I used to be like that too and I was very quick to walk away - my wife knew this and knows I don't put up with much bullshit. But after twenty years.... It's a different story.

^ you're misunderstanding me. I have no issues whereby I don't trust whoever I'm with 100%... I have no issues where I'd feel the need to keylog/spy/etc... I have no issues where I couldn't talk to the person about my concerns instead of keylogging/shit

Being with someone for 20 years, having concerns - I get that. Saying nothing, but instead creating a scenario(s) in my own head that got to the point where I started doing that - I totally don't get that. Then to find out out it was indeed just stuff in my own head, in itself proving I had a

a) lack of balls to talk to the person I love
ii) lack of communication skills to start with

I definitely wouldn't post it on a message board.

The last part was just me being dickish, but still... without trust + honest communication, it isn't a relationship in my book. Saying that, I realise every person is different - I do actually get the 'why' of you doing it, even if it is a million miles away from what I'd do.

Life's rich tapestry, and all that shit :)

Along with what Jel said, now you're causing your SO to lose trust in you.

That's not healthy.

All whores but mom

I always wonder how they don't know? If your attention span is that short maybe she isn't the person for you.