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SleazyDream · 04-20-2009, 01:49 PM

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Originally Posted by maxjohan

Maybe you just want a real woman Sleazy? Not the porn chicks you seem to hang around with. neverless I dont know your girlfriends past and present. Do you have a love hate relationship to your thoughts towards her, you mentioned she had flaws?

ummmmm, why would a porn chick not be a real women?

I could easily fall in love and have a relationship with a working porn star. It's all about boundaries and communication and what the two people agree on as to what's acceptable and what isn't

and everyone has flaws. I'd be an idiot if I said she was perfect.

Huggles · 04-20-2009, 02:09 PM

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Originally Posted by SleazyDream

ok

at what point to you diagnose yourself with a mental obsession problem?

ok, say you have something with someone, lets call it a spark.... goes a little somewhere but it ends. No illusions here about that. No blaim, yeah regrets but a firm grasp on reality that it is over for years now.

you have no contact with the person for many years and you know you've moved on with your life. Dated new people, gone though 2 relationships (long term ones) and currently in one...

yet this person comes into your head EVERY SINGLE DAY. yep - YEARS NOW and every single day I think about her. I can't shake it. knew for the first first months it was just normal....but it's YEARS now and not a single day goes by when I don't think about her.

I ask myself questions, like am I crazy, obsessed. Maybe, I don't know. No other girl has had this effect on me.

Do I stalk her, no. I do bump into some info about her here and there but it's rare and I TRY and ignore it but my heart THUMPS whenever I hear anything. I can't controll it. I get a psychological reaction when I get new info about her. My heart has alwasy thumped when in her presence.

it's not like I cut out pictures or save images or anything... just every single day for years now I keep trying to understand how this woman made my heart thump every single time I spoke to her, was around her or heard anything about her. No one ever did that to me before. I have no answers to myself.

I only want the best for her, and I know she went a different path and I honestly feel her happiness is more important than mine so I can't go after this again. No regrets, I did go for it, it didn't work out but I did NOT chicken out and I have no regrets about not taking my chance.

Yet every day I long for that heart thump and a chance to make her happy so I can only pray that she is happy. It's not my place to do anything more than that now.

I know, it's YEARS, I'm fucking wacked. It's obsessive and it feels like I SHOULD be able to let it go.

This is what's sooo weird too, she's wasn't perfect. Yet no matter what happened it didn't change that feeling.

Now I'm come to accept it'll be there in my head. Tried everything I could to shake it, no good. So i've accepted it. And I move on. and that was YEARS ago too..

so here I am, YEARS later..... and she's still there in my head. I judge everyone I've ever dated against her and no other women measures up to how she made me feel.

would I do it again. YES.

now back to my question, looking at all that. I think I may have an obsession problem. Yes I am obsessive, but it's always faded in a few months... can't shake this one so somehow I keep thinking it's something more than just an obsession that keeps popping into my head....

help

I would say if you obsess over 1 chick that your life must be pretty boring and empty?

If you have other passions in life, chicks seem to always take second place as a priority, at least for me!

Damn Sleazy, I thought you had a ton of money? Travel the world, goto school, take up a hobby, work out, jet ski, buy a boat, go para-gliding, go mountain biking, dance with chicks at a night club, play cards with friends, go do karaoke, buy a project sports-car and work on it yourself...

You can easily find another woman who will make you feel this way as well, you just have to chill out.

Huggles · 04-20-2009, 02:11 PM

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Originally Posted by SleazyDream

ummmmm, why would a porn chick not be a real women?

I could easily fall in love and have a relationship with a working porn star. It's all about boundaries and communication and what the two people agree on as to what's acceptable and what isn't

and everyone has flaws. I'd be an idiot if I said she was perfect.

I would think it would be difficult to watch your girlfriend take a big black cock in her asshole and then do ass to mouth, then be kissing her a few hours later?

No thanks

Pornopat · 04-20-2009, 02:16 PM

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Originally Posted by Huggles

I would think it would be difficult to watch your girlfriend take a big black cock in her asshole and then do ass to mouth, then be kissing her a few hours later?

No thanks

What is the deal with the black cock? You would have no problem if it was a white cock that went up the asshole?

SleazyDream · 04-20-2009, 02:19 PM

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Originally Posted by Huggles

I would say if you obsess over 1 chick that your life must be pretty boring and empty?

If you have other passions in life, chicks seem to always take second place as a priority, at least for me!

Damn Sleazy, I thought you had a ton of money? Travel the world, goto school, take up a hobby, work out, jet ski, buy a boat, go para-gliding, go mountain biking, dance with chicks at a night club, play cards with friends, go do karaoke, buy a project sports-car and work on it yourself...

You can easily find another woman who will make you feel this way as well, you just have to chill out.

done and do all that fun stuff regurally........

SleazyDream · 04-20-2009, 02:22 PM

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Originally Posted by Huggles

I would think it would be difficult to watch your girlfriend take a big black cock in her asshole and then do ass to mouth, then be kissing her a few hours later?

No thanks

my girlfriend doesn't like anal, but we do swing and she LOVES doing a big dicked black guy and I love watching that just as she loves watching me fuck someone else.

personally I'd prefer to have a girl wash her mouth out before kissing me after sucking a cock that fucked her in the ass, but if i don't know and can't taste it - whatever.....

Sexy Rex · 04-20-2009, 02:23 PM

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Originally Posted by Pornopat

What you have to keep in mind is that the image of her you have in your mind is NOT the real her. This image and her have been disconnected for some time and you have built up the image you have of her basically turning her into a godess. The only way to inflate this is to get intouch with her again. Not as a love object but for other reasons you can think off. Reality will sink in when the image starts looking like the real person again. Been there and it worked for me.

What he said and best of luck with it Sleazy ;)

BradM · 04-20-2009, 02:31 PM

There's no reasoning with people who are mentally ill (like you) who are obsessive compulsive idiots. Continue jacking off to a woman you will never have douchebag. It seems very healthy for you. Get over it man. I also recommend killing yourself. But I know you won't be able to do either.

_Richard_ · 04-20-2009, 02:32 PM

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Originally Posted by Pornopat

What you have to keep in mind is that the image of her you have in your mind is NOT the real her. This image and her have been disconnected for some time and you have built up the image you have of her basically turning her into a godess. The only way to inflate this is to get intouch with her again. Not as a love object but for other reasons you can think off. Reality will sink in when the image starts looking like the real person again. Been there and it worked for me.

bingo...

SleazyDream · 04-20-2009, 02:34 PM

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Originally Posted by BradM

There's no reasoning with people who are mentally ill (like you) who are obsessive compulsive idiots. Continue jacking off to a woman you will never have douchebag. It seems very healthy for you. Get over it man. I also recommend killing yourself. But I know you won't be able to do either.

when you point a finger there's 3 pointing right back at you.

Huggles · 04-20-2009, 02:34 PM

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Originally Posted by Pornopat

What is the deal with the black cock? You would have no problem if it was a white cock that went up the asshole?

Black cock = she won't shit right for a week

Huggles · 04-20-2009, 02:35 PM

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Originally Posted by SleazyDream

done and do all that fun stuff regurally........

Well, if nothing is missing from your life and you seriously cannot get your mind off a woman after years, then it sounds like a personal problem to me. Seek professional help.

BradM · 04-20-2009, 02:37 PM

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Originally Posted by SleazyDream

when you point a finger there's 3 pointing right back at you.

You must have a fuckload of fingers pointing at you.

You're one of the most hypocritical idiots I have ever seen. It's no shock you have a shallow life. I hope you cry about this lost chick who wants nothing to do with you every night.

SleazyDream · 04-20-2009, 02:37 PM

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Originally Posted by Huggles

Black cock = she won't shit right for a week

?????????????

SleazyDream · 04-20-2009, 02:40 PM

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Originally Posted by BradM

You must have a fuckload of fingers pointing at you.

You're one of the most hypocritical idiots I have ever seen. It's no shock you have a shallow life. I hope you cry about this lost chick who wants nothing to do with you every night.

it's good to be missed. It's like coming home and having my dog all excited at the door soo happy to see me barking and whining all at once. He has no idea what I was doing but he's just excited I'm back. Mind you - my dog is house trained and I don't know if you are or not......

SleazyDream · 04-20-2009, 02:41 PM

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Originally Posted by Huggles

Well, if nothing is missing from your life and you seriously cannot get your mind off a woman after years, then it sounds like a personal problem to me. Seek professional help.

I might have to, it's not like I think of her every second of every minute, but she comes into my head most every day. More like thoughts of I miss her and wish I could do something to make her happy.

Exotic Gold · 04-20-2009, 02:46 PM

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Originally Posted by SleazyDream

ok

at what point to you diagnose yourself with a mental obsession problem?

ok, say you have something with someone, lets call it a spark.... goes a little somewhere but it ends. No illusions here about that. No blaim, yeah regrets but a firm grasp on reality that it is over for years now.

you have no contact with the person for many years and you know you've moved on with your life. Dated new people, gone though 2 relationships (long term ones) and currently in one...

yet this person comes into your head EVERY SINGLE DAY. yep - YEARS NOW and every single day I think about her. I can't shake it. knew for the first first months it was just normal....but it's YEARS now and not a single day goes by when I don't think about her.

I ask myself questions, like am I crazy, obsessed. Maybe, I don't know. No other girl has had this effect on me.

Do I stalk her, no. I do bump into some info about her here and there but it's rare and I TRY and ignore it but my heart THUMPS whenever I hear anything. I can't controll it. I get a psychological reaction when I get new info about her. My heart has alwasy thumped when in her presence.

it's not like I cut out pictures or save images or anything... just every single day for years now I keep trying to understand how this woman made my heart thump every single time I spoke to her, was around her or heard anything about her. No one ever did that to me before. I have no answers to myself.

I only want the best for her, and I know she went a different path and I honestly feel her happiness is more important than mine so I can't go after this again. No regrets, I did go for it, it didn't work out but I did NOT chicken out and I have no regrets about not taking my chance.

Yet every day I long for that heart thump and a chance to make her happy so I can only pray that she is happy. It's not my place to do anything more than that now.

I know, it's YEARS, I'm fucking wacked. It's obsessive and it feels like I SHOULD be able to let it go.

This is what's sooo weird too, she's wasn't perfect. Yet no matter what happened it didn't change that feeling.

Now I'm come to accept it'll be there in my head. Tried everything I could to shake it, no good. So i've accepted it. And I move on. and that was YEARS ago too..

so here I am, YEARS later..... and she's still there in my head. I judge everyone I've ever dated against her and no other women measures up to how she made me feel.

would I do it again. YES.

now back to my question, looking at all that. I think I may have an obsession problem. Yes I am obsessive, but it's always faded in a few months... can't shake this one so somehow I keep thinking it's something more than just an obsession that keeps popping into my head....

help

You have to accept that Jane B. is happily married and move on, big guy.

SleazyDream · 04-20-2009, 02:51 PM

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Originally Posted by Exotic Gold

You have to accept that Jane B. is happily married and move on, big guy.

i just have casual sex with Jane B, nothing more........

Huggles · 04-20-2009, 09:37 PM

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Originally Posted by SleazyDream

I might have to, it's not like I think of her every second of every minute, but she comes into my head most every day. More like thoughts of I miss her and wish I could do something to make her happy.

I would say cover yourself in grease and wait outside of her house jerking off with a KFC bucket on your head and a pinata half wedged in your ass crack.

Raja · 04-20-2009, 10:17 PM

I'm married, you don't have to wonder anymore and should move on with your life. That kiss in Toronto meant nothing to me, I'm sorry it caused you to pine for me after all this time.

Raja · 04-20-2009, 10:28 PM

Just to break your heart a little more.

SleazyDream · 04-20-2009, 11:18 PM

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Originally Posted by Huggles

I would say cover yourself in grease and wait outside of her house jerking off with a KFC bucket on your head and a pinata half wedged in your ass crack.

well I DO like having sex with a bottle of baby oil, slipping and sliding is a real turn on for me...

and I do like KFC.... not every day but once in a while I buya bucket....

might not be a bad idea to combine the two........

SleazyDream · 04-20-2009, 11:19 PM

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Originally Posted by raja

i'm married, you don't have to wonder anymore and should move on with your life. That kiss in toronto meant nothing to me, i'm sorry it caused you to pine for me after all this time.

what?????? You said it meant something to you!!!!!!!!!!!

maxjohan · 04-21-2009, 06:32 AM

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Originally Posted by SleazyDream

ummmmm, why would a porn chick not be a real women?

I could easily fall in love and have a relationship with a working porn star.

Of course you could and so could I. Because you find it acceptable and less or more you hang around porn chicks right, so you are used to them?

It's the same as me saying I could easily take a boat over the nile river and catch catch fish. Now if I am already in Africa and live near the nile river, it's more likely I will too. And if have already caught them catfishes before?? You get the idea.

So there we have an agenda already.

There's women with real career goals and some head and stamina outside of porn. You could just consider other options, consider you are still have feelings for someone Outside of porn?

Of what I remember you seemed very stuck in the PornLifestyle so my idea may get too far fetched for you to grasp. I dont know what you are up to now days, what are you up to??

O MARINA · 04-21-2009, 06:36 AM

Sleazy welcome back to gfy !

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Originally Posted by Raja

Just to break your heart a little more.

Rochard · 04-21-2009, 07:05 AM

It becomes an obsession when you open up a blog about them....

ExLust · 04-21-2009, 08:11 AM

Do whatever makes you happy.

Robbie · 04-21-2009, 08:18 AM

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Originally Posted by Raja

Just to break your heart a little more.

WTF!?!?!?

heh-heh-heh

Huggles · 04-21-2009, 10:22 AM

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Originally Posted by SleazyDream

well I DO like having sex with a bottle of baby oil, slipping and sliding is a real turn on for me...

and I do like KFC.... not every day but once in a while I buya bucket....

might not be a bad idea to combine the two........

Sleazy if you posted a pic of you rolling around on a tarp covered in baby oil, your face smeared with coleslaw and macaroni salad, with various scattered half-eaten chicken bones and an overturned bucket in the picture, it would be epic on a scale never before seen on GFY.

Huggles · 04-21-2009, 10:31 AM

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Originally Posted by SleazyDream

my girlfriend doesn't like anal, but we do swing and she LOVES doing a big dicked black guy and I love watching that just as she loves watching me fuck someone else.

Do you think when you guys are swinging that the other couple's woman sees you and goes "Oh, I am the luckiest girl on earth today"

?

Sleazy man, this whole obession thing, cure it by taking a trip. I was just in Montego Bay a few months ago at the Iberostar Rose Hall and it was amazing!

Kimmykim · 04-21-2009, 10:33 AM

Hmmmm, I wonder if I know this person.

SleazyDream · 04-21-2009, 10:43 AM

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Originally Posted by maxjohan

Of course you could and so could I. Because you find it acceptable and less or more you hang around porn chicks right, so you are used to them?

It's the same as me saying I could easily take a boat over the nile river and catch catch fish. Now if I am already in Africa and live near the nile river, it's more likely I will too. And if have already caught them catfishes before?? You get the idea.

So there we have an agenda already.

There's women with real career goals and some head and stamina outside of porn. You could just consider other options, consider you are still have feelings for someone Outside of porn?

Of what I remember you seemed very stuck in the PornLifestyle so my idea may get too far fetched for you to grasp. I dont know what you are up to now days, what are you up to??

you're making a LOT of assumptions.

it's a tell tale sign of a true idiot

SleazyDream · 04-21-2009, 10:44 AM

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Originally Posted by Rochard

It becomes an obsession when you open up a blog about them....

mental note - thread ok, blog bad.....

SleazyDream · 04-21-2009, 10:45 AM

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Originally Posted by Huggles

Sleazy if you posted a pic of you rolling around on a tarp covered in baby oil, your face smeared with coleslaw and macaroni salad, with various scattered half-eaten chicken bones and an overturned bucket in the picture, it would be epic on a scale never before seen on GFY.

somebody seems to have a fantasy.............

SleazyDream · 04-21-2009, 10:47 AM

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Originally Posted by Huggles

Do you think when you guys are swinging that the other couple's woman sees you and goes "Oh, I am the luckiest girl on earth today"

?

they usually don't say that, mostly what I hear (esp when I take a cialis pill) is ahhhhhhhhh, ohhhhhhhh, yeah yeah yeah yeah yeah yeah , yes yes yes yes yes yes yes yes give it to me, like that like that like that like that like that , and the like.

SleazyDream · 04-21-2009, 11:00 AM

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Originally Posted by Kimmykim

Hmmmm, I wonder if I know this person.

you do.

mind you kimmykim knows everyone..................

Kimmykim · 04-21-2009, 11:07 AM

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Originally Posted by SleazyDream

you do.

mind you kimmykim knows everyone..................

Not anymore, I hardly know anyone that hasn't been around for years...

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