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dyna mo · 06-15-2015, 06:35 AM

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Originally Posted by aka123

Based on answers it is cultural thing to say thanks in Europe, in US it isn't.

that's one of the most inaccurate conclusions to make from this thread.

you're welcome.

Struggle4Bucks · 06-15-2015, 06:43 AM

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Originally Posted by Sly

I want to thank you, for calling me stupid, an idiot, and a moron. I would hate for you to think I have bad manners and not thank you for your wonderful comments.

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Originally Posted by lakerslive

you're not welcome

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Originally Posted by Sly

That's not very polite.

I take back my thank you.

I'm not even going to say goodbye!

aka123 · 06-15-2015, 06:49 AM

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Originally Posted by dyna mo

that's one of the most inaccurate conclusions to make from this thread.

you're welcome.

Thanks.

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Captain Kawaii · 06-15-2015, 06:53 AM

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Originally Posted by aka123

I have been taught to say thanks when getting up (or about to get) from the table. Or saying thanks if someone gives something to you, whether it is a dinner or someone hands a hammer to you (when hammering something).

Based on answers it is cultural thing to say thanks in Europe, in US it isn't.

Sad but true. US used to be like Europe and here, in Japan. Not anymore. In LA it is rare for a woman to say thinks or nod and smile when you open the door. Now they act like its your job or they are afraid. lol. Still, most polite area I found in US is still the southern US. Its on the wane but...

I had friends like the OP in LA. Dropped them for the shit they were. If they can't say thanks for a meal or just thanks for hanging out and buying drinks or being a gracious host then not much separates them from the monkeys at LA Zoo. Most people under 40 seem to have been raised by animals.

A 'thank you' is not for gratitude for having been given something. A 'thank you' is for showing the person giving you are grateful they are in your life, thought of you, and that you like being with them. No 'thank you' from someone means you are on toilet level to that person, a servant. No doubt their life is sad and pathetic though they do not get it...now.

dyna mo · 06-15-2015, 06:58 AM

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Originally Posted by aka123

Thanks.

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nicely done.

it's never accurate to make sweeping generalizations. like saying it's rare for a woman in the entire city of Los Angeles, population of 4 million people, to say thank you.

PR_Glen · 06-15-2015, 07:15 AM

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Originally Posted by Sly

I buy drinks and dinners regularly. Never expect a thank you. Don't care if I get one. I buy because I want to treat them.

yep, no thanks ever needed but always appreciated. For me the reward is in being able to cover a check for others more than any form of reciprocation. Even more so if I am the one cooking it.

Bladewire · 06-15-2015, 10:35 AM

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Originally Posted by PR_Glen

yep, no thanks ever needed but always appreciated.

Well said. Great way to sum it up 👍👾

TheSquealer · 06-15-2015, 10:42 AM

I've went to lunch and dinner many times with sly. I had to ask him if he or j ever once said thank you. We weren't sure. It's likely I did and he didn't because he is a dick and I am an angel. I don't look at it as showing appreciation between ruined but more an h written understanding between normal people that "we'll do it again, I'll get the next one" and that's that'.

TheSquealer · 06-15-2015, 11:10 AM

Haha damn autocorrect. Got a phone call and couldn't correct the post by the time it was done

Varius · 06-15-2015, 11:34 AM

Entitlement Generation.

Bryan G · 06-15-2015, 01:44 PM

I was raised to say thank you when someone does anything for me no matter how big or small. I raise my daughter with the same values. If it's too hard to say a simple "thank you for dinner" then I don't really know what to say lol.

CourtneyR · 06-15-2015, 01:48 PM

I would start hearing my mom in my head yelling " I raised you better then that" if I didn't say Thank you.

poncabare · 06-15-2015, 02:24 PM

rude for sure, takes 1 second to say thanks

TheSquealer · 06-16-2015, 08:52 AM

Should people be courteous and polite and respectful? Obviously yes. Should you do something for others, then throw a shit fit like a little girl because you didn't get the acknowledge TV you think your entitled to or deserve of wanted in the first place? No. To me, this thread and his behavior and immaturity betray his motivations when he invited people to dinner to begin with.

The Porn Nerd · 06-16-2015, 09:10 AM

Well here's something no one has brought up yet: if they were actual, real friends then I would talk to them about it.

SHOCKING!!

"Hey man, when I took you guys out to dinner the other night and no one said 'Thank you' it hurt my feelings. I took you all out because you're my friends and I like hanging out with you but I don't like to be taken for granted either. I'm not some rich baller who throws money around for attention or friendship. I just wanted you to know it kinda upset me to be treated so thoughtlessly."

Their reaction to that will tell you everything you need to know about who these people really are and how to treat them in the future.

Or, just move on and let it go. LOL

Sly · 06-16-2015, 09:13 AM

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Originally Posted by The Porn Nerd

Well here's something no one has brought up yet: if they were actual, real friends then I would talk to them about it.

SHOCKING!!

"Hey man, when I took you guys out to dinner the other night and no one said 'Thank you' it hurt my feelings. I took you all out because you're my friends and I like hanging out with you but I don't like to be taken for granted either. I'm not some rich baller who throws money around for attention or friendship. I just wanted you to know it kinda upset me to be treated so thoughtlessly."

Their reaction to that will tell you everything you need to know about who these people really are and how to treat them in the future.

Or, just move on and let it go. LOL

If I said that to my friends they would tell me to stop being a bitch and man up.

sperbonzo · 06-16-2015, 10:46 AM

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Originally Posted by lakerslive

Not 1 thank u was given.. would that bother u? they just say "aight, laters" or is it just me?

Lack of manners and rudeness speaks to character... You should re-evaluate the people that you consider "friends". I have friends that I have had my whole life, who are VERY close to me. We can say ANYTHING to each other, and we insult each other and give each other a ton of crap all the time, like good friends do.... but saying thanks for a favor like being treated for dinner is still basic to who they are as people.

Life is too short to waste on people who are rude like that.

Seriously.

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TheSquealer BANNED Industry Role: Join Date: Oct 2004 Location: In Your Head Posts: 25,083	Should people be courteous and polite and respectful? Obviously yes. Should you do something for others, then throw a shit fit like a little girl because you didn't get the acknowledge TV you think your entitled to or deserve of wanted in the first place? No. To me, this thread and his behavior and immaturity betray his motivations when he invited people to dinner to begin with.