noun, is simply the fulfillment of personal selfish emotional needs. nothing more. it might include the need to be abused emotionally or physically. it might include the need to find a co-dependent drug addict so both of you support each others drug habits or whatever.

love as a verb.. i.e. "to love someone" is nothing more than the emotional manipulation of another. you behave in a certain way and do certain things, hoping those actions and behaviors will be reciprocated and the cycle can continue. its nothing more than that.

we are all the best liars we know... and all this is one of our greatest lies.

I was in love with 2 movie stars, then I met a girl who looked like one and her name rhymed with the other. Then it got pretty weird, she worked at Henzells which sounds like a place to pick up chicks, hen sells, so I just assumed it was all a sign. But she hates me, maybe if I get rich I'll have a chance.

btw... i'm not anthropologist... but what is the purpose of a HUGE wedding with all family and friends there?

why is it SOOOOO important to a female?

Simple...

its a simple matter of going on record in front of everyone thats important in your life that you're going to fulfill a certain promise... which of course greatly increases the odds of you doing that. its like announcing that you're going to lose 20 pounds to as many people as possible for example. you do that crap to put more pressure on yourself to go through with it. same principles at work here.

a guy DOESN'T want that because he's programmed to fuck all the women he can

a women DOES want that because she's programmed to fuck only one guy

a guy is immediately thinking about the fact that he'll be expected to be with only one girl for the rest of his life. a woman is thinking "he's mine", "i made him mine" etc.

if your plan to get rich is to go around over-paying for domains with no clue on how to monetize them, then i would say there is a greater chance of you dying by electrocution while playing with a power saw in the shower than in getting rich.

:2 cents:

the whole soul mate thing is silly. common interests, good friendship, not arguing much, enjoyable sex... that's about as good as it gets. compatibility...

"Soulmate" is probably one of the most mis-used and also over-used terms in the world right now. With a lot of girls I've spoken to over the years it seems every other guy they hook up with is their "soulmate", for approximately 2-5 weeks until they break up and go looking for their next so-called "soulmate". They think a soulmate is someone who thinks like they do and who likes all the same things they like. "Oh you like Cradle of Filth? I LOVE Cradle of Filth, we must be soulmates!" Yeeah.

But do I believe in the concept in it's proper usage? Sure, why not. But as to the notion that there is only one for each of us? Utter hogwash.

Most people need to clear their mind of all this soulmate crap and just look for someone they like and are attracted to who ends up liking them back and let nature take it's course. Why? Because sometimes you can be with the same person for many years until it hits you square in the face -- that you ARE with the closest thing to a soulmate you'll ever have, want or need.

yawn yawn

yeah... you're a proven genius.

the only thing your going to succeed at in life most likely, is winning a Darwin Award.

you'll be that guy who was so convinced he had it all figured out that he decided he didn't need a parachute when he jumped from the plane.

those who knew you will often reflect that it was analogous to your business life and really not all that surprising.

there is soulmate, but you will call sexy bitch too

That doesn't surprise me coming from you. :1orglaugh