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wtfent · 01-01-2009, 02:36 PM

So I met this girl a few weeks ago, she is 19, super fuckin hot body, sex is beyond amazing, she doesn't mind that I'm 27 and have a 4 year old, she is super cool and easy going and she really likes me but I look at her and feel like i could do better as far as looks go.

I have not had a girlfriend since I got divorced over a year ago so I really like having somebody to spend time with.

I have always got really hot girls but lately it seems like all I can do is fuck them, which is great but I don't want to do that forever. The older I get the harder it seems it is to meet girls so I feel a bit more rushed.

I really feel like I'm just settling for the first girl that came along

I don't want the sex to go away but I also don't want to lead her on and hurt her feelings, cause she really likes me a lot.

What is a man to do? I'm interested to hear GFYs advice, haha.

cardinalvices · 01-01-2009, 02:40 PM

GFY is certainly a place for therapy like that.

Does she want to marry already? Why are you worried about hurting her feelings? Maybe she is just having fun

who · 01-01-2009, 02:40 PM

I would go for either a younger girl who is not really experienced in nor looking for sex, or an older woman, who has a relationship as her top priority. But younger than 19 doesn't really leave much room

wtfent · 01-01-2009, 02:44 PM

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Originally Posted by cardinalvices

GFY is certainly a place for therapy like that.

Does she want to marry already? Why are you worried about hurting her feelings? Maybe she is just having fun

No she just says stuff like "I really like you", "I woke up thinking about you" kinda of stuff and don't get me wrong I love it but I just feel like I might be leading her on.

d-null · 01-01-2009, 02:45 PM

when you are dealing with a 19 year old, it is not a matter of if, it is a matter of when you will have to hurt her feelings

the longer you drag it out the more the hurt

jmcb420 · 01-01-2009, 02:50 PM

lol, after my divorce I made a habit out of fucking 18 year olds just so my ex would have shit to fume about.
BUT
18 19 20 21 22 Dosen't really matter, all the young ones are stupid. lol. If you want fucked, there you go. If you want brains, try something older and if you want to be misrable, (you already know) marry one.

After Shock Media · 01-01-2009, 02:51 PM

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Originally Posted by wtfent

No she just says stuff like "I really like you", "I woke up thinking about you" kinda of stuff and don't get me wrong I love it but I just feel like I might be leading her on.

Young people do that. They also still write love letters and stuff too.

I just think when you were her age she was eleven, which is sort of funny.

Libertine · 01-01-2009, 02:57 PM

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Originally Posted by wtfent

No she just says stuff like "I really like you", "I woke up thinking about you" kinda of stuff and don't get me wrong I love it but I just feel like I might be leading her on.

Why would you be leading her on? You like her too, right? So you both like each other. What's the problem?

Of course, when a girl says she likes you, it means she's in love with you (women tend to be emotional like that), but if you're going to let that stop you you'll never date again. Just take it slowly, and don't make promises you won't keep.

Also, avoid the "am I settling for the first girl to come along?" trap. It's a surefire way to do things you end up regretting. Looks fade, personality doesn't.

Libertine · 01-01-2009, 03:03 PM

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Originally Posted by After Shock Media

Young people do that. They also still write love letters and stuff too.

Actually, it works at all ages. Most men don't seem to realize it, but if you keep doing things like giving little compliments, telling a woman you're thinking about her, writing the occasional love letter, etc, she'll do pretty much anything for you.

Women like romance, no matter what their age might be. Keep giving it to them, and they'll repay you tenfold.

KillerK · 01-01-2009, 03:07 PM

Age doesn't matter, women are either stupid or smart, they don't just get smarter as they get older (unless they are ugly then the older the get the smarter they get due to books)

wyldblyss · 01-01-2009, 03:08 PM

Uhm, what you are doing is called "dating someone". It isn't a life long commitment, you are just spending time together, getting to know one another better, which is the point of dating. You are SUPPOSED to like the person you are spending time with and having sex with.

19 year old girls need confirmation of feelings. She needs to know you like her too and are not just using her for sex...so she says she likes you a lot hoping you say "I like you too".

After Shock Media · 01-01-2009, 03:08 PM

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Originally Posted by Libertine

Actually, it works at all ages. Most men don't seem to realize it, but if you keep doing things like giving little compliments, telling a woman you're thinking about her, writing the occasional love letter, etc, she'll do pretty much anything for you.

Women like romance, no matter what their age might be. Keep giving it to them, and they'll repay you tenfold.

And they may trick you into marriage via MSN

You missed the point. Sure romance long term helps as do compliments. I just mentioned that younger people are more prone to deep infatuation, lust, feelings, etc. It is not like it is missing in older people, just is more in control and often toned down a bit. Unless they are sort of crazy.

brassmonkey · 01-01-2009, 03:10 PM

dump her get a pocket pussy

johnnysoporno · 01-01-2009, 03:11 PM

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Originally Posted by wtfent

So I met this girl a few weeks ago, she is 19, super fuckin hot body, sex is beyond amazing, she doesn't mind that I'm 27 and have a 4 year old, she is super cool and easy going and she really likes me but I look at her and feel like i could do better as far as looks go.

In that case, you WILL grow out of her very soon - UNLESS you can find another aspect to her which will reframe your opinion on her looks!

See if she is into other girls, and will go out with you to find some... Less than perfectly-hot girls are MUCH BETTER at appealing to very hot girls, since the new girl doesn't feel like she's going to be 'outshone' by your partner.

Threesomes are most-frequently "a couple" plus "a third-party" and since YOU are a guy, you'll normally be part of the couple ;)... This means the Third Party knows she's an interloper, and while she might be complimented and encouraged by your young playmates' enthusiasm, she's MORE be happy that she's better-looking than your young partner. This pays off nicely ;)

Otherwise, if she wants anything exclusive, you are setting both of you up for unnecessary pain, so I would recommend getting out sooner, rather than later.

Johnny Soporno
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Spunky · 01-01-2009, 03:12 PM

Don't lead her on.if you aren't happy set her free.

Achmed's Wife Halimah · 01-01-2009, 03:20 PM

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Originally Posted by wtfent

So I met this girl a few weeks ago, she is 19, super fuckin hot body, sex is beyond amazing, she doesn't mind that I'm 27 and have a 4 year old, she is super cool and easy going and she really likes me but I look at her and feel like i could do better as far as looks go.

I have not had a girlfriend since I got divorced over a year ago so I really like having somebody to spend time with.

I have always got really hot girls but lately it seems like all I can do is fuck them, which is great but I don't want to do that forever. The older I get the harder it seems it is to meet girls so I feel a bit more rushed.

I really feel like I'm just settling for the first girl that came along

I don't want the sex to go away but I also don't want to lead her on and hurt her feelings, cause she really likes me a lot.

What is a man to do? I'm interested to hear GFYs advice, haha.

Halimah say you have Delusional disorder

jmcb420 · 01-01-2009, 03:36 PM

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Originally Posted by After Shock Media

And they may trick you into marriage via MSN

"She tricked me with words"

Wagerboy · 01-01-2009, 04:34 PM

I was 29 when I started to date a 19 yr old. We were together for 1 month when my house burned down, so we got an apt. 6 months later we got a house. 4 years later, she took every dollar from every bank acct I had, kept the house and cars and bought a new car cash and sent me the pic "look what you bought me" in the email subject. Be careful my friend. lol IMO- young girls are to fuck. Older ones you settle down with.

tony286 · 01-01-2009, 05:11 PM

If you really feel like its going nowhere and you feel you are going to break the girls heart. Do the right thing and tell her goodbye. If your main thought is I think I can get someone hotter it sounds like you arent ready for a relationship for a long time.

tony286 · 01-01-2009, 05:12 PM

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Originally Posted by Wagerboy

I was 29 when I started to date a 19 yr old. We were together for 1 month when my house burned down, so we got an apt. 6 months later we got a house. 4 years later, she took every dollar from every bank acct I had, kept the house and cars and bought a new car cash and sent me the pic "look what you bought me" in the email subject. Be careful my friend. lol IMO- young girls are to fuck. Older ones you settle down with.

