There is countries with flash divorces. You can be free and happy in like days.

lsiten to the words of Bob Marley. they can heal you. if not start with some yoga

No worries ..2016 will be worst

Monogamy is cultural. Us men have to fight with our ancestral polygamic impulses.

:2 cents:

hope for best and prepare for the worst.
hang in there.
best wishes.

No words of wisdom here just keep going. Life is weird.

It will get much better in 12 months after Trump is elected.

That's why I love my gf, we had a talk saying that we didn't really want to fuck just each other forever, so we go out and bring back other girls to play with once in a while. :upsidedow

That's fine until she wants to bring home other GUYS to 'play with'. You cool with that, too? :)

Nope. My rules, I'm a dom and she's my 'little'.. lol
Plus she's bi and only wants to play with other girls and watch me fuck them for some reason. :upsidedow

Plus she's an engineer, teaches English in China sometimes and has a degree there and one from here and both of her parents are attorneys. I'm pretty sure I'm going to marry her so if she wants a different cock once in a while, I guess that would be fine. :winkwink:

"There is neither good or bad... but thinking makes it so"

Regardless, your "I'm a Dom" quote fully explains why you'll never be happy in a relationship or with the world around you.

It's really only in fun, I'm not like a lot of those guys.. :upsidedow

Fair enough. :)

People tend to rationalize everything they do and create a narrative to paint everything in a positive light and explain it as healthy and normal. But one can will never find a truly happy person that needs to control others. Dom / sub relationships are about codependency and emotional and psychological dysfunction, never love. Certainly not in a healthy relationship which requires as much giving as taking to succeed.

There was a channel in Russia that always had quotes before commercials, one I will always remember translates as "if you want to be happy,... be happy". It's worth thinking about. You daily experience is most often as positive or negative as you choose it to be.

Ah, I know what you mean, but I only do it because that's what she's into. I tend to be too nice most of the time, lol.

I guess we're more of a daddy/little than a dom/sub. :winkwink:

For the record, I would never consider marrying someone who needs to look outside the relationship for sexual fulfillment. That relationship is doomed statistically and has a near 100% chance of failing. Don't set yourself up for failure.

Holy shit, I'm on my phone and didn't realize I was responding to the wrong person. My bad.

I know. We haven't hooked up with another guy at all and when we do it, we make sure we don't know the other girl so that nothing else happens. If we didn't love each other, we wouldn't do this. Hard to explain on a board.. :Oh crap

Yeah, I get that mixed up on my phone all the time :upsidedow

What if you want kids or family. And yo know that there is not really possible to be faithful for lets say 50 years... And if both agree on that.

That's why we talk about it and not sneak behind each others backs, maybe once every 3-4 months and she's always commenting on how cute a girl looks, never a guy.
We get along great and I get to fuck other girls. Seems like a win win...

Those are my rules, too. LOL "No other dicks in the bed but mine." (I guess I can make an exception for strapons and lesbians.)

Personally, I am with TheSquealer on this one. I never understood 'open relationships' or polyamory. My best friend is into that and got married recently to someone he met at a Fetish conference. I think it was a threesome with his then-GF. Dumped the GF and married the new one. Now they are married with a kid and supposedly 'open' but have not fucked anyone else since they got married. I bet they are scared to do so.

Fetish people = better in their head than in real life 'doing it' (whatever 'it' is).

PS: Does your GF have any friends in NYC? I need a new GF and I would like her to NOT be Dominant please thank you. LOL

Hope it gets better man, i just went through a divorce since i prefer better pussy.

There goes your chances with me. RaWr! I like to whip my men. :winkwink:

It can always get worse Always gotta think positive even when it's all negative it's the only way to get you through whatever it is good luck

Then that person is a selfish asshole who is willfully bringing children into the world and not providing a stable home life with two loving parents. Children model future relationships on their parents' relationship. Children without two stable parent homes tend to end up in jail and live their lives as very dysfunctional adults

:thumbsup
Everything has to be 100% stable and good before any talk about kids happens.

You misunderstood me. In that case both parents will be living as a happy family, just with sort of open relationship. Imagine swingers for example. They have sex with others and they are family at the same time.

The self serving satisfaction of being "co-dependent" in a dysfunctional relationship meeting selfish needs is not "happiness"... It's immaturity and selfishness and when you bring children into the picture, all shenanigans stop immediately. If there are no kids, I could care less what gets put into what. When kids are involved, any reasonable person follows their genetic mandate to put family and children first and protect it... not threaten it with destructive and corrosive behavior... particularly one which statistically only has one outcome.

By the way, this question of multiple partners with children involved will be answered by 1,000,000 family therapists in the exact same way.