My husband and I have Prenups. No harm. No foul if we split up.

My kind of gal!
(Taken, of course)

It depends on a lot of things. There's no way to prepare for how evil an ex can be. I've seen amazing marriages last forever, I've seen peaceful splits and I've seen people commit murder-suicides when it was split time because they were not prepared for how cold the world can get instantly... I'm not joking.

Think about that before you do it. You do not need to be married to be with someone forever.

Is marriage really just a rogue employee taking half your stuff?

I'm married for 5 years now but i voted "No".


I've yet to see a single argument for what benefit a guy gets out of marriage.

The woman on the other hand.....well it's already been covered in this thread.

Even if my wife and i never break up, and we live happily ever after....the question would still stand.

What did i actually gain out of agreeing to the marriage. And the answer stays the same.





So you have nothing to gain, yet everything to lose.

Why take that risk ??

Why are you asking what you gain? Why do you need to "gain"? You probably gain a wonderful and kind girl for who you get "exclusive rights" haha :)


I became pretty upset reading all the comments in this thread, it makes me wonder if all men are so selfish* and lack trust in themselves**?

* its all about what "stuff" you can lose if you divorce. If I would get divorced the last things I would worry about would be the "stuff" , the properties (I worked for) the neat cars (I worked for) : I would worry about I won't be able to be there for my kids on a daily basis anymore and that maybe there will be a totally stranger guy stepping in my home telling my kids how to live their lives, who would later maybe share their secrets with this guy Not Me!

** You seriously think that with age and experience you can't reproduce the "stuff" + money again? :D :D


...sigh...

Getting old alone, with lots of money and assets, etc, with your kids raised by someone else: a fucking nightmare.

Guys, eat some mushrooms or LSD, close your eyes, and spend 3-8 hours with yourselves alone, undisturbed, and re-read your thoughts: you will all cry.. :2 cents:

Nah i don't give a shit about cars etc aswell. Take it. Material things don't really mean shit to me these days. My mindset has changed the past year or so. For the better.

As was said, the woman usually gets the best deal if marriage breaks down when it comes to the kids. Almost every time.



So by gain i don't mean i got married because i actually hoped or thought i'd gain something out of it.....but just rather question why bother with the fuss, cost in the first place.

My wedding was fine. Vegas, so was part of our vacation.

A wedding here though costs fucking silly money. For what one day ? Then before you know it the amount of people i know that had their "dream wedding" are now seperate...

<3 :thumbsup :2 cents:

It had high costs here as well, but we did it as 35ish adults not 20ish kids. It did worth the cost to see all our friends from all 'episodes' of our lives at one place together, feeling fine. There was 120 ppl there, approx 25 kids. We hired entertainers so parents can have fun, and paid for their rooms so they can drink and stay at the same very nice place until next noon, when we had 'afterparty' in our own house with those who wanted to stay for longer. Nothing really special happened there, but it was superb to just simply 'be with these people' , drink, smoke, have fun..

Check out our wedding coub video, haha ;) :

https://coub.com/view/9vyd7


There are hard times in every marriage, and it is always easier to step out and look for a better life out-of-marriage, but I never went for the easier way ever in my life. I was close to want to 'divorce' a few times in my past, and I am SO FUCKING HAPPY I did not divorce but worked out all the issues. :2 cents::2 cents::2 cents:

had so much shitty relationships and affairs with psycho bitches in my 20s I just got 0 nervous system left by the time I got to my 30s... and moral quality / brain capacity of people is just getting worse year by year xD few generations back a good loyal woman might made one's life easier / happier, I think these days it's just pure fucking stress and a varied mixture of emotionally underdeveloped people's mental illnesses and all the chaos that's caused by those... most of them end up divorcing and hating each other so I think it's completely pointless these days, who needs that mess...

only motivation left is having kids like it's one of the most ancient instinct to reproduce who the hell want their bloodline to extinct... it's scary to think of

Good God why would you do that to yourself.


I voted yes since I'm married, but in truth I think marriage is for when you want to have kids, until then there's really no reason to tie yourself down to having to worry about someone else's goals and plans.

And no, the whole "wife-kid-divorce-rich" thing doesn't work like that everywhere. A friend of mine is getting child support from her ex... all the $65/month of it.

I wondered the same thing but was thinking, "One crazy bitch is enough but FOUR??? Good luck Muslims!"

As for child support it depends on many factors, mostly how well the husband/dad was doing at the time of the divorce. The courts expect the children to maintain the same lifestyle even after daddy leaves (or is kicked out). So maybe your friend lives in a low-income society or just married a broke-ass loser. There are plenty of stories of ex-husbands' financial lives being ruined by divorce.

She just found the wrong guy :1orglaugh

lol, true say. when I was born in the 70's, my parents married cuz otherwise my dad wouldn't have been permitted to be listed as my father on my birth certificate

another big reason is citizenship/ability to travel on a work permit

only reason me and my ex got officially married (we had been living as partners for years, happily) was because he got a job in Turks and Caicos and I wouldn't have been able to go with him unless I was his legal spouse. you need a work permit to live in that nation and 'common law spouse' isn't a category

same deal with my Jamaican citizenship, I got that because my husband is Jamaican, otherwise I wouldn't have fit the criteria to immigrate/attain citizenship without a ton of hassle and expense

but in general I agree, love doesn't need a piece of fucking paper

I hope you got some good ganja along with that Jamaican wedding ring sistah.