I married a 18 yr old girl I was 34. This october we will be married 10 yrs.

wtfent · 01-01-2009, 05:36 PM

Thanks guys for all the comments. i think I'll just let it play out and see where it goes.

OG LennyT · 01-01-2009, 05:48 PM

Keep that cock in her and see how this plays out.. you have a good thing going, don't fuck it up by getting relationship crazy

bluemoney · 01-01-2009, 05:52 PM

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Originally Posted by Spunky

Don't lead her on.if you aren't happy set her free.

but only after one more good fucking!

d-null · 01-01-2009, 06:23 PM

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Originally Posted by tony404

I married a 18 yr old girl I was 34. This october we will be married 10 yrs.

often that kind of age range is a perfect match when the personalities and chemistry is right, good to hear things worked out well for you

Wagerboy · 01-01-2009, 06:26 PM

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Originally Posted by tony404

I married a 18 yr old girl I was 34. This october we will be married 10 yrs.

No disrespect Tony. Just left me a tad bitter, I lost 100's of thousands. Congrats on the 10 years. Just not for me no more. Any rich 60 year old females on here?

Donfoolio · 01-01-2009, 06:38 PM

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Originally Posted by wtfent

No she just says stuff like "I really like you", "I woke up thinking about you" kinda of stuff and don't get me wrong I love it but I just feel like I might be leading her on.

be a man about it and tell her you're not into monogamy right now. I know why people have such hard times with relationships nowadays, it's because of the lack of communication that is mandatory from the time 2 people meet. Especially people like you in your situation. You already have one kid from one divorce lets wise up for the sake of children are our future huh?

d-null · 01-01-2009, 06:46 PM

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Originally Posted by Donfoolio

be a man about it and tell her you're not into monogamy right now. ....

in case you're saying this out of lack of experience, you do realize that that will make the girl go even more love crazy for him?

Donfoolio · 01-01-2009, 06:49 PM

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Originally Posted by d-null

in case you're saying this out of lack of experience, you do realize that that will make the girl go even more love crazy for him?

no lack of exp, it's all I do

but that's the point, have them love you but be real and don't coddle just 1. Monogamy is NOT human nature. Just a society choice based off of an archaic religious background that is full of out dated awkward useless rules and customs.

tony286 · 01-01-2009, 06:53 PM

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Originally Posted by Wagerboy

No disrespect Tony. Just left me a tad bitter, I lost 100's of thousands. Congrats on the 10 years. Just not for me no more. Any rich 60 year old females on here?

I understand before my wife it was like I dated the cunts hall of fame. lol

d-null · 01-01-2009, 06:55 PM

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Originally Posted by Donfoolio

no lack of exp, it's all I do

but that's the point, have them love you but be real and don't coddle just 1. Monogamy is NOT human nature. Just a society choice based off of an archaic religious background that is full of out dated awkward useless rules and customs.

ok, sorry to misread you

unfortunately like was said, even if you do communicate it won't make a difference in how hard she might fall for you, it might be good for your own morale in claiming less blame though...... but then again, I think I am generalizing a bit now that I think about it a bit more, just because she is 19 doesn't mean she is the weaker one in the relationship, the older guy might get even more emotionally attached and in love and she might be the one dropping him in a moments notice for another guy

Wagerboy · 01-01-2009, 06:57 PM

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Originally Posted by tony404

I understand before my wife it was like I dated the cunts hall of fame. lol

Hows ATl these days. I used to be with a girl in Lawrenceville. Great little town. Miss it down there. Buckhead was fun as well, just pricey.

Donfoolio · 01-01-2009, 07:03 PM

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Originally Posted by d-null

ok, sorry to misread you

unfortunately like was said, even if you do communicate it won't make a difference in how hard she might fall for you, it might be good for your own morale in claiming less blame though...... but then again, I think I am generalizing a bit now that I think about it a bit more, just because she is 19 doesn't mean she is the weaker one in the relationship, the older guy might get even more emotionally attached and in love and she might be the one dropping him in a moments notice for another guy

yeah see how complicated it gets? I spent my life trying to figure out a way to deal with that shit! And well for me I found it. One day when I get the time I will edit all my info into a book or something but the gist of it is simple, just live real and never lie and always tell everyone how you feel and you will never be misunderstood. People will either love you or hate you but there will be NO confusion about you. That's how I am everywhere opinionated and blunt (most say douchebag), not just here on gfy

Tempest · 01-01-2009, 07:07 PM

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Originally Posted by wtfent

... but I look at her and feel like i could do better as far as looks go.

If you're already debating this after a few weeks then it won't last as you're already thinking of greener pastures...

tony286 · 01-01-2009, 07:11 PM

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Originally Posted by Wagerboy

Hows ATl these days. I used to be with a girl in Lawrenceville. Great little town. Miss it down there. Buckhead was fun as well, just pricey.

Oh really? My brother lives near Lawrenceville. Atl isnt bad, Im originally from NYC. Moved here because a large chunk of my family moved down here. Its not NY but you get so much more bang for your buck.

Wagerboy · 01-01-2009, 07:14 PM

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Originally Posted by tony404

Oh really? My brother lives near Lawrenceville. Atl isnt bad, Im originally from NYC. Moved here because a large chunk of my family moved down here. Its not NY but you get so much more bang for your buck.

yeah that was a great town. nice mix of people, hicks and new england transplants. I was going to move there. You can buy a great house for what you would pay in NY for a 1 br condo. Im in the burbs of NYC. I learned there how great Dave & Busters is. I think off martin luther king road or something?

skrinkladoo · 01-01-2009, 07:26 PM

wait you said she is "19, super fuckin hot body", you say your getting laid, but then the "first girl to come around" comment- so emm ... maybe try to make it work out. That age gap isn't really insane. My step daughters father is 40, His daughter is almost 17, he is dating a 20 year old. That's fuckin creepy.

Wagerboy · 01-01-2009, 07:29 PM

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Originally Posted by skrinkladoo

wait you said she is "19, super fuckin hot body", you say your getting laid, but then the "first girl to come around" comment- so emm ... maybe try to make it work out. That age gap isn't really insane. My step daughters father is 40, His daughter is almost 17, he is dating a 20 year old. That's fuckin creepy.

That is a tad creepy.

wtfent · 01-01-2009, 09:13 PM

Damn I'd be so busted if she ever saw this thread, fuck. I really do like the girl so i guess it was kinda fucked up to even make a thread about this but I really did need some advice.

wtfent · 01-01-2009, 09:16 PM

And when i said she is not the best looking, I personally really enjoy her and find her very cute in my own way, I think I'm caring too much what my boys think, they always see me with hot ass chicks and I guess I'm kinda afraid what they think. Fuck it I'm 100% going to keep talking to her.

d-null · 01-01-2009, 10:11 PM

post an example pic of some random girl off of the net that might better illustrate the concept of "very cute in your own way"...... just to give us an idea better (don't pick one that looks like her, just one that looks 'very cute in your own way' concept)

just so we can relate to the conversation here better

bronco67 · 01-01-2009, 10:14 PM

So what you're trying to tell everyone is that you fuck any hot girl you want? Poor stud.

johnnysoporno · 01-01-2009, 11:59 PM

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Originally Posted by skrinkladoo

That age gap isn't really insane. My step daughters father is 40, His daughter is almost 17, he is dating a 20 year old. That's fuckin creepy.

Not at creepy as that clown pic ;)

JS

d-null · 01-02-2009, 12:04 AM

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Originally Posted by Wagerboy

That is a tad creepy.

why is that necessarily so creepy? dudes have hot sisters that are the same age of girls they date, and that isn't creepy, because they are not ever interested in their own family

who cares that he has kids, that doesn't make him not see hotness in women anymore, it has nothing to do with it

wtfent · 01-02-2009, 12:37 AM

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Originally Posted by d-null

post an example pic of some random girl off of the net that might better illustrate the concept of "very cute in your own way"...... just to give us an idea better (don't pick one that looks like her, just one that looks 'very cute in your own way' concept)

just so we can relate to the conversation here better

lol lol. She looks like this which is not bad...

But I am use to being seen with this....

or this...

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wtfent Confirmed User Join Date: Nov 2003 Location: San Diego, Cali. baby!!! Posts: 3,790	Ok I need some dating advice. Please help!!!!! So I met this girl a few weeks ago, she is 19, super fuckin hot body, sex is beyond amazing, she doesn't mind that I'm 27 and have a 4 year old, she is super cool and easy going and she really likes me but I look at her and feel like i could do better as far as looks go. I have not had a girlfriend since I got divorced over a year ago so I really like having somebody to spend time with. I have always got really hot girls but lately it seems like all I can do is fuck them, which is great but I don't want to do that forever. The older I get the harder it seems it is to meet girls so I feel a bit more rushed. I really feel like I'm just settling for the first girl that came along I don't want the sex to go away but I also don't want to lead her on and hurt her feelings, cause she really likes me a lot. What is a man to do? I'm interested to hear GFYs advice, haha. __________________ ThisWillShockYou.com DVD Store - TWSY UNCENSORED ICQ# 194020367 E-mail: shockingbucks(AT)gmail.com Promote something different!! Shocking Bucks

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d-null . . . Industry Role: Join Date: Apr 2007 Location: NY Posts: 13,724	when you are dealing with a 19 year old, it is not a matter of if, it is a matter of when you will have to hurt her feelings the longer you drag it out the more the hurt __________________ __________________ Looking for a custom TUBE SCRIPT that supports massive traffic, load balancing, billing support, and h264 encoding? Hit up Konrad! Looking for designs for your websites or custom tubesite design? Hit up Zuzana Designs Check out the #1 WordPress SEO Plugin: CyberSEO Suite

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wyldblyss Confirmed User Join Date: Nov 2003 Location: The Buck Starts Here Posts: 5,779	Uhm, what you are doing is called "dating someone". It isn't a life long commitment, you are just spending time together, getting to know one another better, which is the point of dating. You are SUPPOSED to like the person you are spending time with and having sex with. 19 year old girls need confirmation of feelings. She needs to know you like her too and are not just using her for sex...so she says she likes you a lot hoping you say "I like you too".

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wtfent Confirmed User Join Date: Nov 2003 Location: San Diego, Cali. baby!!! Posts: 3,790	Damn I'd be so busted if she ever saw this thread, fuck. I really do like the girl so i guess it was kinda fucked up to even make a thread about this but I really did need some advice. __________________ ThisWillShockYou.com DVD Store - TWSY UNCENSORED ICQ# 194020367 E-mail: shockingbucks(AT)gmail.com Promote something different!! Shocking Bucks

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wtfent Confirmed User Join Date: Nov 2003 Location: San Diego, Cali. baby!!! Posts: 3,790	And when i said she is not the best looking, I personally really enjoy her and find her very cute in my own way, I think I'm caring too much what my boys think, they always see me with hot ass chicks and I guess I'm kinda afraid what they think. Fuck it I'm 100% going to keep talking to her. __________________ ThisWillShockYou.com DVD Store - TWSY UNCENSORED ICQ# 194020367 E-mail: shockingbucks(AT)gmail.com Promote something different!! Shocking Bucks

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d-null . . . Industry Role: Join Date: Apr 2007 Location: NY Posts: 13,724	post an example pic of some random girl off of the net that might better illustrate the concept of "very cute in your own way"...... just to give us an idea better (don't pick one that looks like her, just one that looks 'very cute in your own way' concept) just so we can relate to the conversation here better __________________ __________________ Looking for a custom TUBE SCRIPT that supports massive traffic, load balancing, billing support, and h264 encoding? Hit up Konrad! Looking for designs for your websites or custom tubesite design? Hit up Zuzana Designs Check out the #1 WordPress SEO Plugin: CyberSEO Suite

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