It might be the alchohol talking, but I think you're right bro!

It's kind of one of those "you're damned if you do, damned if you don't" type deals. If you don't know, you're curious, and when you do know it bothers you. I guess you could also call that a catch22?

All of my bf's asked that question sooner or later. Too late, I realized they didn't really want the truth. I was all about being honest and communicative, and all they wanted to hear was how every other guy was awful and creepy and a blundering idiot and I was still as pure as the driven snow.

I don't ask "Does this dress make me look fat?" if I don't want the TRUTH. Don't ASK if you don't want to KNOW.

If you already know, deal with it. Be thankful she told you the truth and has nothing to hide from you.

:thumbsup :)

Because you have a y chromosome.

its all good bro, alcohol helps.

I been dealin with it for 4 months and it was so shitty at first that I started fuckin up in school. All I can say is that if u think this chick is worth it then stay with her. Atleast u are getting this outta the way early. All chicks have baggage and shit and its just something u gotto deal with. If you start feelin funny, drink, hang out with yer friends or just do something to keep your mind occupied and trust me u will get over this with time.

No. It means she only has Xs.

And hey, if you can't forget her, then at least you're halfway to a good case of alcoholism. It's all good! :thumbsup

Lesson learnt, forget the past :thumbsup

My gf doesn't care about my x's

I guess its due to the fact that chicks care more about emotional attachments while we get all worked up over the physical things they did

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I bet if you had two, she would. ;-}

hehe

I guess something good did come out of this... a two page thread! woohoo!!! lol..

It's also the randomness, and places where her enounters took place that bug me.
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Like what???

You're not supposed to talk about ex's or other sex partners with your new g/f - b/f.


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she's not my *new* girlfriend, we've been together about 5 months, and "seeing each other" for at least 4=5 months before that

You still don't talk about it. I don't talk to Turboface about other people I've been with because it's in bad taste.

:thumbsup

A washroom at a baseball game... :(

She had sex in washroom at a baseball game? Wow see if you hadn't talked about it you wouldn't know and you your tummy wouldn't feel sick.


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not intercourse, but yeah... was her first time "getting any" too. I remember the first time I went down on her I made it the most special experience in the world... candles lit, a back massage with oils and all. A very romantic experience. At the time she said she has never been with anyone else... Now I don't know what to believe.

... I took it so slow for nothing! lol j/k.

Awww that was nice of you, but I still think you would have been better off not knowing that don't you?

That's why I think people shouldn't talk about what they did with other people.

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I have to say instead of seeking advice from the masses here at GFY why not discuss it with the girl in question. I'm glad my hubby is not insecure about his sexual prowess ..
who really gives a fuck whats in someones sexual past unless you havent been practicing safe sex or had your HIV tests...you should worry about the present and the future..the past is the past.:2 cents:

imo GFY is a great vent, a lot of smart people who give good advice hang around here :) . Of course I'll talk to her about it, but in the middle of the night GFY is pretty much your only outlet....

A washroom at a baseball game...
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Well that doesn't seem so bad. I mean, I understand why it bothers you . . . but from a third party perspecive, it is just something that happened. It probably wasn't "random." I bet it was with someone she knew really well. You can't hold it against her. In fact . . . I am thinking that you might consider her honesty to be proof of how much she cares about you!

I asked an ex about this sort of thing. She couldn't tell me to my face. She ended up calling me and telling me.

Was it really that bad?

understandable :glugglug

Was it really that bad?
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She was just embarrassed. I liked the fact that she was honest about a prior relationship . . . but it was something I thought about.

Think about this . . . any girl could just lie to you and say whatever you want to hear. In fact, I think it is rare that a girl loves you enough to be completely honest with you (about that).

When you do discuss past sex partners, it helps your current partner know what he/she has to do to match up. :winkwink:

"Loves you enough"?!? I'm greedy. If the guy isn't doing what it takes to get me off, I sure let him know. :boid

"Loves you enough"?!? I'm greedy. If the guy isn't doing what it takes to get me off, I sure let him know.
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But do you tell him all the "nasty" truth abut the past???

oh trust me I can please her! hehe :winkwink:

The problem is not so much what she did before, but obviously how you are handling it is not making you happy. Have you discussed this with her and what was her reaction?

It's also largely due the fact that I honestly thought I was the ONLY guy that ever touched her, and it was kind of a shock when I found out she had such a wild experience (well for her at least). It seemed so out of character with her.

Maybe you can't accept the fact that you've met someone who lives like you and actually fell for anyway!

did you tell her about all your wild experiences?

yep! but she knew everything about me early in the relationship... especially since I've been with a couple of her friends/aquaintences, lol.

Can you please expand on that? I don't quite understand :)

Maybe you're jealous? :2 cents: