you have it bang on.
Also real friends dont sugar coat things to you, if you look like shit.they tell you.

A casual friend will help you move a couch and a real friend will help you move a body.

That's probably as good a definition as I've ever heard. :thumbsup

I'd only add that they feel your losses as if they were their own, as well.

Real friends are people who can handle their own shit and rarely have issues that they want to spew out on you. They are financially stable and never ask for anything.

Anyone that calls me when my computer is turned off....

Read this carefully.....the best thing said in this thread so far, IMO...... :thumbsup


--T

So, John Gacy's friends were right in defending his actions?

Come on, Lloyd...it said something "stupid", not something criminal. Take the comment in the spirit in which it was intended.

--T

Provided they're defending _me_, and not my stupid actions (I don't want anyone promoting stupidity in my name)... and provided they also pull me aside and say "you know, you did something stupid"... that's a quality in a true friend, sure.

I think that too many people don't make that distinction, though, and think that being a friend means defending your friend's actions, even when you think they might be wrong. That's not a friend, imho... that's codependency.

I agree 100%. My point was a true friend will not sit around with your other friends and gossip about your stupid actions, like so many have a tendency to do. They will become part of the solution and not part of the problem.

I can understand how my point could be misconstrued..it was not my intent...I should have been more clear.


--T

A true friend is someone who is still your friend even though you no long pay him a paycheck Steve....

I miss you and if you ever need me I'm a phone call away!

It was an extreme example I know and probably influenced by the fact that most of the truly stupid things my friends have done were criminal.

The point I was getting at is that if we are really true friends, I can tell you when you have done something stupid and you won't expect me to back you anyway.

I think part of the problem is that people are equating "real" life with the "board" life.

In this business you don't know who your REAL friends are. People will lead you to believe that they are your friend but when all is said and done, most of them will fuck you over in a heartbeat if they think that they can get ahead. Your best bet is to trust no one.

You looking for some new friends Steve?

Ass to mouth.

READ THIS:


I promise you.... You may think you have maybe 4 best friends... maybe 1 off them is a real friend... if even that.


Ive known hundreds of people... i go out in town and i "know" half the town...
BUT, i dont have any real friends. I have some close ones but they are not 100%...

Example: last couple of years i spend a lot of time with a group of 4 guys, ... i was the "new" guy in the group and those 3 were like THE best friends, their view anyway... but when the others were not around they all have something bad to say about the others, How they hate that, and blabla he is so fucking annoying. He got so fuckin ugly teeth, etc...
and you know talk shit and laughing at the others flaws n shit., telling the others secrets and stuff... When i stopped drinking i stopped hanging out with those guys... and they are still "best friends" with each other... strange you may think... BUT IVE SEEN THIS IN EVERY GROUP OF FRIENDS I EVER ENGAGED.... and ive had so many interests so i always had "friends" in different type of groups... and ive seen so much shit between FRIENDS... that i dont think the type of BEST FRIEND some people in this thread are describing exists...

YOU MAY SAY YOU HAVE A BEST FRIEND, BUT THINK ABOUT IT, BE HONEST TO YOURSELF, IS THAT PERSON REALLY A BEST FRIEND?... many people live with denial with this... cause they really dont wanna see the BEST FRIEND that they had for 10-20 years for what he/she really is... they just feel glad they have a best friend and neglect every bad shit about them. BUT HEY... thats human.





And almost EVERYONE talk shit... i honestly only known 1 guy, that NEVER said a bad word of anyone of his friends. If other people talk shit about someone he doesnt say anything, and he is the only one i could share a secret with and really trust him not telling anyone.
Too bad that alcohol and videogames is his biggest passion in life... cause that shit drags you down

Exactly! What I meant, and what I think you meant, is if I did something stupid from criminal to drank too much and said something stupid or whatever, they will defend my honor and then of course be honest to my face and slap me around haha

Thank you girl! :thumbsup

YOU are SO SEXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXYYYYYYYYYYYY:winkwink:

Most people want their friends to lie, agree with them when they are wrong, and tell them they are always right. If you truly mean "look past them" as in be able to deal with them, accept them, be ok with them, etc thats pretty cool of you. If you mean tell you "its not you" then you are like everyone else. :2 cents:

Thank you sir, I just love to cuddle up to you and kiss! I can feel you right now, so cozy! :wetkiss

I consider myself very fortunate and have some very good old friends and some good new friends. They are the ones who are there when things are going well and when they suck. We will do each other favors w/o being asked and w/o expecting anything in advance. "What do you need?" is asked long before "I need this." is even mentioned.

And they'll tell you your ass looks big in those pants and help you find a pair that make it look smaller ;)

I also agree with what Loryn said about those who are willing to not "go with the crowd" and bad mouth you when others are.

I feel very blessed with my friends - some I've had since I was in grade school and some just within the last few years.

I disagree. That's called "loyalty" ... it may be a positive trait of a real friend, but not what defines a real friend. A REAL friend WILL call you out on your actions regardless of the consequences. A real friend is someone who wants to see your growth over their self serving interests.

Someone who is NOT a real friend is usually just hanging around to see what value they can extract from you or the relationship. A sure fire way to spot them is the way they try to make nice of every situation as to not upset or jeopardize the relationship.

:2 cents:

My True Friends ...

No matter the distance, or time apart - I know when we meet again, the years will melt away.

:liebe028:

Bingo. True friends don't need to be reassured.

I agree.

Many years ago one of my female friends who had moved "back home" to Montana suddenly announced she was getting married. When I finally had the chance to meet him I was stunned - He was overweight, not attractive, had no job, and no future. He was nothing more than a funny drunk; He got off the plane and was hammered. I was the only one who spoke up and said anything. My wife and I were asked to be in the wedding party; My wife was a bridesmaid and I declined.

Six months later she suddenly showed up on my doorstep without warning, saying she needed help. She needed to put her life back together while she filed for divorce.

A true friend will tell you the truth instead of sugarcoating things.

BTW.... The chick I'm taking about ended up getting married to a great guy, and I am her son's Godfather.

Steve you just made me realize I have no friends lol

For me it's pretty easy to know who are my real friends.

They are a few, select individuals.

They are the ones I can talk the real things with, and I can also bullshit with.

They are the one that are there for me... and don't talk in my back when I fuck up.

I can count on them when I am not there and need something done...

They never ask to borrow money for me.

They are the ones that will call you, just to chill... not just call you when they need something.

Anyways, I only have 2-3 REAL buddies and they are pretty easy to know... you just know it, it clicks, you trust them and there's no bullshit...

Now friends that like to party and shit.. I might have 50-100 of those... but it's not the same thing.

If you cant count your real friends on one hand you are indeed a forunate pearson

I guess anyone that is still friends with you right now would definitely be a friend.

why must you bump every asinine thread produced by this asshat? jesus.

they are the ones you let into the weird jokes?

stop calling jesus an asshat.

I find it quite amusing.

Friends, there are no friends...

your real friends would tell you to close down all your sites because what you adult webmasters are doing is wrong, it causes hate in this world, it causes good girls to turn into whores because thats what men want now of days because they see these whores you guys pay and want their gf's to be whores as well.

https://gfy.com/showthread.php?t=1005251

True that

It is simple for me. The "friends" that I had used to call me for money or only when they needed something.
The only REAL friend that I have is always around when I need her. That means real friend for me :)
Simple