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All I was saying is, one can't go far without shoes. Don't be a pussy.
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I would think the best way to keep a kid out of trouble is giving him plenty of
good things to do. After school sports, hobbies, time with good friends and quality time with family which it sounds like he is seriously lacking. If a kid is bored and lonely he's bound to do just about anything to get some attention. |
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Get him a dirt bike.
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and what the fuck does "knowing" anyone have to do with it? you are talking about a compulsive behavior. if a guy compulsively sets fires to property and feels some sort of gratification from doing so... no one needs to meet him to understand he has some issues and most likely pyromania. stop rationalizing shit and come to grips with the fact that the kid is crying out for help and/or acting out as the result of either trauma he's experienced or he has a serious behavioral disorder that''s going to haunt him for ever. instead of doing the right thing... you ask one of the worlds largest collection of dysfunctional retards for answers and help which speaks volumes about your own maturity/sincerity and actual ability to adequately help the child. |
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Some dysfunctional retards even paste quotes from other banned board members into their GFY signatures. Can you fucking believe that shit?
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Pleasurepays, I need to see that degree before I read your reply.
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Sounds like the entire family is fucked. There is no way your girlfriend could have been raised in the same house and not inherited some of the fuckedupness.Run dude...RUNNNNN
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dysfunctional people surrounded by dysfunctional behaviors... probably just a coincidence.
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Had an adopted cousin that was a klepto but he only visited once thankfully or there would have been problems, think he mostly grew out of it.
I'm guessing the kid is seeking attention cause of the fuckedup family, send him to a shrink if you really care or cut off his hands that would be more effective. |
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I know what's wrong with this kid, I used to be the same way... but the GFY psychologists just won't get over their dire need to explain to me WHATS wrong with him, instead of giving me a idea on a way to get him to stop stealing. |
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Alright guys, thanks for the fun, I'm gonna go watch Simpsons, Family Guy, and maybe beat off, toodles.
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I tend to side with the "he's using you.." comment. Sociopaths never grow past the "people as objects" psychology and will use and dispose of those around them their whole life. By stealing and/or destroying your property, he is showing contempt for you and his own family. THIS lack of respect would need to be dealt with and I honestly don't know if there is a cure for sociopaths. You can punish him so that he can find more devious and deceitful methods but his psyche seems to remain the same - an unapologetic sociopath. I remember a forensic files where a couple deserately tried to deal with a sociopathic child for years, gave up and kicked him out. He ended up in Juvvie and came back to kill them. Good luck with your situation and I'm truly sorry.
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In my opinion, the kid's behavior is a cry for attention. His father left before he was born and he has an uncaring mother who focuses more on her boyfriend than him. To add to the dysfunctional recipe, the only parental figures he has are you and your girlfriend.
He's stealing because he gets attention when he does. He gets attention from you and your girlfriend. He gets attention from his otherwise uncaring mother when you scold him. The need for attention is fundamental when growing up, and it's usually provided by a stable and loving household. He didn't have one. I'm quite sure he's not a kleptomaniac because, from your description, the thefts are premeditated and focused on valuable items. I'm assuming he takes the valuable items because the value of the items determines the magnitude of the response he'll receive. If you and your girlfriend have the time, I believe the best course of action would be to help him channel his energy into productive and positive pursuits. Hang out with the kid if you can. Boost his self-esteem. Show him that he doesn't need to steal to get attention. |
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@ Templar: If he was a sociopath, he'd be way smarter and would be able to wriggle himself out of the problems.
@ Sands and everyone else offering smart advice: he doesn't care about reasons or solutions that involve him getting psychological help, he wants something quick and painless: Q: "So, my rooftop is made of acrylic sheets, but it doesn't match so it has a leak and leaks on stuff" A: "Use some tape"
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Alright, I reread this thread and I want to apologize to everyone for what I said, including you Pleasurepays. I understand what you all mean, but I just didn't want to admit it... Besides the stupid shit he does, and stealing, I see myself in him like I mentioned, and I know he can be a good kid, because I've seen him do very well...
For fucks sake, my girlfriend went to Michigan to visit old friends over christmas time and it was just me and him for a week, he was one of the best kids I ever spent time with, we spent most of the time playing xbox and watching tv together... I just want to see him grow up and be something good, and not worthless like his mother and father are. |
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When kids are acting out, they are asking for help. The best decision you will make in your relationship with him is to start asking "why he is stealing" rather than "how do i punish him" and that process will lead to both of you being happier and having a stronger relationship. Thats very good news man!! ![]() |
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You need to tell this young man it is time to 'Wake UP!'
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So I know he can change without needing medication, or some therapist, he just needs the right motivation. |
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What you said about spending time with him over xmas and him being a great kid is probably a great option, when he is given positive attention he doesn't have to do stuff just to get "any" kind of attention
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he may just have a compulsive behavior problem (OCD related). it would really take a therapist to sort this out. for example.... maybe he's not really acting out because his parents got divorced or whatever.. maybe he literally has an obsessive compulsive disorder and can't stop himself from stealing things and hoarding them. in any case, punishing the behavior, still doesn't treat the problem. If there is a concern with taking him to a therapist, maybe you can find someone a professional to talk to and get some advice. i would venture to guess that once you've described everything, the home situation, about him, what he does, what he says about it etc etc etc... .they can tell you pretty definitively what the issue most likely is and what the best course of action is. just bear in mind that you can't punish a heroin addict into not being a heroin addict. a heroin addict needs addiction treatment and therapy to actually get back on track again.... and even then its a tough road. the problem isnt the drug... the problem is the emotional issues the addict is dealing with and the resulting use of the drugs to self medicate. if all else fails... i would try to have an open and honest conversation that's non confrontational. that's a tough thing to do when everyone is prone to being defensive on all sides of an issue like this and where blame truly lies at everyone's feet. start by letting him know you care about him and think he's a great kid and ease into the subject gently, letting him know that you see a lot of bad behaviors all around you...not just in him, in you, in his parents, grandparents etc and are concerned that it might be affecting him, making him angry etc. I remember always reacting to aggression with aggression at home. I hated my father who was very abusive and saw everything as "him against me" and had the mentality that i was going to win no matter what, every time. If i got grounded... no tv, no phone, friends etc for a week... i would make it a point to not talk to anyone, not have friends over, play out side etc and come out of my room for a month just "to win". Be aware of the consequences of any action you choose to take and how it might have a negative impact on the issues, him, your relationship with him etc. I think its all a way of asking for help... anyone that steps up and meets that cry for help with a negative response isn't likely to help the problem. |
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I am all about capitol punishment so to speak for stealing .. that and playing with fire ..
I have 4 kids .. the first thing that crossed my mind immediately was to stick his little arms in a vice a break out the hack saw .. seriously wrap his wrists and tell him your going to cut his fucking little stealing hand off.... he will scream .. cry and beg .. allow him ONE chance .. look him right in the face and tell him you have no problem going back to JAIL and will cut his little fucking hand off if he steals again .. !! .. ( of couse not really going to do it .. )
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