You didn't ask a question about a girlfriend. You made a statement. Just like you didn't ask a question in this post except my age (22). You just made a few statements. LOL.

What you said is pretty much true. What exactly is your question?

my only question is how do you deal with it...

and to be more precize - would you want to settle down once and have a normal family etc? if yes, and if you're not in a serious relationship now, then aren't you afraid you wont find the right person?

shit, i feel uncomfortable asking such questions, it sucks that ASM quoted my original post about you, before I edited it !

:)

For me it is a new type of pain that can not be even associated with what people assume to be pain. As most should know pain is really just a mental state, it does not really exist where the injury is. Though if you treat the effected area your brain compensates and knows to adjust it some.
Well for me when I hurt an area I can not feel some of the impulses still make it through to my brain to alert my it that there was an injury (sometimes it just makes one up by the way). Well my brain turns on the pain to let me know something hurts. Well it has no real idea how bad the injury really is so it over compensates and to add insult to injury it sends the pain signals elsewhere. It also has no way for me to sooth the pain at the point of injury.
So in essence I get to just ride out the pain until my brain forgets about it, which can can a long time. Or on the freak chance that my brain suddenly decided to make up pain for its own reason (no injury) it lasts much longer.

I've got some questions too:

ASM/Sly,

do you think you could beatdown an able bodied person in a fight and win?

is there an UFC for people in wheelchairs?

honestly, does the chair attract the chicks?

ever meet a girl who had a wheelchair fetish? think there is one?

do you hate it/get annoyed when people ask to push you around?

do you prefer motorized or manual wheelchairs?

I don't really want a girlfriend so it isn't an issue for me. And honestly, I haven't the slightest idea if it would be "difficult" or not. I've never tried or cared.
I think most people want to "settle down" at some point in their life. My thought is... when it happens, it happens. I don't really believe in rushing things.

Am I afraid I won't find the "right person"? That's kind of a strange question. Aren't YOU afraid you won't find the "right person"? This question pretty much applies to everyone. Look at how many people get divorced these days. Those are cases of not finding the right person.

These questions rule.

I could probably break a toe or foot I suppose. But then they could flip me over. Game over!

No idea about UFC, but the other day I saw something about rugby. Thought that sounded pretty crazy.

Does the chair itself attract chicks? No, but my sly charm and amazing good looks do.

Never met anyone with a wheelchair fetish though there are plenty of people that love to care for others. So yeh, I'm sure it exists.

I need people to push me around so I don't care. One of my friends always says "I like hanging out with you because I get to push you around all I want!" Ha.

I have manual. Couldn't get a power to work properly for me and I really don't care to look anymore into it right now.

ok some dirtier questions , sorry but i gotta ask while the op presents itself..

Can you feel yourself piss ? shit ? colostomy bag ?

When you tickle your feet does anything happen . like in your head maybe.. The nerves must still exist right ?

How do you feel about stem cell research.

Do you think a non-paralyzed person could ever beat a pralyzed person at a wheelchair race :) ?

I think this was to sly, though I will also answer.

I am 33 and will turn 34 this month.

I have had girl friends for the most part ever since I was about 15. I think there was a stint between 17 and 18 where I did not have one.

I can tell you that yes there are a lot of superficial people in the world. I also can assure you that there are many who consider other aspects well ahead of anything superficial. Many women are indeed turned on by intellegence, humor, compassion, strength, and interest in life. Unfortunatly not many people actually really enjoy what life has to offer as much as they should and they do not understand this until parts are taken away. I can show someone such interest and joy in things that many can not even fathom. It is just something that comes out and others feel it.
I can tell you though that many if not most women put compassion and other elements way above physical attirbutes when it comes to thinking about whom to settle down with.

:thumbsup :thumbsup i have noticed that wheelchair dudes always get the babes, so you def have something there :)

I never thought of that

Muhahaha

Could I beatdown an able bodies person in a fight and win? Honestly yes but not everyone. Lets just say if you do fight me make damn sure I do not get a grip on you at any point and pull you to the ground. Regardless though if a fight takes place between an able bodied person and a person in a wheelchair the dissabled person already has won before a single blow has taken place. It is a lose lose situation for the abled bodied person.
Lets say you beat the fuck out of me, well whoopie doo you beat up a person in a wheelchair, lets hope nobody saw it or there may be a group beating on you. Then on the flip side, you get in a fight with a person in a wheelchair and they beat you, well shit you just got your ass kicked by a gimp. I sure in hell hope nobody saw that either.

I do not think there is a UFC for people in wheelchairs, though may I suggest you watch some indoor basketball. I think Bravo or the learning chanel has a special on this month called murder ball, check it out.

The chair may not attract the chicks but it puts them at ease. Now the story on the other hand well :winkwink:

Yes and yes.

Fuck no, push me around. I get tired all the time and I am not gunna turn down a free ride.

I prefer manual for day to day life and motorized when traveling or in hotels etc.

I have a confession to make: I have pushed Sly's chair in a club in order to attract chicks...

I can not feel myself piss, though I know when I need to, same goes with shitting. Though it is a little different cause then I feel some.
Colostomy bag, dear gawd no.
Tickling is all mental man. Very little to do with nerves. Try it, nobody can tickle themselves. Now to answer the underlying question. You may get a reaction if you stimulate the nerves and this usually results in a spasm of some sort. Yes the nerves are still there but in my case they are short circuited or dead ends when it reaches the spinal cord in an attempt to reach the brain. Some have found detours or other routes and some just do not get there ever. Like I can still feel hot and cold somewhat but not how hot or cold. Or I could bend my foot funny and end up with an ache in my lower chest.

