My Year So Far...
 

Forgive me if I have no sympathy for you. Forgive me if I come across as being rude at times.

I am done with bullshit. Why?

My mother-in-law died in April. She was sick. In 1995 she was given 6 months to live. Its been a nail-biter since then.

In May - right after my birthday - a good friend of mine hung himself. I found this out because another friend walked int his apartment and found him. Dead and hanging.

Later in May, my estranged niece was murdered n Bancroft. I hadn't seen her in years, but I have some great memories from when she was a kid.

My mother died in June. She did not leave a will, or have any insurance. I spent three years caring fr her, taking her to doctor's appointments, taking her to therapy, calling 911 on a regular basis. I'm left to deal with her mountain of debt, and left to care for my severely handicapped sister. What? I'm supposed to put my sister in a home? That's not going to happen. She'd die there.

I could live without the $183,000 debt, though. Thanks, mom! (I did try to get her finances in order. I couldn't force her - or get power of attorney).

My aunt just told me that my grabdfather's second wife finally succomed that's been eating away at her for years. Even though she wasn't my biological grandmother, she was good woman.

So, if you whine about something, forgive me for not giving a fuck.

Sounds like a terrible year for you :(

Yet,

You have still posted more useful threads/posts on this forum than about 85% of people here.

Kudos to you :thumbsup

GFY is just about the only place where one can vent. I might get a few lumps and bruises here, but I have no trouble letting off steam - and I'm thankful for that. I'm not American, but I am thankful today. I am thankful for GFY. /asskissing

I'd say I'm about 10% helpful, 70% idiot, 20% random chit-chat. But I appreciate the vote of confidence. Your reply was a mood booster.

Shit!!! Good luck 2 ya

It'll only get better. I fucking hope.

Garce - I know we go back-and-forth on my not updating my AP since April so let's put that aside for 3 seconds here:

I'm very close to my mother. I am very, very sorry for your loss in June (and for all the other losses and death that seems to surround you, for whatever reason, this year). My sister is also severely handicapped. As in: doesn't speak, wears diapers, needs assistance in everything. She's 50 years old. I am her Gaurdian. I would never, ever put her in a home once my mom is gone. So I feel for you.

Bash me any fucking time you want brother. Hang in there, it gets better, declare bankrupcy if it helps you get your mom's debt off your back. It gets better but don't fogret to give yourself permission to feel whatever fucked up things come up. It's all part of the process of cleansing grief.

Resume hating me now.

Here is hoping 2011 is better for you.

That's a mess of shit to deal with, if you don't mind me saying so. I'm very sorry for your losses. Focus on the good things, no matter how small they are. Even sappy stuff like kittens and flowers. It all helps in the long run.

Been a tough go indeed.Life will always kick you in the nuts.stay strong

umm psycho

Not a good year at all, seems you have lot more then most to deal with wishing you the best...

sigh. not the right forum. hit up facebook or something for this sort of stuff.

gfy is a wasteland.

Do whatever you have to do to take care of your family. You are a good; no, great person or you would not have put up this post. I feel for you in more ways than I can count. I choose to take care of several relatives; a sister, a brother and a nephew and they keep me near the edge some of the time but that is OK. Dad is now pretty much disabled and has turned over the farm to me, so I do the internet marketing thing while running a profitable organic farm.

You do what you have to do to take care of your own and I respect you for that.

Keep up the good fight and I do know that you really do care or you wold not have put up this post.

HIi me up any time!

well you rest assured that as shitty you might think you got it, many have it much worse. so chances are, they wouldn't give a fuck about your whining.

Ups and downs innit? Lets hope next year proves to be more acceptable.

With all due respect, is that an excuse for what??

sucks to be you in 2010
but next year things might get better...

i must say my problems are bigest to myself :disgust

don't kill yourself.

In Toronto? You can always come to Guelph and smoke a j if you want to vent homie 45327152 on ICQ!!

Sorry for your losses. One question, did your Mom leave you more than $180K in assets? Debt is not transferable to heirs unless the assets exceed the amount of debt, i.e. she left 100K and there's 180K in debt, you are not obligated to pay more than 100K. Credit card companies and the like attempt to trick you into thinking it's your problem, so they get paid, but that's not true. Don't assume your parents debt! In any case, hang in there.

I got a new puppy for my birthday in May. He's nine months old now and everytime I close my eyes I see his happy face. Half Jack Russel and half Dachshund (just recently found discovered th Dachsund DNA.... He's really short, but he's really long.

I have four dogs and two cats, btw. Once I move out of the city - and after my mother's "estate" is taken care of - I will invite more dogs into my life. They're all rescue animals, and I love them all with every inch of my heart.

I'm going to take a few of them out for a bonus walk now. I love them so much.

I didn't even think of this until you mentioned it. :thumbsup

Garce, i've got no idea how old you are.. but my family and friends dont exist in my book... im currently 26 and i think for now my best plan is to walk away from them and if something wrong happens to them then its their business... my parents task was to raise me, they did their part now i just walk away, there's nothing good on having people caring or caring about people, in the end we all notice that the people we estimate maybe arent estimating as us they way we do at them... i really dont know if you will understand this, but its just my point of view...

i must add that my experience with my family isnt the most positive... its a freaking nightmare

I'm yanking your chain, bro. Fellucia is the hottest woman I've seen since the glory days of Wifey, Queeny Love, Oral Amber and Dagny.

I'll back off - and I admit I was just being a dick in my replies to you. All also admit that my personal problems may have caused me to direct unwarranted anger in your direction.

The reply you made to my post speaks volumes. You are a professional - you had every right to ream me a new asshole because of my random drive by troll posts.

I think this response means more to me than anythng I've seen at GFY in the last nine years.

You are a good man. I was horribly wrong about you. I apologize.

Maybe I'm a pussy, but I'm in tears now - not out-of-control tears, but eyes-slightly-watering. The support I'm getting from this board is almost overwhelming.

Thank you all. And Mr. Peabody - please accept my apology. I never would have thought you would step in and support me. I fucked up

long live Mr. Peabody

Apology accepted but none needed. You did - OMG! - a human thing. Fuck man, that's what these boards are for. No names, but I've had people on GFY call me a dousche then ICQ me and now we're cool off-board. I take very little seriously, and even less what I read on a board. My hopes are that you hang in there and let time do it's thing. When my girlfriend left me three years ago that's what everybody told me: give it time. They were right but it sucked balls, and it's even worse for you.

But Nature abhors a vacuum so this means something positive or good or karma-repaying will happen in your life unexpectedly. That's how things work, and wish it weren't true but it's true for anyone dealing with shit.

Cheers mate. :)

I hope so, too, Baddog. You are one of the people who have made my life tolerable over the last year. I know that sounds melodramatic, but I love your pictures, I love your stories, and I love reading about your adventures. I love seeing updates about Buddy - you won me over with that beautiful dog.

You're an anchor for me here. You ignore trolls and anonymous posters, and still you continue to share your life and adventures. I thank you for sharing your life me.

Being the verbose bastard I am, I could go on for pages - and I'm heading in that direction right now. Baddog, you have no idea how much your support means to me. So many good people at GFY - I put you near the top. Right behind Juicy.

Ok, I'm going to run a few laps on Need For Speed Hot Pursuit. I'm getting to weepy.

I'm such a pussy I may disappear for a few days.

You should have been attacking me. I took out my emotional instability on you. I was wrong.

The apology was neccesary - I thak you for accepting it. Get Need For Speed Hot Pursuit for the PS3. I'll let you drive me off the road. Once.

Then its open season on Peabodies...

I am fairly sure you know this anyway but I have always liked you and enjoyed talking to you even from way back.

You know, I have been feeling pretty sorry for myself lately. I just went to my grandmother's funeral today. I have been over here in the States on death watch for the past month because she was suppose to be seconds away from death since then. In the end, she ended up dying on the 22nd...two days before the 6th anniversary of my first husband's death. Which, makes all sorts of triggery things for me.

Combine that with my current husband being a bit of a dick lately (but we are working through it) and that in any event I have been away from him for a month which makes it all worse.

So, thank you for your post. I am sure it was very hard to write but it has made me put things into perspective and sometimes I need that.

I'm 47 years old. If I was to summarize my life here, I would be banned. I can't walk away, I have to take care of my sister. I moved back to mom's house to take of her in 1997. Three years I neglected my business and spent a good chunk of my time at Scarbourough hospital.

I sold my house to come home and take care of my mother. Then she died. Her "estate" is going to wipe me out. But I have to fight. My sister cannot go into a home. I will not let that happen - it would kill her.

I like a fight - and most lawyers are about as smart as a loaf of bread. This fight - although it will take time - is a fight I will win.

Sarah. I've loved you for a long time. I truly appreciate your support. Life is fucking hard when you have family.

Even though I started a miserable, depressing thread - I am stunned by te support I have received here.

I have to go now. This is a bit overwhelming. Go Fuck Yourself? No. I can no longer type - there are tears destroying my vision.

I can type for months. Wow. Thank you. The support I received from GFy is overwhelming. I have to go.

P.S. - Agent588 or whatever. If I decide to kill myself, I will hunt you down and take you out first. As long as I decide to live, your life is safe.

garce u look like someone i could work with, plz shoot me an email [email protected] i'd like to know more abt u

For whatever it is worth, which admittedly is nothing, you are one of my favorite gfy posters.

I hope that 2011 is a much better year for you. ~hugs~

Garce, get better buddy, vent anytime.

Life can be a real bitch sometimes...grab your left nut and hang tight.

stiff upper lip and all that

Sorry 'bout your damn luck!

Is the debt from the medical?
If it is then I don't understand, thought your country had National Healthcare.

Sounds like you've had a mountain of problems. Wish you a better 2011.

Stop by my crib in LA and I'll get you blown.

old people are terrible with money. they often rack up credit card after credit card and then don't know what to do.

and i want to apologize for my previous post. i like garce, i like his posts. just going through some shit right now myself and while i can appreciate his situation and have sympathy for what hes going through i'm sure a lot of people here have similar stories too and you just might be taking it out on someone whos silently going through something even worse.

"Open season on Peabodies" - I like that for some reason. Haha!

When my dad died my mother, who is blind, was left with my sister, who I already mentioned is severely handicapped. Me? I "escaped" the emotional pain (I was only 21 at the time he died) and split for NYC, where I drowned myself in sex, cocaine and rock and roll. Then, three years later, I came out of my fog just in time to discover...my mom had done a "reverse mortgage" thing and the bank was foreclosing on her house in about two weeks.

Springing into action - I was only 24 - I hired a Lawyer. My mom is blind, she signed papers without a Lawyer present, she was depressed over my Dad's death etc etc. Oh - and WHY did she get a huge reverse mortgage when my Dad had left her a house with only a $3,000 debt (it was worth $200,000 at the time)?

Medical debts. The Bastards were coming after my mom for my dad's $100,000+ past medical debts. She wasn't responsible for those debts but, under pressure, went and got this damned reverse mortgage to pay off the bills. Nice, huh?

So I sued the bastards, it took six years, and in the end we walked away from the house free-and-clear, and mom had managed to save enough over that time to move to a new and better house more suitable for her and my sister's special needs. But what a battle!

So the similarities Garce are vast (I'm 45) and while the details of course vary greatly maybe some of the emotional crap is the same. Hang in there.

PS: Dogs are God's Gift to us poor blokes down here, doggies can give you love in a way no other creature can. Woof!

For your viewing pleasure. :)

I am glad there are some that appreciate the pics as much as I enjoy taking them.