^^^haha

our wedding rings were recycled beaten silver purchased off etsy for like $40 each

we eloped in Toronto before leaving Canada so our entire wedding costs were $200 for the marriage license and $8 for round trip subway fare to and from city hall. we got married in jeans and hoodies

#ballers

but yeah, we were really happy...until we weren't. even though we were both conscious of the risk, over time the marriage did end up affecting our relationship. my advice would be, if you don't have to for some practical reason, don't do it

I remember sitting getting pissed drunk in the casino downstairs in the Cosmopolitan hotel in Vegas with my best man (Ross on here) just 30mins before i was due to get married. We had met a group of people from Miami or somewhere and while the girls where up getting ready for hours, we were like "we can get ready in an hour so...."

I remember the people we met were like "there's no way you are getting married today (i was still in shorts and t shirt in the casino) and yeah was about 15mins to go when we were like "shiiiiiiiit we really gotta go here and get ready and shit".


So yeah 15-20mins later all suited and good to go but fucking pissed drunk:1orglaugh


Vegas was as busy as i have ever seen it in my life because it was fight week between Mayweather and Pacquiao. Was chaos.

What does a normal woman (I'm setting aside golddiggers and such) get out of marriage, exactly? The marvellous expectation that you'll be cooking dinner most nights? Or the responsibility to keep the man out of trouble? The annoying questions of "when are you having children" from grandmas? Or the legal requirement to get his permission to sell a car? The wonders of childbearing and consecutive several years of pretty much slavery (however pleasant is motherhood, no mom will tell you it is, start to finish, great fun and games)? Having to hamper your career for one, two, three goes to the maternity ward?

I'm with Matyko in the conviction that love and marriage are needed and beyond the mundane daily routine and material things, but I will still argue with McD - why do you think it's such a great position for a woman to be married? Even very happily married women sometimes sit and wonder what it'd be like to not be tied down with all the responsibilities of being a wife.

In short, I think both parties have to make sacrifices for a marriage, that's sort of just how it works, and if you think otherwise maybe you're just saying the grass is greener on the other side.

Is this experience speaking? :pimp Thanks for the nice wishes, again!

Fortunately not but this is what married gents have told me to do "just in case". Hey, if the marriage works out then spend that money on a European vacation or something nice for an anniversary.

But if the shit hits the fan and she takes everything, or attempts to, at least you have some cash backup. A safe deposit box (not in the same bank you use jointly) is a big help. :)

It sounds nice but there's zero upside for men. I've seen so many men pulverized by women in family courts that I'll never go down that road. I have way too much shit to lose.

This is one more reason to use bitcoin :1orglaugh

nay :)
better to watch some babes on camsoda, lol

On the contrary, marital unhappiness leads to camgirl consumption.

I feel the same way at this point.
I will pump 'em and dump 'em, but that's about it.

For this purpose we call it Bitchcoin. :1orglaugh

Lived a bachelor life, it's boring. Being married is challenging but serves an imaginary purpose at least.

For some reason, most of my acquaintances who were married are already divorced

I know a judge whho lives in my town and she told me itwere more divorces in the past year then marries.

Its normally all weddings where cancelled because of the virus Co-19

Yeah people got sick of being around each other all the time!
Marriage must be easy when hubby and wife go off to work and only see each other a few hours a day and on weekends.

I have a beautiful man in my bed with a dick I rode to mutual satisfaction, and my kittens with me but not gonna lie (if I didn't want to write this I just wouldn't post) from time time to time occasionally I miss my soon to be ex husband

13 wicked years are a lot. weird trying to blot out good memories cuz they were good but painful to recall

was kinda stripped raw by the break up. being necessary doesn't mean it still doesn't hurt

have hot dude in my bed, I'm not wanting for sex partners (I'm not making ties) but I do miss that connection I've only felt once in my life. until he became someone I didn't even know anymore

2 months to go to file and move on. fuck this ish hurts though

at least I got the cats, with them I can move on

re marriage: unless it's for a bureaucratic reasons there be dragons

I've been spending the last year with my lady almost round the clock, and strangely enough, we don't bother each other.

You don't have two backs to break . . .

Because a lot of women depend on a man for their financial stability . I did that once...

Maybe I'm a misandrist, I don't think my husband is entitled to half of what I have worked for. :disgust

Chin up soldier girl - keep fucking going. =)

Some affiliate programs ended up adhering to that train of thought . . .

Eh, I don't really think that's who you are at your core.

But it's fun in the meantime.

The "core" of men is "pump and dump" . . .

no other option. love ya MMG, all the hugs

The hell. . . some people actually enjoy being miserable.

No it's not "who I am" but I am also practical and reasonable when it comes to the opposite sex. These days, in 2021, chicks be nuts. LOL

the fuck? I hope you're talking about the thread/institution of marriage rather than me specifically

there are a lot of words that are fair to place upon me. wanton, smarty pants, she who possesses exquisite taste in reggaeton, jezebel, etc etc

miserable def isn't one. you know you know that =p

Only in the best way. :thumbsup

People enjoy being miserable within marriage . . . just take a look at the soccer (sports) thread(s) :1orglaugh:1orglaugh.

You're not miserable, you're miraculeuse :winkwink: . . .

well obviously :upsidedow :winkwink:

you don't need a bad marriage to love ManU and Barca, but gracias for clarifying. nuff love to ya



(will stop posting this track the day my heart stops beating)

The husband has no right to his wife's earnings as well as the wife to her husband's earnings.

What country do you live in? Try that argument in divorce court.
:1orglaugh:1orglaugh:1orglaugh

Is the old man a widower or never married?

If there is my and yours money there is no marriage.

Sooner or later it will blow. Its normally salaries to ve different in the family

If there is my and yours money there is no marriage.

Sooner or later it will blow. Its normally salaries to ve different in the family

Well, smart men know there is Your money, Our money and MY money. :)