Healing a 35-year-old wound
 

I was a mean kid. Especially to one girl that lived near me. I've always regretted the way I bullied her, and I wanted to make it right. I realize that I hurt myself just as much as I hurt her. So I found her today on Facebook, and tried to heal a 35 year-old wound. Her response surprised me, I expected her to tell me to fuck off.

Now tell her what you do for a living. :1orglaugh

Good stuff :)

I always knew you had a good heart man.

Ooooooooo Nooooooooooooooooosssss!


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Well, the good news is that anybody that was bullied has a 50% chance of having a better life than their bully.

Every bully I've tracked down on Facebook so far seems to be miserable in their lives and I cannot help but to laugh. The bully I despised the most had a default photo of him frowning and looking miserable while filling out a form at the mechanics shop, where he works as the minimum wage parts bitch.

He always thought he was going somewhere...14 years later it looks like he's made it nowhere.

What first came to my mind is.. what if she found his post on this board, and how would she react. :upsidedow

I hear that.

My similar story is that I saw the girl I was mean to just after I finished
college. I was on my way to the bar to drink up and party when I saw
her. I apologized, she cried.
She told me she was having some financial problems and just had a baby.
Then instead of going out and spending all that money drinking,
I gave her every cent of money I had on me.

This was before ATMs were available(there), so my pockets were full. :1orglaugh


Interestingly ironic is that another female I knew bullied this girl way
more than I did. She never apologized. She dropped dead at age 24!

Bitch should have paid up!

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Props to you Steve.

Also please read this thread I made about you , if you have a minute:

https://gfy.com/showthread.php?t=990237

Autograph?

Thats a fucking awesome story Steve. :thumbsup

Nice story, I was bullied when I was younger and I know first hand how it changes how you are from being that terrified kid to being overly aggressive and confrontational (or in her case quite scarred). Nice move in correcting what you did when you did not have an established personality.

I remember punching a girl in the face in grade 6,but she was a bitch and deserved it,we do stupid things when we were young.

After you punched her, did she win the fight?

I mean, you still feel like she "deserved it". :1orglaugh

It is amazing how you carry stuff from childhood around with you.

I ran into a clique that used to fuck with me at a birthday party 5 or 7 years after graduating and I was furious and wanted to kill them for the first two or three hours.

It turns out they didn't even remember picking on me. I decided to let my anger go and we all got drunk and had a good time.

Also, a lot of my friends do not remember people being as bad to me as I remember it. Funny how that works ... all of that internalizing stuff.

Yeah, paranoid schizophrenia does that.


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Nice move, Steve.

She threw a stick at the spokes of my bike,one shot to the schnoz was all it was.I was almost ran over by a car because of it.Negative rep for you!

That story made me tear up..

Good for you man after all these years to make thing right.

Mister Peabody is a bad-ass, we all know this, and yet I have a sensitive side. I've often, often thought about contacting friends from the past who I've lost touch with, or people I've "wronged" in some way. But then I think this:


which is why I don't contact them. But good for you Steve, seriously. The Pornmeister with a Heart! :)
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I'd give you rep but GFY rules are a fucking joke.

your story made me cry as i remembered moving to a small hick town from the city and all the kids making fun of my speech, my clothes and my darker skin (they were all white with no exotic in them), i was in 3rd grade at the time and it continued for a year or so. i was miserable and wanted the fuck out of there so bad. i ended up making tons of friends and leaving the bad feelings behind. but the best part was........











I grew up to be way better looking than all those bitches and assholes that picked on me :thumbsup

great story steve. thanks for sharing it. good for you and cool thing to do.

it is amazing how we can carry emotional baggage inside us for years and years and then it can feel as if it was yesterday when brought to the surface.

Smart move. I'm still planning my vengeance on fuckers encountered in 6th grade and 9th grade -- I figure when I'm about 70 if they're actually kicking around -- there won't be any records connecting me to them...

Word, I look back 8 years after I have graduated and still LOL at the jock kid who used to think he was the coolest thing ever, and now he's a fucking bag boy at Target and has a kid with one of my best friends and doesn't ever get to see it because of how big of a loser he is.

That is a very sweet thing you did Steve. :)

Well at least you only let 35 years of her life go by in misery.

35 years ago and u remember it. I bet you must done something very bad.

Well glad you got it fix.

;) You got it lol.

I've actually looked for her before, but I was only able to locate her after she joined Facebook.


I got the whole bus to boo when she got on, and cheer when she got off. It went on for weeks. It was a despicable thing to do to her, and I've always regretted it. She moved away before I could apologize.

I was being semi-facetious...it is good that you at least apologized even after so long. The best thing you can/could do is teach your kids (if you have any) not to be bullies. Bullies suck in any shape or form and the psychological damage they do is what really hurts. As you could tell by how she reacted after this long, even something from that long ago has far-reaching effects.

Ouch. That's pretty bad. :(

Steve, you're a thin skinned pussy.

You'll feel bad for saying that in 30 or 40 years.... :winkwink:

good for you for admitting mistakes and trying to correct them.

What an ass wagon!

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Nice of you to reach out like that Steve. Class act :)

That's a really nice thing you did for her. :thumbsup

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Made me remember this:

http://primetime.unrealitytv.co.uk/w...nameisearl.jpg

Such a sad story. Children can be very cruel. Hopefully you can teach your daughter not to let other people define how she thinks about herself.

This was the plot of Flatliners.

Excellent Steve. There's nothing like an inner peace! Good for you and her too!

You know, Facebook has brought a few approaches like that to my door as they have grown up and perhaps thought about things that were said to me in school (being the fat kid, etc). Honestly, it isn't that I can't be bothered to hear the apologies as much as I simply don't care any more. It has been 15 years since high school and am a fairly secure adult that doesn't need to dwell on things that were said to be as a kid. So, it is always a shock when those mails come and to be honest, I often just don't reply.

your hand must get sore from patting yourself on the back so much.

Send her a link to this thread. I'm sure shed think it's awesome she is having her childhood dissected in GFY lol.

:1orglaugh great vid for the lame rep slaves :1orglaugh:1orglaugh

How very "my Name is Earl" of you.

I am finding this more often than not. I was never the bully, and the bullying I did get was very brief and really uneventful. But wow, I knew some pretty intense bullies and have seen them popping up on facebook here and there and almost all of them struggle in their adult lives. What they thought they were going to have and what they got were about as different as night and day.

Steve, that was very big of you and I was so happy to see this thread... just for the simple fact, you were man enough and had enough heart to go and make it right, even if it would have turned out bad, which you knew it may have, you stood up to it and that makes me proud to say I know you. :thumbsup

Is this supossed to be some kind of displacement from the "Chris Mallick will make everything right" thread? What a phony situation...

Making amends if possible to people you wronged in the past always feels good.

Very respectable thing you've done Steve but that does not surprise me at all from someone like you.