Dating in Adult, Breaking It To Your Mate
 

So I met the cutest little blonde last week. I was not really expecting anything at all, much less meeting someone, but she is still calling to see whats up and I am doing the same. We made out last night. She is pretty much everything I am looking for.

She has 3 kids, which is fine, is 33 years old, seems to just be a goodhearted hard working single mom. And I know single parents have a hard road to hoe, more often than not.

No idea how I am going to tell her about my little empire. I wish I could just touch her brain and have her know that I don't fuck around with my models off camera, I don't even have sex on camera, just fetish stuff. But have her see the world through my eyes, as far as adult, sex, sensuality, fetishism, etc.

I know some of you have been there, any and all helpful advice would be Super Fab! Of course, who knows what will happen, it's only been a week, but there is something special about this girl...

thanks! :thumbsup

Good luck brotha, I hope she's open minded. :thumbsup

unfortunately, many women are not :(

No offense but didn't you meet another "special girl" about a month ago? LOL.

you post a thread like this every week.

You can expand that to "most humans", sadly. :(

Did you meet her at some weirdass fetish party?

nope not me

not since nov 4th 2008, actually... a year and a half ago

fuck, you people know me better and better. no, actually a friends wedding of all places :pimp

put some fetish artsy photography book from Barnes laying around somewhere where she can notice it, see how it goes from there

You just met her last week. There is no reason to tell anyone you met just a week ago the details of what you do. The words "internet marketing" should suffice.

ahhh... time for words of wisdom.
I recently met a girl and told her straight up about my websites and my intentions of growing the websites. She seemed not to mind at all. Sex was great, fun times for another couple weekends.
Then she texted me that it was fun, take care, etc. I actually started a thread about it.

That lasted a few days and we are still seeing eachother, sex is better then ever, and she likes to add her 2 cents about porn once in awhile.

She also asked about any fetishes and I told her... totally cool with it so far.

But i'm not really convinced she will stay cool, don't know. But one thing is she likes to explore my fetish secrets more then talk about the porn biz.

what you need to do is test the waters. leave a playboy lying on the coffeetable & see how she reacts. Then you will know if she is open minded about your biz.

if you can't be honest and upfront (without any apologies or other monkeyass shit) about how you make your living then it ain't gonna work. you should have told her the first day and saved yourself some time, now she's gonna wonder what else you're "hiding" and you're on the defense. bad. for christs sakes i think you only do a soft foot site if i'm not mistaken, thats hardly objectionable to even the avg woman. if you have a blog i would email it to her right now and let her know the real deal, and have her put her cards on the table too. she might be on a dam cam right now for all you know

If you're into her and she's into you then chances are good she won't mind. We have a way of finding the people that are going to be attracted to every part of us.

just whip it out ...

I wouldn't just blurt out that you're a freak and tell her you have a foot fetish and that you're a pornographer.

http://www.itsbelow9000.com/facepalm.jpg

i am developing a busty lesbian breastfeeding site too, don't ask, lol. I am planning on launching it later this year. Already done 6 scenes. Yeah, I have 23 blogs, we will see how that goes too. Thanks though Shimmy!

well thanks for the advice guys n gals, we will see I suppose.

I say be honest right off and find out now if it is going to be a problem. I was thrilled when my now-husband didn't flip out when he found out what I do. However, he found out really early on and so it just was part of who I was by the time we were saying anything to do with proper love.

You better make sure there are no baby daddy issues.

Yeah, there is always his opinion to consider as well. While she might not mind you doing what you do, he may be against it.

I wouldn't mention it to her just yet, when the right time comes you will have to tell her, but week after you met I don't think is an ideal time...

OH God, dudes get about 1000 percent more jealous. It really fucks with some dudes. I usually try to be the kindest to those dudes...

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i know, i know, i know, lol

who gives a shit .. just fuck her hard as long as you can.

tell her you do internet marketing and give her some mainstream urls ..

and please don't start anything serious with a single mother of 3 kids god damit

OHHHHHH you nastay! ROFL.

I seriously do not understand you people. why would you even want to be with someone who cannot understand your living? are you that hard up? serious question.

i have always been honest and upfront and i have NEVER had any problems. most are intrigued. but hell i dont look like the average greaseball porn webmaster.

run forrest run!

don't bother. every couple of weeks you post that you met someone that is just perfect but for whatever reason it never seems to work out. just enjoy it, have fun and if it comes to that just flat out tell the truth.

:1orglaugh ... Sorry, I couldn't help it.

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There is no reason to tell them this early..

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Are at least all three kids from the same daddy?

Get her hooked on the cock then tell her.


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haha that is good advice

Tell her Porn is your religion. She will respect that.

She probably already knows.

dont tell her shit.. she is not goin to be ur wife.
damn! the chick has 3kids. run as far as u can after bangin her loose
there are so many women in these world without kids.. so be patient & keep lookn.

LOL you should probably read this thread over again. You might have attachment issues?

If you wait to long to tell her there will be trust issues. sure, she may act or actually be ok with what you do, but the fact that you waited so long to tell her will make her wonder what else you're hiding from her. Tell her a.s.a.p. and if she can't handle what you do it's not worth your time. you may be waiting for the right time, but here's the thing.. There will never be a right time. Just tell her.

No idea on what advice to give. Girls I dated from inside the biz knew all about whet I did. Like Eva. Girls from outside I never told them. Just never met anyone I wanted to share my life with except for Eva and she turned up at a casting. :winkwink:

It doesn't matter if she has 3 kids, but yeah you can find a girl that is not a mother, think about it.