So my ex-boss is starting to kinda creep me out...
 

I've recently quit my day job, and my boss has a form of cancer that she'll be going for treatment for soon and may not make it through. She has been the best boss I've ever had at a formal place of employment.

Now not too long before my last day she told me about her financial situation. She says that she has a trust fund from her grandfathers company and that she plans on leaving me something since I've "touched her heart" so much (says she is going to leave me $100k).

I told her I did not feel comfortable accepting that, and I didn't think it was a good idea etc. She says I have no choice in the matter. Anyways, for some reason this has made me feel uncomfortable. I basically just went on "offline mode" on IM for like two days and within the time two of my inboxes are filled with emails like every 30 min asking where I am and to log into chat, etc. and saying she has important things to tell me etc.

Much of her story doesn't seem to add up completely. In terms of cars she drives and things it is pretty obvious she could never afford those things on her salary alone, but somehow the story she has told me sounds pretty far fetched and doesn't add up.

I also don't understand why she would make up a story like this either. She already had my full support before I knew any of this, it's almost like she's trying to give me a reason to not bail on her through tough times, but if anything this has made things really weird for me.

She has also told me she has "feelings" for me, as in more than an employee or a friend feelings. I'm feeling pretty creeped out. WTF should I do? I've agreed to meet with her tommorow night.

hit it 2x

How old is she? sounds like a weird situation

she's 38 i'm 23

I would, and the "offer" is pretty much there... but I just don't find her attractive in that way...

Tap that ass and cash the check. End of story

1. Be Honest
2. Tell her how you feel
3. Dont be a dick

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what he said

she loves u!

can you get some cash in advance ?

Is she hot? I'd be so all over that if I was 23.

maybe money isnt her thing and she cares more about working hard for her dollar than spending the money in a trust fund. Ive meet a few people like this who live like they are poor but have several millions.

personally, i would take the money and put it to good use. dont just spend it on a car, some hookers and a weekend in Vegas. start a business or charity. word hard everyday and in years (and good Karma too) you could be very successful and know that she helped you do this and then you can do the same for someone else when you retire with millions and have a star employee that you want to reward.

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Also hit it.

I didn't ask, nor do I care to...

Unfortunately I don't find her sexually attractive but she is a great person

Well she certainly doesn't live like she is poor. Like I said, she drives at least three luxury cars (that I know of and seen anyways) and has a large house on an acre of land, and there is NO WAY she pays for that all through her salary alone....

She says that she is a good judge of character and that she wants to see me to use this money to put myself through school. She says that I have a "spark" about me and she knows I will be successful. She says I can also use this money to invest in my web biz (she's fully aware I peddle smut on the internet)....

I jokingly told her that I would spend all this money on hookers and blow (which she said she told to her lawyer and is now going to be in writing to "not use funds for hookers and blow" lol), I told her this was too much money to leave to me and that I would end up washed up on some beach the next day...

is she hot?

Unless you're Brad Pitt what the hell is the question?


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If the woman is on her way out, just take one for the team! Poor Chloe!!!

WOW interesting.. if you really want to do by right her and put this $ to good use, why not have her pay for the things you would really need instead of just giving you the cash?
Do you feel like if you accepted you would feel some sort of obligation to her after this? What if she becomes obsessive or tried to make you feel guilty for quitting or.. gets really weird on you?

get her to pose in front of her webcam holding up her bank statement and todays newspaper to verify.

Well the problem is it already feels like she is becoming obsessive.

If I happen to not be online, I'll get multiple emails at multiple addresses, facebook inbox, offline msgs etc, if i dont reply to the email within like 30 min i'll get another email asking if i got the msg and where i am etc.

She always tells me she loves me and misses me things like that. The whole thing is just making me feel unomfortable, and I hate to sound cold harded. I'm trying my best to put myself in her shoes and understand what she's going through. I'm going to be there for her either way, but I've just had this feeling of uncomfort for the past few days...

If you want to borrow my penis let me know.


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i think you should ask her for a retainer, something to show good faith on her part.
if she wants the schlong, she has to pay ...

This is how I see it:

-Your ex boss is past her prime (and not very attractive -- if she were slightly, you'd be all over her in about 3 seconds cuz that's how guys are), and wants to boink your brains out

-You're a nice guy, not to mention that she has cancer and a shit load of cash, so you don't want to put the smack down quite yet, since I'm sensing that you're not 100% sure if she has the cash (and you want to support her, etc.)

Solution: Take her to a bar, do lots of tequila shots, and hook her up with someone else...Then, she'll thank you for a great time but you don't have to boink if you don't want to. And, if you do, you'll be really wasted so it won't really matter anway.

oops i meant "cold *hearted*"

- I'm usually very attracted to older women, however, I am just not sexually attracted to her.

- Thank you for the compliment. Yes I do want to support her but I do feel a bit of "obsessiveness" coming on as mentioned earlier in the thread.

Well I don't know about the bar, but she did invite me up to her cottage next weekend to get super drunk and hang out for a few days.

Well, everyone's got a price...How much would you boink for? :zzwhip

Alcohol is your friend.

fuck her.
take the cash.
give 10% to charity.

sent her this thread. she will comment once the mods approves her.

...honestly, if you feel uncomfortable with this situation, tell her to fuck off
(perhaps re-phrase the "fuck off"-part a bit).

it's about what YOU think, man.

..or visit her, hug her, kiss her and tell her "babe, save your money for the cancer treatment -i'll be on your side day in, day out. i'll drive you to the hospital, etc."

option 1) she made things up, gets irritated and tells you to fuck off.
option 2) she gets annoyed and tells you to fuck off.

but thats just an advice from a drunken monkey.

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Do you think the offer of money may be an attempt to buy your love? (Putting it simply)

She could be trying to buy your affection.
She also has cancer and is thinking of her mortality no matter what the doctors have told her. Well if they said she may not make it or live long, or she googled her cancer she may think she has very little time. She may be willing to say fuck it and screw social tact. No time for pussyfooting around.

You did not say what type of cancer nor the treatment. This could also be a symptom of her cancer. Perhaps you need to bypass her and talk to her lawyer.

I could go on, but well I do not have enough info. Just know she is kind of stalking you.

Suck it up and give her a happy ending.. You'll feel like shit if you didn't and she does die. If she's full of shit she gets whats coming to her in the end anyway.

if she's hot - hit it
if she's not - hit it and don't tell anybody

exact same thing popped into my head.

Fuck her, get the cash, and don't tell anybody.

hey who cares

great post. glad u clicked and participated.

Well that's the fact...

but still it's pretty fucked up situation :S

just be a good friend and see how it goes.

Yes

I'd prefer not to post too many details about the situation, just because you never know what Google might spit out relating to these keywords.

I went out with her last night, in what turned out to be a 14 hour get together. Then she called me 5 min after she left my house and we talked on the phone for another two hours. While at my place, near the end of the get together she pretty much threw herself at me, very touchy feely and even kissed me a few times. I tried avoiding but she literally forced a few kisses. I literally felt like I was being raped. After telling her several times I was very uncomfortable with this situation and I wasn't interested in her in that way she apologized...

Of course also earlier in the night I did mention that I thought she was trying to buy my support and things.

I wake up to another email apologizing for last night, then another email shortly after that telling me about the good news that she will not be doing toxic chemo anymore and wants to get together again tommorow night.

Unfortunately I accidentally logged on to IM on available mode, realized right away and went offline just first thing when I got up, I then immediately get a facebook msg that she saw me go on chat and to please come back on to chat with her.

Then after not replying to any of her messages that I'm faced with first thing after waking up, I start to receive multiple phone calls which I don't answer. Then she posted a couple random hellos and things on my facebook wall, then sent me another email telling me that she should have told me this earlier but my "trust fund' has an initial deposit of $250k and is already collecting interest and whatnot.

I've really wanted to be a good friend here, but I'm literally at my wits end at this point. I would love to keep being a nice guy and support her, but I can't keep spending 16 hours a day comforting this woman.

What the fuck should I do?

Sorry I can't hit it. I just can't bring myself to it. Wish I could take one for the team Sleazy.

Trying, not working out very well. I probably sound pretty cold hearted right now but anymore of this and I'm gonna need to see a shrink myself.

just how hideous is she??

I guess turnabout is fair play.... :upsidedow

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ADG

I get why greenface isn't giving in... taking things to that level is just going to make the situation worse.

get a restraining order

She is telling you that to try and keep you around, she isnt leaving you anything. And you are pushing her away and creating distance which is making it harder for her to keep you near her so she tosses out 100k lie.

classic bait

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