Thanks *******. I try to be. :thumbsup

Sorry to hear about your loss.

I'm really sick of loss. Father, mother, all grandparents, friends. One brother who chose to leave and lose contact for decades, might as well have chosen to be treated as dead.

People say that time heals all wounds. I think what they mean is that you can wait forever for time to heal a wound, but bear in mind that time never ends.

I am sorry to hear of your loss. My only tip is to let yourself cry and freak out and do all the you are feeling you need to do. You said you aren't sad for yourself? You are *allowed* to be sad for yourself. It doesn't mean you aren't sad for him or his family too. It isn't selfish to be sad and to cry and feel your own pain at a loss. Trust me, it will find away out some way or another if you try to push it down. Let it happen now rather than let it happen years down the line when support systems have vanished.

Sorry to hear of your loss, Shelley.
The best way to cope is just keep the memories fresh and let the tears flow. Put on a cd of his favorite band and just let loose with everything...

Shelly, I am so sorry for your loss. Everyone deals with grief differently, do not be afraid to express your emotions. May you and Tim's family find comfort in each other during this difficult time.

RIP Tim

Dont Mourn his Death. Celebrate his life. Have a party and talk about it. That way he remains with you

Sorry about your friend. It does suck that we have to die.

Death isn't always a bad thing, maybe he truly has gone to a better place. I like to think so. Good luck though, I know it's hard I lost a friend to suicide and have seen death in front of me from a car wreck. Neither where even close to easy to deal with

We've done a few things to try and get closure / celebrate his life.

One of the things he used to do which I always thought was pretty bad ass was whenever he would get Long John Silvers he would share it with his cat. Also we shared a passion for IBC so we did kind of a celebratory / rememberance dinner of LJS and IBC, and I bought some just for our kitties (I picked all the breadding off).

We also set up a "Guardian Angel" account with a privately funded cat shelter in his name, so we pay a monthly fee to keep one of their special needs cats cared for and supplied with food and medicine.

I'll probably also get a tattoo, I don't really do names but I'll get a little something something for him as I've done for all my loved ones that have passed.

For me work is always the best therapy. Been doing some pretty intensive stuff for a new feature that hopefully we'll be rolling out here in the next few days. I'm greatful that work has always been there when I've needed it, that I work in a space that allows me to utlize so many parts of my brain, both analytical and creative, I know it may sound weird to some folks but seriously I really do love what I do, and when I need to, I really can let it envelop me because there really is always something else to work on or create.

...condolences

I am sorry for your loss Shelly. I have had a relative die suddenly and without warning. It is still hard to imagine he is really dead even after several years.

I'm very sorry to hear of your loss.

So sorry, also so strange that he knew he was dying.
My condolences to you and the family.

Sorry to hear about the loss of a good friend Shelly.

I lost 2 good friends also a lil over 2 weeks ago within 36hrs of each other. 1 in a motorcycle accident. I saw him about 35 minutes before he went down and all he could talk that night about was how good life was going for him and his wife (Just purchased a new house and horse farm in Nor Cal) and then the next afternoon another life long friend laid down for a nap and never woke up. He did have health and breathing issues that were known.

I don't think it ever gets easier loosing a friend and I've lost a lot of them over the years. I just try my best to remember the good times, the laughs we shared and the punches we threw together.

Its a great loss, RIP.

My sympathies are with you and I am so sorry for your loss and I understand more than you might think. I am presently out of my mind as a Good Bud, a retired Kansas City, Kansas firefighter who beat cancer twice was yesterday felled by a major heart attack. He is like one of my Dad's best freinds and is in intensive care at KU Medical Center in critical condition.

He is also like a very close uncle or maybe even a big brother. He was often there when Dad could not be and has been a major influence on my life.

Death and illness comes to us all but it is never like in the movies.

You hang in there as I shall and we'll both come out of it and maybe wish the best for my Bud.

My thoughts are with you.

Sally.

My thoughts are with you.

My sister in law was killed in a car crash last wednesday on her way back home to TN from IN and the showing was today. We are completely devestated and just so thankful we had dinner and drinks the night before with her.

She did not deserve this as she was as good of a person as one can be and only 22 years old. Just graduated from a Christian college and was going to be a Christian family counselor and just an overall fantastic human being, sister, daughter, etc.

Well over 2000 people showed up to her showing today including the president of her school and a couple hundred classmates all driving up from Tennessee. Really hard times right now. Worst part of it all was she was up here for her grandpas funeral so her dad/my wifes dad have now lost his daughter and father all in a weeks time. So not right.

I'll be thinking of you aswell as you go through the healing process. Some things just dont seem fair.

RIP Shelly. :(

edit* Oh and my step father in laws brother flew in today for the showing and stepped off the plane only to check his messages and find out his son had a massive heart attacked and died last night. FFS when will it end?

People who say "Time heals all wounds" really mean you can't think about it when you are dead so in time you will surely stop thinking about the ones you've lost

They say you can get a pretty good idea what someone was like, even if you never knew them, by the quality of their friends. Sounds like he was a cool guy and one with a great sense of humor too.

Way, way too young to go.

I'm sorry for your loss Shelly.

Thanks for the kind words everyone. I really appreciate it.


Sorry to hear that, Sally. Hope he pulls through. When things calm down for you I'd love to catch up w/ you on ICQ, but whenever you have the time.

Today I got The Word....................................

My Bud has had a blockage removed and will be moved from the Heart Wing to ICU tomorrow and is making himself a major pain in the ass because he wants to go home!



I'll be on ICQ like Wednesday when I get caught up.

I am soooooooooo happy that I can barely see my keyboard.

Thank you for your kind reply.

He is also a Kraut like myself, so..............................

TO LARRY!



Here is the rest:



Sally.

Oh, well, fucked that up good and proper, so let's try it again!



Yes, I'm loaded!

The rest:



THERE!

Fixed that!

And now off to the local brewpub to fix ME!

Sally.

Well, DAd got wind of this and came over an took my keys and slapped me around (Not really! Just read me the Riot Act!) , telling me that I am to drunk to dirve and he's prolly right, so I am stuck here.

In the meantime, to Larry:



Yours in alcohol!

Sally.

Fucking kick ass. Nice to see some good news once in a while. :thumbsup

Just an update- crushed Tim's car a few days ago:

http://sphotos.ak.fbcdn.net/hphotos-..._7159141_n.jpg

It may seem strange to some, but it's really what he would have wanted and I think it was really cool of his dad to go along with it. Tim customized and built that car from the ground up, raced and competed with it frequently and would rather take it apart and put it in a dumpster then allow some "punk kid" to drive it.

Anyways... It's been over 3 months and still no report from the ME's office and still no official cause of death.

Just having a down night. Thought I would post an update but primarity I wanted to post this video. I don't know if it will work for everyone, but when I start to get depressed it kinda snaps me out of it and reminds me how silly and emo I'm being. No one I've lost who loved me would want to see me this way.