We already established she needs meds. That is without a doubt. I'm also speaking for myself. Sometimes the meds work and sometimes, it's that time of the month and they lack. I understand my condition, so, for ME!!!, communication works and sex makes it more intense (not necessarily a good thing.) Because you have all those emotions already on the wire that are very mixed. It is a condition that can be manage as long as she is seeking medical attention and getting conventional therapy. Taking meds everyday around the same time helps regulate the mood swings. She may need a mood stabilizer as well. Too many meds can make her feel numb. Been there. Nothing worse than the feeling of simply existing or depression.

OK ... not to sound like a total asshole .. but i was married to a "Bipolar" woman .. and it was easily the biggest mistake i have ever made.. depending on the level of the illness .. it can be just way to much for someone to deal with ... if it can be managed by medication ... valproic acid and other easy to manage meds .. then there might be a chance .. but in my own personal opinion .. if it is not being managed now .. don't try and "save her" .. don't stay with her because someday she will be better .. I had 2 kids with her and I actually had to removed her from the house the day my son at the time was 6 and he said " Dad .. i am sad .. i think i want to go drown myself in the pool" .. he was learning from her behavior how she dealt with things .. I know this sounds harsh .. sorry I lived 7 years in the most self destructive relationship because I kept thinking any day now they will have a cure .. I was wrong .. it's an unbelievably difficult disease to live with as the patient .. and 100 times worse as the partner .. if your gonna stay .. go to doctors appointments ..councilors .. psychiatrists .. etc.... and read and learn as much as you can about it .. but like i started saying .. I couldn't do it and I would never recommend it to anyone .. sorry ...and I do apologise to any and everyone with this disorder .. this has just been my experience ..

Dear God you are right on the money with that! You ain't seen PMS until you've seen BP/BPD PMS! :uhoh

so you come to this place to get advice?

hmmmmmmm...sounds so generic though...never thought it was a real condition

who hasn't dated a bipolar girl? lol

Personally I have not, but a very close friend of mine has, and I have seen it all. Not a good idea, Bi-Polar just doesnt have Anything good to come with it..

No i have never date a bipolar girl

Maybe he doesn't know anyone who's had personal exp. dealing with bipolar... I mean if he did I think he'd B talkin to them don't U???

i am bipolar and man if i miss my meds or do not go to my therapist often enough i am a son of a bitch to get along with i know this because i am 5 years into my diagnosis and well lets just say i have read every book on the market that describes bipolar and deals with the issues i'm sure my wife could tell you how to deal with someone bipolar :)

I've dated a bipolar guy who was borderline schitzophrenic to boot. That's not exactly fun either.

I once dated a bipolar woman in New Jersey. The thing that really pissed me off is that she would constantly use it as a crutch to justify her bullshit. I'm bipolar too, but I never ever use it as a crutch, my actions are my actions regardless of what I do or what's wrong with my head.

still think its a made up condition... just some people have those personality traits and others dont

Naw... its just as real as phsicotic episodes & other well documented mental disorders

Very well put.

I had very similar experiences with my ex-girlfriend. Initially I was trying to 'save her' too, but it finally got to the point where I had to say, "If you're not willing to deal with this and work through this problem together with professional help, I'm out of here." She made her choice and I made mine.

As hard as it's been not to be with her anymore I'm glad I made that decision before we had children together.

I hope everything works out for you bro.

I dated a bipolar girl for 6 years even tried to marry her this may come off harsh if she isn't working on finding the right combination of meds the get out while you can

yeah, never met a bi-polar girl but know several girls who have dated a bipolor dude... As Chopper Boy said get her on some good meds and things should get better. Just brain chemistry. good luck...

Just made a call on your behalf to a friend experienced in such matters and she said to try to get her on Depakote. She said you should see results within days. :) If she does not want to seek treatment you may have to cut ties for your own happiness. :2 cents:

I think that my girlfriend is bi-polar to a centain extent. I guess here, all you have to do, isto decide for yourself whether you wish to put up with her mood-change and be together or split up and go separate ways :winkwink: