Why. If she found out about it three years later she would get a chuckle out of it.

I disagree with all of you on this.

Years ago I was living with a girlfriend and I thought she was fucking around on me. I did what you guys think I should do - I confronted her. (In fact, I called in sick from work, went out with a few friends, and came home six hours earlier than usual and caught them in the act.) Suddenly I discovered I was living in her apartment (the lease was in her name) and our money was in our joint account - which she quickly emptied out.

I will never ever let that happen to me again.

I think what you did, at the end of the day, was well played. Though I'm the last person to know anything about a healthy relationship.

Let's face it, a LOT of people cheat, there are lots of neckscarf dudes that are either indifferent, trusting enough, or cheating themselves to not have it consume them.

Then there are guys like you. You used a sneaky tactic but I'm sure you were so relieved that you appreciate your wife a million times more for it. Don't you?

I know another guy that was married... he setup a hidden camera in his bedroom and frequently watched his wife have sex with one of her collegues or something like that, right in their bed. Ripped him apart but at the end of the day he was hooking up (and often) while he was away from the house out on trips. Fucked up thing is even after they separated he would keep watching the camera.

In both scenarios I think the concept is quite clear - ignorance is NOT bliss!

I guess I'm old fashioned. 100% trust. No trust = I'm out of there anyway. keylogging and shit - wtf lol

How about respecting your significant other and having trust? If you suspect they are not being faithful then fucking talk to them. Jesus what are you 12?

Sure sure, the age old advice. No one needs to hear it a million times, all the sheep in the world already know this. You're either 12, or somewhat realistic.

TRUST is the best/easy answer. Divorce rates are high, people cheat like crazy, if you do some sneaky(creepy) key-logging shit and then never do it again because you were so relieved, I'm not going to blame you for it.

High level of cuckold fodder in this thread.

Many new short stories in the works. :D

Who is saying you should trust your significant other with your bank accounts and buy a place and put her name on it? What does that have to do with you stalking?

alll women are faithful when they r at home with their families

omg, she would never, ever cheat on you...even i know that! can't believe you went all sherlock holmes on her lol. does she know you did all that? i won't tell but she would probably get a good laugh out of it.

I used to be like that too and I was very quick to walk away - my wife knew this and knows I don't put up with much bullshit. But after twenty years.... It's a different story.

^ you're misunderstanding me. I have no issues whereby I don't trust whoever I'm with 100%... I have no issues where I'd feel the need to keylog/spy/etc... I have no issues where I couldn't talk to the person about my concerns instead of keylogging/shit

Being with someone for 20 years, having concerns - I get that. Saying nothing, but instead creating a scenario(s) in my own head that got to the point where I started doing that - I totally don't get that. Then to find out out it was indeed just stuff in my own head, in itself proving I had a

a) lack of balls to talk to the person I love
ii) lack of communication skills to start with

I definitely wouldn't post it on a message board.

The last part was just me being dickish, but still... without trust + honest communication, it isn't a relationship in my book. Saying that, I realise every person is different - I do actually get the 'why' of you doing it, even if it is a million miles away from what I'd do.

Life's rich tapestry, and all that shit :)

Along with what Jel said, now you're causing your SO to lose trust in you.

That's not healthy.

All whores but mom

I always wonder how they don't know? If your attention span is that short maybe she isn't the person for you.