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Originally Posted by GetNaughty (Post 16214166)

I am 43 and my 23 year old wife had a baby 2 yrs ago. I never thought I'd have another but he is the best!

:thumbsup

I think alot of guys would make better fathers starting in their 40's than in their 20's :2 cents:

As long as the baby is healthy, thats all that matters

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Originally Posted by JamesK (Post 16212449)

Well, who are we to decide at what age people can have a kid? I think age pretty much equals wisdom so if she decides to become a mother at her 40's that's perfectly fine.

:) yea I'm 41 and already a mother. When this came up the other night, I thought about if I could do it all over again from the beginning now...still thinking about that.

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Originally Posted by ShellyCrash (Post 16212987)

I have two close friends who were late in life "surprises" when their parents didn't think they could still have kids, as was my fiancee, and I was primarily raised by my grandparents. We are all very well adjusted.

Personally, having a very young mother, I think older adults make better parents.

I feel, especially in today's society, haivng a child in your 40's is pretty acceptable. The only thing that concerns me with older mothers is the risk of down syndrome. Once you pass 50 then new issues are raised, such as can a 70 year old adequately parent an adolescent / teenager, or life expectancy - will the parent reasonably be around long enough to see the child through to adulthood.

I can see where you are coming from. But I can see a 70 year old adequately parenting in the teen years if they taught and nurtured them from birth. It comes down to the parenting from day 1 which will mold the relationship in the formative and teen years.

70 year old's may not have the physical strength but the one thing they have is wisdom and life experience in having already lived that long. And paying that forward is a strength to pay forward more than a physical strength. It's about having lived in mind and spirit, not just body. That is nurturing from more than just physically keeping up.

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Originally Posted by The Adult Broker (Post 16216199)

What about the insecurity the teen would live with knowing that its only a matter of time before their parent dies? Not to mention possible stays in hospitals, etc. Life expectancy is only 74 for women you know.

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Originally Posted by BlackCrayon (Post 16216700)

it's always only a matter of time for all of us :2 cents:

all the best to her and her family. very happy news that she shouldn't let anyone spoil.

My mom had a baby a few years ago at 42, doctors told her it was a bad idea and risky and stuff... She did miscarry the year earlier, but she tried again and now I've got a healthy brother 24 years younger than me.

my mom is 46 and im 24 if thats any constellation...granted she was 22 when she gave birth to me, and no i wasnt an accident, very much planned =]

I think it's pretty asinine for anyone to pass judgment one way or the other. It's her life, it's her body, she can do whatever the fuck she wants.
FTR I think the baby will be much better off with a mom that's 43 than one who's 23, or 13.

The only exceptions to the "pass judgment is asinine" rule for me would be something like Octomom....where she intentionally has an assload of special needs kids that you and I have to pay for.....but even that's a slippery slope type of thing.

:2 cents:

well, I'm planning on having a kid when I'm 50 and nothing is gonna stop me (apart from that dude up there)

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Originally Posted by Antonio (Post 16229855)

well, I'm planning on having a kid when I'm 50 and nothing is gonna stop me (apart from that dude up there)

:thumbsup:thumbsup all the best!

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Originally Posted by Horny Joe (Post 16212251)

People should shut up! They was blessed with another kid, that is fantastic! Congratulations to them!

People have been using the word blessed like it was ketchup on fries. To be blessed is to have God move heaven and earth for you, not after you sneezed (please save your etymologies for this expression for another thread).

Can't disagree with Horny Joe on this one. They were indeed blessed. Congrats to them!