| Furious_Female |
10-09-2003 01:43 PM |
I'm offended! Actually I'm really not... :1orglaugh
There's tons of hypocrites in the world, you just need to know the difference.
My story: Other than being a child and depending on my parents, I never expected and depended on anyone financially. I never looked for rich guys, their financial status never appealed to me. Money does not make the man.
However, some people might confuse gold diggers with people that gravitate to higher levels. Often enough money means POWER. Power includes security and respect that you do not get from being in the average blue collar world. If women can support themselves financially, they might want someone on their own level. It might not even be purposely sought after, like water seeks its own level... So do women. The opposite is true for men. When they have money, toys etc they need the last trophy to compliment it all, a beautiful woman on their arm or in many cases, a harem to validate that they have "arrived" at the top of the food chain.
Of course, there are just as many MALE gold diggers. I have seen countless times, guys who are with chicks because the chicks support them or because the girl's daddy is loaded. It's an ancient tradition if you think about it. In history doweries were often presented before marriage, the wealthier girls got the better husbands etc.
I have NO interest in a guy because he is rich. I AM interested in HOW he became rich and if or not that makes him an interetsing person. What kind of car a guy drives or how big his house is, never crosses my mind. I don't claim to be an independent woman, because if I fell in love with someone who happens to have billions of dollars, I wouldn't want to keep working if I didn't have to. I'd do better things for charity and humanity, that I can't do now, because I don't have the time etc. But that's just a "what if" scenario lol. Anyway... the only thing that makes a man appealing to me is his intelligence, personality, his ambition, his goals, his level of maturity, his values and morals etc. Money and looks are last on my list, but I do expect the man to have a job and/or try any way possible to make money. As long as he has the drives and puts his energy to use finding a way to contribute to a relationship or future relationship financially, that's acceptable to me. Men with no ambition or expectations for their lives, are a turn off.
So like it was said, maybe you are just hanging around women that want a free ride. You can't complain really. If you are with women based solely on their looks and do not know what they do, what they expect and what they want before you get involved... that is your own fault. If you want someone who is beautiful AND makes financial provisions for herself and would continue to do so, go to where these women are. 9 times out of 10 you will not find a woman that doesn't use men in less professional atmospheres. Business women at Internext is not the same as a drunk girl at a club, staking out the men with the bling bling. :winkwink:
If all you expect is sex and beauty from a woman, expect her to only want BLING BLING from you :BangBang: :ak47:
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