I am all for stem cell research and what it can do for future injuries. I know I typically would never be a candidate since most or all results will be applied primarly to resent injuries. Those that are against it just need to wake the fuck up. Either we use the tissue or we destroy it. If you value life so bad then surely you would not want it destroyed right?

Umm that really would depend. There is a lot to be said for general arm strength, but even more for understanding the basics of driving a chair at any significant speed. Then few people really develop their triceps much and that is where the strength comes from when pushing.

I'm not paralyzed, so ASM's answers will differ.

I think one of the best feelings in the world is a good piss after a night of drinking.

Sure, it tickles.

I am for stem cell research for the most part, though I do have a few concerns, which I won't get into here.

I don't really understand your question, but I do know that those wheelchair racing dudes are fucking fast.

One of my best friends is paralyzed from the waist down and I'm always afraid to ask questions and they always begin "no offense but..."

She actually just had a baby and they took blood from the umbilical cord and had it stored so she can possibly use it later ... stem cell all the way baby!!

Get into it :winkwink:

He was asking if a normal person was to sit in a chair could they beat a chair bound person in a wheelchair race.

On the flip side, I could bet good money that I could beat anyone in a race with me in my chair and them running on a flat course if I could pick the location, have a 3 foot head start and there was no touching allowed. Manual chair as well.

Here's what I think.....


























MOO!
http://www.rochardsbunnyranch.com/rock/cow.jpg

No offense but...
Can I ask you a personal question...
I know it is none of my business...

If you here any of those lines just begin your story before they finish the damn question. It is always the same.

Here's what I think.....


























MOO!
http://www.rochardsbunnyranch.com/rock/cow.jpg

Yes, you did it to me yesterday, LOL. Chris does the same thing.

That cow has a sexy nose, Makes me wanna penetrate it.

just a q but whats your reason for needing a wheelchair?

We covered that already. To stare at chicks tits all the time.

Oh and at shows the girls ask for rides, its pretty fun.

I've stopped doing it. She's the same damn person as everyone else ... I know, I know!

Muscular Dystrophy.

And the tit thing.

Do you ever have a problem with people stealing from you when you fly? Twice when my husband, who was in a wheelchair most of the time towards the end, he had something stolen from him by the people that help you on and off the plane. The first was when we went to the vegas convention a few years ago and some guy on the cleaning crew that came in while we were wating to get off insisted on helping him off and then his wallet was missing. The airline then claimed there wasn't a cleaning crew that serviced that plane and more or less refused to look into it.

Sly suggested getting a chain to attach his wallet to and he did start doing that.

No, I said this will sound rude ... LOL and it probably did! Haha ...

By the way if people have not noticed, anyone can ask questions. I am in an open mood today.

Great thread and it answers a lot of questions that people are usually scared to ask.
My grandmother was on a wheelchair for as long as I can remember, she fell walking down the street and they operated her for something small but ended in a major disaster. I spent most of my childhood taking care of her, she was my real life Barbie growing up because I would dress her up and play with her all the time. This thread brought up great memories as she passed away 6 years go. The spasms and the bruises from sitting all the time are the worst part but life goes on and you adapt.
I have a friend who was paralyzed since birth and he got married a few years back and had a son last year.
Nobody said life would be easy in any situation, you just have to adapt and fuck whoever does not like it.

I hate to fly and do it as little as possible. Had this issue once where I ended up in one state and my chair ended up in another. Plus I have so much shit I need to bring with me that I NEED and can not easily replace without prescriptions.
Yes I have had stuff stolen before though, there is no limit to the lows of human depravity.

I watch my stuff like a hawk. Chain works good, but better yet I just give it to somebody else to hold. If there's a chick around, purse is perfect.

I tried that before and it always ended up with expensive legal bills and getting charged, stupid consent laws.

hahaha well the best is ignore them and laugh at how ignorant some people are. I lived it very close and i heard the stupid comments and the OMG looks every time we went out.

Kudos to the both of you for being willing to openly answer so many questions about something so sensitive. I have to admit I've always been very curious about a few things asked here (actually, all the Q's Smokey asked lol).

Since I personally don't know anyone in a chair, it's not exactly something I can ask some stranger in the street: "Hey buddy, I'm just curious. Can you feel your penis? Are you able to jerk off?" lol Ya know?

So even though my curiosities have already been filled and I have no more Q's, thanks for laying it all out there. :)

Yeah, US Airways essentially broke his chair on the internal leg of our flight and nobody would look into that either. Pretty hard to be in a different country with a broken chair and no money because they stole your wallet.

I think the thing that annoyed me the most on his behalf was people talking to me instead of him when we were both there. Especially when the question was about him. It was the assumption that because his legs didn't work very well that his brain must be hindered too. In reality he was the smartest person I have ever known.

I have my own way of dealing with certain people. One just master the ability to totally tard out. That alone is super priceless.
Nothing like hearing someone at like Costco make a stupid comment and then following them through the store making wierd arm and face gestures and yelling out items they pick up. "Toilet paper, yea!" and clapping.

Yeh, that depends on where in the country you are. I grew up exactly like that. I was shocked when I moved to California, people actually spoke to me!

Those are the type of people that get my super special tard treatment. Want to see someone treat you a whole lot different at customer service. Tard out on them real loud. " Oh no! No! he touched my winkie! no, not good, 911 911"

Which brings me to ask - 'Timmy!' ..funny or annoying?