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#1 |
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Join Date: Jul 2001
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What to Do When Your Dumped! LOL
umm seriously folks mrs bulldog told me today she no longer wants to go out with mr bulldog, ive been thinking the same for weeks (i was going to tell her), but ive realised i still deeply love her , what do i do>?
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#2 |
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Cry Bulldog, or if you ever watch Frasier and are like that BD
![]() Or, wait till she comes back in a week or so ![]() ------------------ Paulus... Megageil.tv NaughtyCelebs.co.uk |
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#3 |
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been 2 years as well, thing is i treated her like shit last 2 months so its my fautl really and ive done the crying bit allready lol
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#4 |
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advice please? should i just leave it or what
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#5 |
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Location: il and nc
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don't dwell on it. go have some fun.
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#6 |
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Breakups are always tough...Hang in there!
Count yourself lucky that she feels the same way. |
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#7 |
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Join Date: Jul 2001
Location: Norway
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I'm sorry for you, man.
My girlfriend told me that she didn't love me anymore a couple of months ago.. I said "OK, honey. I'll give you 2 weeks" .. A week later, she called me and said that she wasn't sure if this was the right think to do, and that she might have done the biggest mistake of her life ++ .. I've told her loads of times in the past, that if she leaves me, she LEAVES. No "I want to be friends" crap, and that if she leaves, she can't come back.. Well.. I said to her when she called me : You know i've told you to NOT come back if you leave.. She started crying.. A few days later she called me again and wanted to meet me.. I met her, and she said that she regret her decision and wanted me back.. I said "I'm not sure, I have to think about it." .. Then suddenly, I ruled. I was in charge of the future between us, and I could make her beg me if I wanted. That was cool. But of course, I said that I wanted her back, and we've been going out for 8 months now.. But I treat her nicely, though :-) Good luck, man! btw, if you really want her, treat her the way she deserves, maybe a little extra, since you're an adult webmaster you have an OK income at least, so take her out, spoil her.. Say : "Can you go on a very last date with me?" .. Take her out for dinner, and maybe a movie and such.. Take a cab home, when you're at her house, give her a kiss on the forehead or on the cheak (is cheak a word?).. Don't say anything.. Just look at her, and then leave.. If you're a nice guy, you'll get her back. Definetely. And after that final date, don't contact her.. I think she'll contact you.. Just a thought :-) |
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#8 |
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what you need to do is WORK make 18 hour days (and if you did that already make that 20) and you'll just forget her when you pass out and fall asleep on the keyboard...
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#9 |
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thats excellent advice man! i think i will try that thanks ;0 good look in your future
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#10 |
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Join Date: Jul 2001
Location: Amsterdam Holland
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be happy get another.
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#12 |
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Location: Queens NY
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believe me.. you live
![]() I fell inlove wit this girl before and i bugged her to come back when we broke up .. and cried for about a month.. then few more weeks later.. i found another girl.. tho none of them are with me right now.. i still think back to the time i was depressed and laugh about how i acted.. you'll live ![]() |
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#13 |
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*throws bulldog a biscuit*
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#14 |
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bulldog takes the biscuit, yum yum feeling better allready , woof!
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2 years is a while...
I left my wife 2 years ago (we saw each other for 8 years) but even though I was the one that left her I think it hurt me the most. I'm not sure what kind of person you are (poetry and art or beer and football) but I have always loved my X and will continue to do so. I found that having a relation ship with her and being a part of her life was what mattered to me most. I think the work more think about it less idea is a good one and it works!!! Just do things that make you feel good about yourself and you will end up in the right place, in the right state of mind. I ended up sending alot more time with my friends also (they were/are a good distraction) Good Luck and don't get too bumbed ------------------ The power of a potato |
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#16 |
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"I found that having a relation ship with her and being a part of her life was what mattered to me most. "
and thats what i will miss, it hurts |
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bitchslapping zebras!!!!!
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Hey it's not over yet...
Plenty of times people just need to take a little bit of time and re-evaluate the situation -- maybe you guys have gotten too comfortable together and stopped trying -- or maybe you really don't belong together, no way to tell just yet, at least from here -- Quite often when a couple splits up they realize they didn't mean to and they get back together -- if that's what should happen in their case -- Be patient, it will all work out ![]() |
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#18 |
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he guyz and girlz must say thankz for advice and help, ive seen another side of the GFY board. thankz
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#19 |
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There is still hope bulldog. I just broke up with my gf a month ago, and she said she didnt want to see me again, so I gave her time and didn't talk to her. I saw her 2 days ago and she said it was a huge mistake and that we need to try to work things out because she loves me with all her heart and said she doesnt realize what she has until its gone... So just give her time, if it was meant to be, she will come back. Good luck
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#20 |
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Sometimes people want what they can't have and want it back for all the wrong reasons, so first you need to evaluate why you want her back. What was it about the relationship that fulfilled you? Why were you treating her badly?
If you truly feel that you love her and there is a possibility of a long-term relationship that is healthy then talk to her about it. Tell her you know you weren't kind to her for the last few months. Women need to have their feelings validated and if she knows your aware of it she will have an easier time believing that you won't do it again. If it's truly over than it's just gonna hurt for a while and all the distractions in the world aren't going to change that. Spend time with friends as much as possible. Take on new projects that fill up your time, and in time it will hurt less and less, and you'll be fine. Enchantress |
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I went tru the same thing about a year ago with an ex she ended up finding someone right after we broke up and they are still together to this day we still talk once in awile and even tho i still love her life goes on.
Sometimes 2 people are 2 be together sometimes not only time will tell dont get depressed go get laid have fun with your friends and just chill out do all the things you dont do when your in a relationship ![]() If things are ment to be they will be ![]() |
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#22 |
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EVERYONE WILL LOVE THIS FUCKING SHIT! YOU HAVE TO READ THIS LINK..
http://www.badsamaritan.com/archives/00000016.php |
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#23 |
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Dude, I can't believe nobody has told you to drink yet - it's like having a wake after the death of a loved one - the death of a relationship hurts the same way - a bottle of Jack helps clear the system out, or maybe just does enough brain damage to alter your outlook...
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#24 |
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why not just go be a man whore go have fun... to many fish in the sea to mope around one
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#25 |
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shes asked me to meet her next week ? Do I?
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#26 |
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yeah, bring a bag with any stuff she left at your place
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I'm with Kat, definately a good 'shocker' for her
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#28 |
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I have contemplated responding to this several times. Anyone who knows me knows that I am a very private person, and that is for a myriad of reasons.
When I was 24, my wife left me. I was in the military, and I had two small children ages 9 months and 22 months. My wife left while we were living in Hawaii, and with the exception of one time when My kids were 11 and 12 years old, they have not seen their mother in that entire time. This was one of the single largest defining moments in my adult life. I did everything I knew how to do at that time, in order to get her back. I then drank myself into oblivion for about 6 months while my parents took over the role of raising my children. Somehow, I was able to pick up the pieces of that life and move on. It forced me to do many things, and many was the night I found myself after having put the kids to bed just looking at a blank television and wondering if this was all there was to life. I spent the next ten years moving through life as a blind person would move through a brightly lit room. I felt everyone else around me navigating normally totally unaware of how lost I was. I made many mistakes, allowed my anger to control my destiny, and felt as if I were cast upon a sea to navigate without any fixed points in space. There was a point to this, a point that I was unable to see during the time that it was occuring to me. These experiences, these successes and failures, were preparing me for a time that lay ahead. The only thing, I believe, that a person can do when faced with a life-changing event, is to evaluate what their role was in the event and learn from it. As the philosopher Santa Ana States "Those who forget the past are doomed to repeat it". When I met Kandi, there was an instant moment of recognition between us. As if we were two souls, split at birth, coming together. The failures and experiences of my past prepared me for a moment that I had only dreamed would have been possible in my life. In her, I have found a friend, a companion, a lover, a confidante, a partner and a life-mate. She healed places in me that I did not know were even broken, and she has told me that I have done the same for her. M. Scott Peck once wrote, "Life is Difficult, but once you accept that difficulty the task of living becomes that much easier". This is a paradigm that I have held onto for most of my adult life. I believe that this life is a gestation period, one in which that we are as infants, and one in which that our future is shrouded from us simply so that we may learn to navigate by faith, and in the belief of who we are and what we stand for. I do not know what the right thing for you to do, and neither does anyone else. If you have done all that you can do to repair this, then you must live with what has happened and grow from it. If you have the ability to see what it was that failed at, and you believe that you have a responsibility in it, then you will be compelled to do something about it - either now, or at some later point in your life. I believe that this will either be repaired, or it will prepare you for the time when you will meet your soul mate. As Robert Browning so eloquently states, "Grow old with me, the best is yet to be, The last of Life, for which the first was made". He means simply, that what is to come, is merely a shadow of what has been, and all that has been, will prepare you for what is to come. I will stop waxing philosophical. I know that most people see me as an analytical scientist, and perhaps that is because that is what life dictated I become in order to provide for my family. But inside, as is the case with most of us, I am really still the musician and poet that I was in my youth and age has only tempered the blade that was already foreseen in hands of the Master. I wish you only the best, ------------------ Midnight The Midnight Collection Midnight Ventures Partner Program Excellence is not an act, but a habit - Aristotle |
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#29 |
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Join Date: Aug 2001
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Sammy Fox!
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