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RugbyChode · 06-02-2004, 12:09 AM

Does kissing a girl and sleeping in her bed (nothing more happened) make you obligated to her and tell her that you are hooking up with other people? This makes no sense to me. DId I do something wrong? I dont think so. Let me know. post related stories if this happens a lot.

Gheenz · 06-02-2004, 12:11 AM

Honesty is the best policy. Just tell her how it is.

RugbyChode · 06-02-2004, 12:16 AM

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Originally posted by milhouse_dick
Honesty is the best policy. Just tell her how it is.

yeah but i only stayed with her like 4 times and this new girl is the one that is actaully cool. Im just saying im not obligated to tell a "hook-up" that Im going somewhere else.

jmarzlak · 06-02-2004, 01:04 AM

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Originally posted by milhouse_dick
Honesty is the best policy. Just tell her how it is.

I hate to say it but this guy is right

Evelyn · 06-02-2004, 01:13 AM

You have no obligation to 1st girl since no promise were made.

As far as decency, telling her the truth is a moral high ground.

Who knows, she may be ok with it if she's really into you and thinks she will eventually win you over. Some girls like competion early on.

Unless she's already acting like your girlfriend and you didn't lead her to that, you shouldn't continue to lead her on by not saying anything.

If she finds out on her own while thinking she's with you, you might be in for an even bigger confrontation and/or a bunch of tears, and that would make you feel bad especially if you knew you might have been able to prevent hurt feelings.

If you don't tell a girl where you stand in the relationship early on, they will be left on their own to assume what they want.

Misunderstandings can usually be avoided when you are clear about your intentions.

Good luck!

StRoGE · 06-02-2004, 01:16 AM

Tell girl #1 that you didnt make any commitment with her and continue to see girl #2. If girl #1 doesnt like it, she can end the casual hookup.
I was in the same situation a while ago and unfortunately told girl #1 off and wasnt the nicest about it. I got mad because she was treating it as a relationship and giving me shit about not calling her and stuff when it was just a casual thing (and we BOTH agreed it was casual).
My advice to you, is to be honest but still try to keep both girls until you get to know them better.

RugbyChode · 06-02-2004, 01:33 AM

Good advice all around, but i forgot to mention girl #1 knew i was kinda seeing someone before her (that fell thru before i hooked up with girl #1) and i just talked to girl #2 yesterday and fpound out we get along and then that night shit blows up. Guess that what I get for messin around with soroity girls.

sixxxth_sense · 06-02-2004, 01:34 AM

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Originally posted by RugbyChode
Does kissing a girl and sleeping in her bed (nothing more happened) make you obligated to her and tell her that you are hooking up with other people? This makes no sense to me. DId I do something wrong? I dont think so. Let me know. post related stories if this happens a lot.

u slept with her and did nothing?

LOL a man thats sadddddd

06-02-2004, 01:35 AM

I am in the middle of "seeing" many girls at the same time...

while I got this one "more serious" one, we have agreed that it is only a relationship based on lust and sexual purposs...

I have not told her that i hook up with other girls
if she were to ask, I wouldn't lie, but I am not obligated to telling her how it really is

I Wont be surprised if she is seeing other guys as well

jmarzlak · 06-02-2004, 01:40 AM

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Originally posted by sixxxth_sense
u slept with her and did nothing?

LOL a man thats sadddddd

GOT 'EM

stev0 · 06-02-2004, 01:40 AM

Of course kissing a girl and sleeping in her bed will make her think you're with her... Put yourself in her shoes.

reynold · 06-02-2004, 01:42 AM

Better straighten up everything right from the start.

RugbyChode · 06-02-2004, 02:03 AM

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Originally posted by sixxxth_sense
u slept with her and did nothing?

LOL a man thats sadddddd

pretty much, but you would be surprised how much that happens in Florida. Ask my man Jmarzlak who does it for a living

jmarzlak · 06-02-2004, 01:29 PM

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Originally posted by RugbyChode
pretty much, but you would be surprised how much that happens in Florida. Ask my man Jmarzlak who does it for a living

you just don't know how to pimp, you can't do it within a group of friends unless you are a true pimp. But you are learning ;)

06-02-2004, 01:13 AM	#5
Evelyn Confirmed User Join Date: Feb 2003 Location: Mt Olympus with a summer villa in Atlantis Posts: 584	You have no obligation to 1st girl since no promise were made. As far as decency, telling her the truth is a moral high ground. Who knows, she may be ok with it if she's really into you and thinks she will eventually win you over. Some girls like competion early on. Unless she's already acting like your girlfriend and you didn't lead her to that, you shouldn't continue to lead her on by not saying anything. If she finds out on her own while thinking she's with you, you might be in for an even bigger confrontation and/or a bunch of tears, and that would make you feel bad especially if you knew you might have been able to prevent hurt feelings. If you don't tell a girl where you stand in the relationship early on, they will be left on their own to assume what they want. Misunderstandings can usually be avoided when you are clear about your intentions. Good luck! __________________ The ability to quote is a servicable substitute for wit. -Somerset Maugham SAMPLE HOSTED GALLERIES 1 \| 2 \| 3 \| 4 \| 5 \| 6

06-02-2004, 01:16 AM	#6
StRoGE Confirmed User Join Date: Mar 2004 Location: Canada Posts: 1,713	Tell girl #1 that you didnt make any commitment with her and continue to see girl #2. If girl #1 doesnt like it, she can end the casual hookup. I was in the same situation a while ago and unfortunately told girl #1 off and wasnt the nicest about it. I got mad because she was treating it as a relationship and giving me shit about not calling her and stuff when it was just a casual thing (and we BOTH agreed it was casual). My advice to you, is to be honest but still try to keep both girls until you get to know them better. __________________ [URL=http://www.stupidcash.com/referral=sailorslut/][/URL

06-02-2004, 01:33 AM	#7
RugbyChode Confirmed User Join Date: Apr 2004 Location: Oviedo Posts: 189	Good advice all around, but i forgot to mention girl #1 knew i was kinda seeing someone before her (that fell thru before i hooked up with girl #1) and i just talked to girl #2 yesterday and fpound out we get along and then that night shit blows up. Guess that what I get for messin around with soroity girls. __________________ Like my new sig

06-02-2004, 12:09 AM	#1
RugbyChode Confirmed User Join Date: Apr 2004 Location: Oviedo Posts: 189	So i get this phone call and it poses a valiant question? Does kissing a girl and sleeping in her bed (nothing more happened) make you obligated to her and tell her that you are hooking up with other people? This makes no sense to me. DId I do something wrong? I dont think so. Let me know. post related stories if this happens a lot. __________________ Like my new sig

06-02-2004, 12:11 AM	#2
Gheenz Here's Your Sign Join Date: Oct 2003 Location: MT, USA Posts: 2,410	Honesty is the best policy. Just tell her how it is. __________________ Those who can make you believe absurdities can make you commit atrocities. -Voltaire

06-02-2004, 01:35 AM	#9
buddyjuf Guest Posts: n/a	I am in the middle of "seeing" many girls at the same time... while I got this one "more serious" one, we have agreed that it is only a relationship based on lust and sexual purposs... I have not told her that i hook up with other girls if she were to ask, I wouldn't lie, but I am not obligated to telling her how it really is I Wont be surprised if she is seeing other guys as well

06-02-2004, 01:40 AM	#11
stev0 Confirmed User Join Date: Aug 2003 Location: Calgary, Alberta Posts: 6,801	Of course kissing a girl and sleeping in her bed will make her think you're with her... Put yourself in her shoes.

06-02-2004, 01:42 AM	#12
reynold Too lazy to set a custom title Join Date: Oct 2002 Location: Global Traveler Posts: 51,271	Better straighten up everything right from the start.