LAJay - Detrimental Networking Mistakes - GoFuckYourself.com

Barefootsies · 05-05-2009, 09:41 AM

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Jay Kopita, aka LAJay, from YNOT and Cybernet Expo stops by to impart some wisdom from his many years pressing the flesh. We've talked in the past about what you should do, and even why, when you are at an event meeting new people. Now we concentrate on what you should not do to create that lasting impression. Specifically: quantity vs quality in making contacts; how to know when deeper relationship building is warranted and potentially fruitful; in-person spamming; rookie and veteran mistakes; and the top 3 networking never-do's.

In the news we have a new contest to win passes to Cybernet Expo; possible HR hanky panky at Friend Finder; a light at the end of the tunnel of the tube site debacle; and our WTF: Oregon's new law makes facials and pulling out illegal.

http://www.sin20.com/podcast/050409-...rking-mistakes

The Duck · 05-05-2009, 09:53 AM

Quality podcast right there.

Barefootsies · 05-05-2009, 09:55 AM

Remember, fast forward through the first half to get to the interview.

JimmiDean · 05-05-2009, 10:16 AM

Jay is one of the most solid people in the industry by far.

nation-x · 05-05-2009, 10:51 AM

He should have gone a little further and talk more about connecting with your mark. I listened to the interview twice and he hit alot of key points about marketing and sales in general... He should have clarified his comments about getting to know people before you make a pitch. In all of my years of sales experience, this was the most important skill I have ever learned... if you open up a little and are transparent, most of your clients will come to you looking for a pitch... they will ASK you for a pitch. It happens to me all of the time because they want to have a relationship with me. It's how I separate the cream from the milk to be metaphorical.

pornguy · 05-05-2009, 10:59 AM

Yep Pretty damn nice guy.

Kiwigirl · 05-05-2009, 11:28 AM

Jay has definitely given me some wonderful advice & shown me a few things in the past 7 years that I have known him. He is one of the most approachable guys in the biz and I am thankful to actually call him my friend!

Barefootsies · 05-05-2009, 11:32 AM

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Originally Posted by nation-x

He should have gone a little further and talk more about connecting with your mark. I listened to the interview twice and he hit alot of key points about marketing and sales in general... He should have clarified his comments about getting to know people before you make a pitch. In all of my years of sales experience, this was the most important skill I have ever learned... if you open up a little and are transparent, most of your clients will come to you looking for a pitch... they will ASK you for a pitch. It happens to me all of the time because they want to have a relationship with me. It's how I separate the cream from the milk to be metaphorical.

Well said.

CIVMatt · 05-05-2009, 12:18 PM

Very nice guy I always enjoy running into Jay

Cyandin · 05-05-2009, 12:37 PM

I fully endorse this "LAJ is a homie" thread!

Deej · 05-05-2009, 12:39 PM

WTF!!?!?

Its illegal in oregon to pull out and throw a load on your girl's face?

Im totally moving

davecummings · 05-05-2009, 02:37 PM

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Originally Posted by pornguy

Yep Pretty damn nice guy.

Agree--and, he's smart, hard-working, considerate of others, and very sharp.

Gosh, it sounds like I think he's a nephew, or something!!!

Seriously, Jay ROCKS!!!! (So does Connor and all the YNOT folks!!).

JenniDahling · 05-05-2009, 04:01 PM

Very sound advice. LAJay is one of the hardest networkers in the industry and it shows.

sin2oh · 05-06-2009, 10:32 AM

Thanks for listening! Want to advertise? Want to be a guest? Hit us up [email protected]

CherryLipsRosa · 05-06-2009, 10:36 AM

LAJ is a great person and a wonderful friend !! A+

AssPirate · 05-06-2009, 10:48 AM

love is in the air today...

Honez · 05-06-2009, 11:03 AM

Rock solid advice. I would expect nothing less from LAJ ;)

PantiesDropped · 05-06-2009, 01:51 PM

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Originally Posted by Cyandin

I fully endorse this "LAJ is a homie" thread!

I do too!

LAJ · 05-06-2009, 03:08 PM

Wow... good lord... wasn't expecting this thread.

Thanks so much everyone!

C H R I S · 05-06-2009, 03:13 PM

LAJ lovefest.... I'll bump to that....

Kroy · 05-06-2009, 03:14 PM

Jay is one of the most solid, stand-up guys in the industry, and a fantastic networker and PR guy. A Must-Listen podcast

Barefootsies · 05-06-2009, 03:15 PM

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Originally Posted by LAJ

Wow... good lord... wasn't expecting this thread.

Thanks so much everyone!

Feel the LAJ love.

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