just talked to my chick in aussie.. what should i do?
 

ive got a girl who went to australia and asia for about a year. She's there now for over 2 months. I had tips from people, also on this board, that it will not work out but didnt listen, and a couple of days ago i even made the deal with her that we would travel asia together in a few months - we were both very happy with it and couldnt wait til that time.
So for now shes still alone travelling australia. But i dont trust people so i dont trust her... and from time to time i call her and ask all kind of shit, if i can trust her for 100%, etc and she says yea ofcourse blablabla... so today i didnt feel good and called her again, asking if i can really trust her and shit. She said we talked about it already and she doesnt like it every time i ask her those things because it also doesnt make her feel good.
We're at the point now if we should go on like this or go our seperate ways. I dont want to lose her but its so damn hard. What the fuck should i do? :disgust

grow up
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everyone is different, but I wouldn't let me girlfriend go away for a year to travel the world, lol

the fact that you're asking her if you can trust her will make things even worse IMO.

Those 4 words answer your own question.

If you cant trust her, it will never be a happy relationship.

Dude, she's in Australia by herself... bars, beaches, and hot weather. What do you think is gonna happen :(

Sounds like he's the one with issues, not her...

girls hate insecurity but at the same time the insecure ones are always right about whats going on. no point in asking her a million times. either she is or she isn't. not much you can do about it being where you are.

:2 cents:

You're better off not asking about it at all.

I am guessing the original poster is a 12 year old.... or a girl?

What does age have to do with this? Some people have trust issues.

are you on drugs, she is fucking big cocks there :(

Agreed... and...

It doesn't make her feel good because she most likely feels guilty and has already had tons of aussie cock.

Would a person with "trust issues" trust the strangers on this forum to give him sound advice? I don't think so. He doesn't have trust issues he just doesn't trust his girlfriend, maybe rightly, maybe wrongly. Who knows?

He told his girlfriend he would go join her, and she sounded happy. That should be enough and he should stop whining like a teenager and get off his ass and do it. Everyday he leaves it she could meet another guy.

Nobody know when they wil met their perfect mate. If this is yours nico-t stop fucking around and do something about it.

feed it or beat it

It's not a question of trust IMO, it has to do with the fact that you are not their and when the times comes for her to be appreciated, loved, and affectionate, if you're not there she'll go looking for it elsewhere and vice versa.

Get off your ass and go be with your woman if you are not sure if she is going to be faithful or not!

How old are you?

:thumbsup:thumbsup True an all accounts. And surprisingly enough most of the advice so far was spot-on.

As for you dude, asking her that makes her feel untrusted and makes you seem insecure. It's less of a question and more of an accusation. Even if she lied you wouldn't know so her answer only stands for what you believe it does. If you think you can forgive her even if she fooled around then go on with it, otherwise get on with your own. Aside from that asking the same question over and over and expecting a different answer is a sign of madness.

yep :2 cents:

Ask her one more time if you can trust her and she will probably make the decision for you.

Really why would you ever ask anyone "can I trust you?" wtf that's just stupid if you can they'll be offended and if you can't they'll lie to you. Grow a pair and get a life.

you're acting too insecure. Any woman would get fed up with that and go for a tough Outbacker Aussie instead.

You're insecure and your constant badgering of her is going to drive her away anyway so you might as well call it quits as you've fucked it up. :2 cents:

well im not the only one, shes acting the same way when she hears some vague shit about me and chicks.... but she doesnt hear it often because im working and dont party 24/7 and crash at other girls homes etc, but she sleeps at other guys homes and shit. If you hear that shit from her all the time who wouldnt go insane? If she was just there for work it would be ok but shes hanging out several times a week with different dudes all the time and crashing at their places and shit. You tell me if that wouldn't fuck up your trust in her....

Yep time to work on your own insecurities.

look at the positive side: if she is able to talk on the phone there are at least a few minutes of the day she does not have an aussie cock in her mouth.

for whatever reason its socially acceptable for girls to be insecure :helpme

TNB


Trust No Bitch

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question i have is are you cheating on her here? seems like you may guilt too much

she is going away for a year because she wants to see what is out there. that means in life and in relationships.

you should have seperated at the beginning of the trip and handled it maturely. then if she is out banging cocks you dont have to worry about it. then when she returns and the spark is still there then you know it is meant to be.

people are to weird and not mature enough to handle these situations properly and it always crashes and burns.

these are north american women you have to know what they are about and accept that fact.

i dont know about you but the chick i am looking for i should never have any reason to be worried about her. if you are worried about her it means you dont have confidence in your relationship and part of you does feel you can be replaced. if you can be replaced it wasnt real in the firstplace.

i just saw you were from the netherlands, i mean western mentality in women when i say north american if you want to be picky.

No dude, YOU are at that point..you "we".
If you keep asking she'll think you're a total asshole and an annoyance. How would you feel if she was asking you all the time: "Can I trust yo?"

Echt he, denk even na over je eigen onzekerheid.

It`s been said countless times in this thread already but you seem to have a big issue trusting her and asking her constantly is probably not what she wants to hear.

You also mentioned she crashes around peoples houses lots? Perhaps she wants to have some fun in her life and isn`t looking for the big serious relationship right now?

If you knew her really well and thought she was "the one", you would know the answer to all the above questions.:2 cents:

dump her man..if shes back packing in australia..she has banged some people for sure..and probably has some sti

thanks people. It makes sense what all of you are saying i didnt really think about it this way... thanks again

Stop fooling yourself and move on. There is no way that ass isn't getting tapped down under.

Didn't Tiger just get back from Australia?


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She has been banged in the ass countless times by now!

Why are you asking her if you can trust her? You should be asking yourself that.

Lol, I see what you did there!!

Ya that's a cluster fuck of insecurity. Leave the poor girl alone. She's probably ready to fuck a huge outback ozzie after your girlie trust whining. She's traveling the world... let her be happy.

I really think you should come clean with her about your issue. Just think about when you two finally hook up on your trip and she realizes that you can't perform. http://www.gfy.com/fucking-around-and-business-discussion/903897-psychological-erection-failure-questions.html

hire a PI... no kidding... Obviously you don't wanna dump her but destroying yerself like you are doing right now isn't helping (you) either... so find an ausie private investigator...

break it off unless this is a temporary situation and you guys will be back together soon.

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If I had a girlfriend in another country I would expect her to cheat on me, because I would be cheating on her no doubt. We are quite young. This is pretty normal and expected, well for English people my age anyway.

However if you honestly think she doesn't and she seems the type go for it.

You don't think that hiring a PI is a MAJOR MAJOR MAJOR hint that something is VERY VERY wrong? :1orglaugh

Hey wake up and read this. She is cheating on you. No doubt about it. A loyal chick with good intentions and morals doesn't go sleeping at random dudes houses. Now stfu and break up with her u pussy.

You have some issues dude!

Any girl is going to get pissed hearing about your insecurities every other day. She is out here having a good time and you make her worry about your sorry ass! For most people it's a once in a life time trip so don't fuck it up for her.

Didn't we go over this months ago?
The summary was: do your own thing, let her do her own thing.
Don't be the arsehole who fucks up her holiday or life. If she loves you etc etc, she won't fuck anyone else and will come back to you. Just let her do what she wants, and you should do the same thing.

BTW, where in australia is she? I'm here for a few weeks, i'll go check in on her :winkwink: