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Carlito · 09-30-2003, 03:51 PM

Would it be BAD for me to pack my shit and disappear without telling any of my family, or best of all - my significant other?

I am so tired of dealing with stress, drama, and the mere fact of knowing that there is always someone that wants to talk to me or otherwise use my time.

I cannot leave the girl, because she will kill herself, but if I outright disappear she wont have any reason to feel guilty like... I didn`t like her because of *whatever* stupid fucking reason that most girls think a guy dont like them. I am by far the best thing that has ever happened to her, in terms of working out her depression from her childhood insanity, and paying ALL of her college bills, but I am tired of it. She wants to move in together and I dont want the headache. I just want to work on the internet without her making me feel guilty because I work in adult, and I just want to collect checks and be successful.

So, where do I run? Where can I get broadband and easily setup a life for around $4k - this is considering I dont eat into any funds that I NEED business wise.

Like I said, I can`t tell her anything without her feeling guilty, so I need to just move the fuck away and only take my computer and underwear.

This is my solution to suicide, run away from the BS and stop getting old so damn fast.

JDog · 09-30-2003, 03:53 PM

I do but I always reappear every couple months, when I want to

But I don't think there's anybad with that! But, why your family? I understand why you would leave the girl, but family?

jDoG

Carlito · 09-30-2003, 03:54 PM

Quote:

Originally posted by JDog
I do but I always reappear every couple months, when I want to But I don't think there's anybad with that! But, why your family? I understand why you would leave the girl, but family?

jDoG

They dont care anyway. I could return in 5 years but they dont have anything for me - maybe i`ll mail them a check once a month.

Carlito · 09-30-2003, 04:02 PM

btw --

One of the biggest issues is that her culture is mexican and they have so many fucking traditions that i dont want to deal with. FUCK Mexican culture unless you are not a hypocrite, she bends over for all their rules and none of them live by them ANYWAY.

Chris · 09-30-2003, 04:03 PM

head for the hills dont look back

Dusen · 09-30-2003, 04:06 PM

If you have no children involved, I would really reccomend you do it. It is YOUR life too, don't make your entire existance focused on her, if you are not happy then it's time to book out of there. If you feel she would seriously kill herself then that is a BAD PLACE to be for you. Noone needs that, I don't know really what to say.

JDog · 09-30-2003, 04:07 PM

Quote:

Originally posted by Carlito

They dont care anyway. I could return in 5 years but they dont have anything for me - maybe i`ll mail them a check once a month.

Dude, if they don't care, I would pack up m car, drive off and find a new place to live, and start my life all over!

jDoG

mrthumbs · 09-30-2003, 04:08 PM

Fix your problems, dont run from them.

You dont have to be a rocket scientist to know that sooner
or later problems will catch up anyway..multiplied.

JDog · 09-30-2003, 04:12 PM

Quote:

Originally posted by mrthumbs
Fix your problems, dont run from them.

You dont have to be a rocket scientist to know that sooner
or later problems will catch up anyway..multiplied.

Only if the girl tries to follow him, then he'll have a problem.

jDoG

GrimShawn · 09-30-2003, 04:12 PM

Quote:

Originally posted by mrthumbs
Fix your problems, dont run from them.

You dont have to be a rocket scientist to know that sooner
or later problems will catch up anyway..multiplied.

Carlito · 09-30-2003, 04:16 PM

I think its a great opportunity.

And its not really /running/ from the problem... just taking over my life and settling it.

Carlito · 09-30-2003, 04:17 PM

Quote:

Originally posted by JDog

Only if the girl tries to follow him, then he'll have a problem.

jDoG

She`d have to know where I went.

And I realize that someday things will find me... but it would be a hell of an adventure.

FUCKuPAYme · 09-30-2003, 04:20 PM

Quote:

Originally posted by mrthumbs
Fix your problems, dont run from them.

You dont have to be a rocket scientist to know that sooner
or later problems will catch up anyway..multiplied.

Its not his Problem its everyone around him.

I think you should just split and start over. don't let others bring you down, life is short live it for yourself not others.

I've moved many times to get away from people or life styles that brought me down. the only person who really cares about you is yourself and family.

See sig

Carlito · 09-30-2003, 04:21 PM

Quote:

Originally posted by FUCKuPAYme

Its not his Problem its everyone around him.

I think you should just split and start over. don't let others bring you down, life is short live it for yourself not others.

I've moved many times to get away from people or life styles that brought me down. the only person who really cares about you is yourself and family.

Your sig really reflects that - well said.

Carlito · 09-30-2003, 04:26 PM

Anyone want to reccomend good places to go? Countries maybe?

I am in California now - need a place with broadband.

FUCKuPAYme · 09-30-2003, 04:26 PM

Quote:

Originally posted by Carlito

Your sig really reflects that - well said.

Exactly cause i know where your coming from.

there are always people who will try to bring you down.
those are the people i stay away from.

Carlito · 09-30-2003, 04:28 PM

Quote:

Originally posted by FUCKuPAYme

Exactly cause i know where your coming from.

there are always people who will try to bring you down.
those are the people i stay away from.

Yeah - the main reason they bring me down is that I can`t work 18 hours a day 7 days a week, I have to make time for her.

This last weekend I didn`t do a single thing for four days.

Anyone that has known me for a while knows I did really well until 2003 - and thats when I met her, december of last year - ever since then I have basically gone broke.

uranidiot · 09-30-2003, 04:29 PM

Quote:

Originally posted by Carlito
Would it be BAD for me to pack my shit and disappear without telling any of my family, or best of all - my significant other?

I am so tired of dealing with stress, drama, and the mere fact of knowing that there is always someone that wants to talk to me or otherwise use my time.

I cannot leave the girl, because she will kill herself, but if I outright disappear she wont have any reason to feel guilty like... I didn`t like her because of *whatever* stupid fucking reason that most girls think a guy dont like them. I am by far the best thing that has ever happened to her, in terms of working out her depression from her childhood insanity, and paying ALL of her college bills, but I am tired of it. She wants to move in together and I dont want the headache. I just want to work on the internet without her making me feel guilty because I work in adult, and I just want to collect checks and be successful.

So, where do I run? Where can I get broadband and easily setup a life for around $4k - this is considering I dont eat into any funds that I NEED business wise.

Like I said, I can`t tell her anything without her feeling guilty, so I need to just move the fuck away and only take my computer and underwear.

This is my solution to suicide, run away from the BS and stop getting old so damn fast.

Whatever you decide to do, make sure you vote for Bush.

GeXus · 09-30-2003, 04:32 PM

Dude.. Relax and get a hold of yourself. No point in going away. Tell your GF to fuck off because she is a money whoring slut.. and tell your family well.. tell your family whatever you want.. but grab your balls and let them know whats up.. You will feel better about yourself when you confront everyone..

However, from another point of view.. sometimes its better to get out sooner then later, so depending on your situation it may be better to just pack your shit and leave..

Is Dr. Phil in the house?

Carlito · 09-30-2003, 04:33 PM

Here is a great example:

(16:27:55) Jiltz: bye
(16:28:09) cArliTo: bye
(16:28:16) Jiltz: are you upset
(16:28:17) Jiltz: ?
(16:28:18) cArliTo: no
(16:28:21) cArliTo: not really
(16:28:22) Jiltz: ...
(16:28:25) cArliTo: alot to think about
(16:28:34) cArliTo: and i`m frustrated with some work
(16:28:38) Jiltz: sorry
(16:28:40) cArliTo: feel like i`ll never be motivated
(16:28:44) cArliTo: i just cannot get started
(16:29:12) Jiltz: hope you feel better later
(16:29:15) Jiltz: take a break
(16:29:16) cArliTo: someday
(16:29:17) Jiltz: eat
(16:29:19) cArliTo: i had a break
(16:29:24) cArliTo: four days with you
(16:29:27) cArliTo: like a good vacation
(16:29:30) Jiltz: still
(16:29:37) Jiltz: im sure it wasnt that good
(16:29:40) cArliTo: it was good
(16:29:44) Jiltz: yeah
(16:29:45) cArliTo: if it wasn`t i`d have run you off.
(16:29:53) cArliTo: i`d have said:
(16:30:02) cArliTo: " I need to work, sorry, but I think you should go home so that I can "
(16:30:03) Jiltz: gonna go do hmwk
(16:30:06) cArliTo: now i`m so done...
(16:30:12) cArliTo: that i cant get motivated to finish
(16:30:12) Jiltz: you do in so many words
(16:30:14) cArliTo: polish
(16:30:16) cArliTo: i dont
(16:30:17) cArliTo: i hope
(16:30:29) Jiltz: well gots to go
(16:30:31) Jiltz: work
(16:30:33) cArliTo: sorry, i try and be responsible sometimes.
(16:30:36) cArliTo: bye
(16:30:39) Jiltz: a;liegn
(16:30:45) Jiltz logged out.

Carlito · 09-30-2003, 04:38 PM

At least I could write a hell of a book someday.

y0nki · 09-30-2003, 04:50 PM

move to southamerica, with 4k you could get that broadband connection, get a new high class hooker everyday and pay all the fucking drugs

Carlito · 09-30-2003, 04:52 PM

Quote:

Originally posted by y0nki
move to southamerica, with 4k you could get that broadband connection, get a new high class hooker everyday and pay all the fucking drugs

Long as its near a jungle and some historical artifacts I can hike for four days to steal then sell on the black market, hell yeah.

Nanda · 09-30-2003, 04:59 PM

Quote:

Originally posted by GeXus
Dude.. Relax and get a hold of yourself. No point in going away. Tell your GF to fuck off because she is a money whoring slut.. and tell your family well.. tell your family whatever you want.. but grab your balls and let them know whats up.. You will feel better about yourself when you confront everyone..

However, from another point of view.. sometimes its better to get out sooner then later, so depending on your situation it may be better to just pack your shit and leave..

Is Dr. Phil in the house?

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I agree with this.
When my husband starting doing this I bitch and whined, Now it pays our blils, pays my school, and I work for my husband now. I hate to say it but ur porn money is paying her college, why does she care where it comes from?
Move on, u'll find a girl that can help u, or repect what u do.

Carlito · 09-30-2003, 05:00 PM

btw:

One cool thing is that my GF will have her degree and be seeking employment right around the time I leave, so she`d no longer be financially struggling. I`d leave her happy.

Mr. Jim · 09-30-2003, 05:07 PM

You got one shot on this place....if you are not digging the scene you have goin on....

go make a new one...on your terms.....re-invent yourself....you can be whoever the fuck you want to be....the only real obstacle is nutting up to do it.

If you are not into the chick let her go.....it is not fair to her either if you are just stockpiling resentment....that is huge check that you cash one day....by then you could have kids,property, etc.

one day you wake up and think I don't really love you ....you hang in just to see if the tides cahnge but the chop gets rougher....you are past salvaging a relationship...tell the fam talk to you soon....and just go...

you know where I think you should move.....

Where ever the fuck you want to go...it is your life bro...take control

Carlito · 09-30-2003, 05:10 PM

Quote:

Originally posted by jimholio
You got one shot on this place....if you are not digging the scene you have goin on....

go make a new one...on your terms.....re-invent yourself....you can be whoever the fuck you want to be....the only real obstacle is nutting up to do it.

If you are not into the chick let her go.....it is not fair to her either if you are just stockpilinbg resentment....that is huge check that you cash one day....by then you could have kids,property, etc.

one day you wake up and think I dont really love you ....you hang in just to see if the tides cahnge but the chop gets rougher....you are past salvaging a relationship...tell the fam talk to you soon....and just go...you know where I think you should move.....

Where ever the fuck you want to go...iot is your life bro...take control

Good points.
The italicized section is where I am at the moment.

How about I go to Costa Rica and pick up spring break college chicks and offer them the opportunity to stay in Costa Rica, but only if they work on webcams.

Anyone for Costa Rica?

Carlito · 09-30-2003, 05:27 PM

If this happens... I will keep everyone informed.

Carlito · 09-30-2003, 11:00 PM

Jim Holio:

Unreleated to this thread, I need to get in touch with you about some feeds issues. Hopefully you can ICQ? I have sent some emails recently that have gone unanswered.

09-30-2003, 03:51 PM	#1
Carlito Confirmed User Industry Role: Join Date: Dec 2001 Location: Texas Posts: 856	I need advice... Would it be BAD for me to pack my shit and disappear without telling any of my family, or best of all - my significant other? I am so tired of dealing with stress, drama, and the mere fact of knowing that there is always someone that wants to talk to me or otherwise use my time. I cannot leave the girl, because she will kill herself, but if I outright disappear she wont have any reason to feel guilty like... I didn`t like her because of whatever stupid fucking reason that most girls think a guy dont like them. I am by far the best thing that has ever happened to her, in terms of working out her depression from her childhood insanity, and paying ALL of her college bills, but I am tired of it. She wants to move in together and I dont want the headache. I just want to work on the internet without her making me feel guilty because I work in adult, and I just want to collect checks and be successful. So, where do I run? Where can I get broadband and easily setup a life for around $4k - this is considering I dont eat into any funds that I NEED business wise. Like I said, I can`t tell her anything without her feeling guilty, so I need to just move the fuck away and only take my computer and underwear. This is my solution to suicide, run away from the BS and stop getting old so damn fast.

09-30-2003, 04:03 PM	#5
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09-30-2003, 04:06 PM	#6
Dusen Confirmed User Join Date: Aug 2002 Location: East Coast. Posts: 2,251	If you have no children involved, I would really reccomend you do it. It is YOUR life too, don't make your entire existance focused on her, if you are not happy then it's time to book out of there. If you feel she would seriously kill herself then that is a BAD PLACE to be for you. Noone needs that, I don't know really what to say. __________________ Penis Pill Sponsor List and Reviews: http://www.pillsponsors.com

09-30-2003, 04:32 PM	#19
GeXus Confirmed User Join Date: May 2003 Location: Yo Mommas Pussy Posts: 3,320	Dude.. Relax and get a hold of yourself. No point in going away. Tell your GF to fuck off because she is a money whoring slut.. and tell your family well.. tell your family whatever you want.. but grab your balls and let them know whats up.. You will feel better about yourself when you confront everyone.. However, from another point of view.. sometimes its better to get out sooner then later, so depending on your situation it may be better to just pack your shit and leave.. Is Dr. Phil in the house? __________________

09-30-2003, 05:07 PM	#26
Mr. Jim Confirmed User Join Date: Mar 2003 Posts: 4,372	You got one shot on this place....if you are not digging the scene you have goin on.... go make a new one...on your terms.....re-invent yourself....you can be whoever the fuck you want to be....the only real obstacle is nutting up to do it. If you are not into the chick let her go.....it is not fair to her either if you are just stockpiling resentment....that is huge check that you cash one day....by then you could have kids,property, etc. one day you wake up and think I don't really love you ....you hang in just to see if the tides cahnge but the chop gets rougher....you are past salvaging a relationship...tell the fam talk to you soon....and just go... you know where I think you should move..... Where ever the fuck you want to go...it is your life bro...take control Last edited by Mr. Jim; 09-30-2003 at 05:14 PM..

09-30-2003, 03:53 PM	#2
JDog Confirmed User Join Date: Feb 2003 Location: Canby, OR Posts: 7,453	I do but I always reappear every couple months, when I want to But I don't think there's anybad with that! But, why your family? I understand why you would leave the girl, but family? jDoG

09-30-2003, 04:02 PM	#4
Carlito Confirmed User Industry Role: Join Date: Dec 2001 Location: Texas Posts: 856	btw -- One of the biggest issues is that her culture is mexican and they have so many fucking traditions that i dont want to deal with. FUCK Mexican culture unless you are not a hypocrite, she bends over for all their rules and none of them live by them ANYWAY.

09-30-2003, 04:08 PM	#8
mrthumbs salad tossing sig guy Join Date: Apr 2002 Location: mrthumbs*gmail.com Posts: 11,702	Fix your problems, dont run from them. You dont have to be a rocket scientist to know that sooner or later problems will catch up anyway..multiplied.

09-30-2003, 04:16 PM	#11
Carlito Confirmed User Industry Role: Join Date: Dec 2001 Location: Texas Posts: 856	I think its a great opportunity. And its not really /running/ from the problem... just taking over my life and settling it.

09-30-2003, 04:26 PM	#15
Carlito Confirmed User Industry Role: Join Date: Dec 2001 Location: Texas Posts: 856	Anyone want to reccomend good places to go? Countries maybe? I am in California now - need a place with broadband.

09-30-2003, 04:33 PM	#20
Carlito Confirmed User Industry Role: Join Date: Dec 2001 Location: Texas Posts: 856	Here is a great example: (16:27:55) Jiltz: bye (16:28:09) cArliTo: bye (16:28:16) Jiltz: are you upset (16:28:17) Jiltz: ? (16:28:18) cArliTo: no (16:28:21) cArliTo: not really (16:28:22) Jiltz: ... (16:28:25) cArliTo: alot to think about (16:28:34) cArliTo: and i`m frustrated with some work (16:28:38) Jiltz: sorry (16:28:40) cArliTo: feel like i`ll never be motivated (16:28:44) cArliTo: i just cannot get started (16:29:12) Jiltz: hope you feel better later (16:29:15) Jiltz: take a break (16:29:16) cArliTo: someday (16:29:17) Jiltz: eat (16:29:19) cArliTo: i had a break (16:29:24) cArliTo: four days with you (16:29:27) cArliTo: like a good vacation (16:29:30) Jiltz: still (16:29:37) Jiltz: im sure it wasnt that good (16:29:40) cArliTo: it was good (16:29:44) Jiltz: yeah (16:29:45) cArliTo: if it wasn`t i`d have run you off. (16:29:53) cArliTo: i`d have said: (16:30:02) cArliTo: " I need to work, sorry, but I think you should go home so that I can " (16:30:03) Jiltz: gonna go do hmwk (16:30:06) cArliTo: now i`m so done... (16:30:12) cArliTo: that i cant get motivated to finish (16:30:12) Jiltz: you do in so many words (16:30:14) cArliTo: polish (16:30:16) cArliTo: i dont (16:30:17) cArliTo: i hope (16:30:29) Jiltz: well gots to go (16:30:31) Jiltz: work (16:30:33) cArliTo: sorry, i try and be responsible sometimes. (16:30:36) cArliTo: bye (16:30:39) Jiltz: a;liegn (16:30:45) Jiltz logged out.

09-30-2003, 04:38 PM	#21
Carlito Confirmed User Industry Role: Join Date: Dec 2001 Location: Texas Posts: 856	At least I could write a hell of a book someday.

09-30-2003, 04:50 PM	#22
y0nki Confirmed User Join Date: Sep 2003 Posts: 325	move to southamerica, with 4k you could get that broadband connection, get a new high class hooker everyday and pay all the fucking drugs

09-30-2003, 05:00 PM	#25
Carlito Confirmed User Industry Role: Join Date: Dec 2001 Location: Texas Posts: 856	btw: One cool thing is that my GF will have her degree and be seeking employment right around the time I leave, so she`d no longer be financially struggling. I`d leave her happy.

09-30-2003, 05:27 PM	#28
Carlito Confirmed User Industry Role: Join Date: Dec 2001 Location: Texas Posts: 856	If this happens... I will keep everyone informed.

09-30-2003, 11:00 PM	#29
Carlito Confirmed User Industry Role: Join Date: Dec 2001 Location: Texas Posts: 856	Jim Holio: Unreleated to this thread, I need to get in touch with you about some feeds issues. Hopefully you can ICQ? I have sent some emails recently that have gone unanswered.