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Ethersync · 10-22-2010, 07:46 AM

Good on you Steve. Thanks for sharing the story.

dyna mo · 10-22-2010, 07:50 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Matyko

Made me remember this:

i've never been able to heal such wounds with just an apology. jut like earl, i have to do something/take action to clean up the wrong and make it right in addition to an apology.

Amputate Your Head · 10-22-2010, 07:54 AM

good job steve..... you did a good thing man.

michael.kickass · 10-22-2010, 08:01 AM

You da man Steve!

CIVMatt · 10-22-2010, 09:04 AM

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Originally Posted by candyflip

Now tell her what you do for a living.

Haha exact same thing I was thinking.. Steve: "So how old is your daughter again?"

LAJ · 10-22-2010, 09:09 AM

People grow up they move on. I went to my 20th year high school reunion and was blown away at how people changed over the years. The people I thought were some of the biggest dicks turned out to be the most interested in what I'm doing.

Tom_PM · 10-22-2010, 09:13 AM

I still remember an incident from when I was in 3rd grade and will simply never forget. So I can appreciate what you did there, and commend you for it. I doubt that the person who's dishonesty put me in the blame for something she did will ever reach out to me and apologize, so I'll live vicariously for a moment through your recipient and share her feelings for a moment. So thanks for that.

O MARINA · 10-22-2010, 09:14 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by dyna mo

i've never been able to heal such wounds with just an apology..

that's right abman, actions speak louder than words

_Richard_ · 10-22-2010, 09:14 AM

good for you

Stephen · 10-22-2010, 09:24 AM

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Originally Posted by SteveLightspeed

I wanted to make it right.

Good job, Steve -- healing old wounds is vital and too often overlooked.

"The wreckage of my past keeps haunting me; it just won't leave me alone..."
-- Ozzy Osbourne

Bryan G · 10-22-2010, 09:26 AM

Very Cool!

The Porn Nerd · 10-22-2010, 09:56 AM

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Originally Posted by CaptainHowdy

Is this supossed to be some kind of displacement from the "Chris Mallick will make everything right" thread? What a phony situation...

I'm beginning to get the feeling, CaptainHowdy, that you have a very negative view on most things.

CaptainHowdy · 10-22-2010, 10:14 AM

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Originally Posted by MisterPeabody

I'm beginning to get the feeling, CaptainHowdy, that you have a very negative view on most things.

...

It's pure false modesty, even as an apology it's sheer self-gloating.

Vick! · 10-22-2010, 12:05 PM

Damn! I never thought this way.

I know I have bullied some, but I am not feeling like apologizing anyone at this moment.

May be its because I am too young, or because I always counter-bullied and never picked on someone nice and the one who can be easily bullied.

Nice story Steve, thanks for sharing and giving a thought.

pornguy · 10-22-2010, 12:21 PM

Dude. You screwed her life. She dropped out of school because of you and had 3 kids.. Damn and just a letter to make it all better???

Just kidding. Nice thing you did there.

Shap · 10-22-2010, 12:28 PM

You know I read the title and thought the whole my name is earl thing. But after reading the exchange I have to say that was pretty amazing. good for you man. You made someone's day and that will come back to you in some way. Hopefully in something positive for your daughter.

st0ned · 10-22-2010, 12:31 PM

Wow, I gotta say...that is actually pretty cool. It actually kinda makes me want to do the same thing.

Phoenix · 10-22-2010, 12:38 PM

cool story man...neat that she got to share some emotions at work with her friends...maybe they are all going to be better friends for that as well

marketsmart · 10-22-2010, 12:48 PM

i wish the 7 guys that gang raped me last week would find me on facebook and apologize...

.

The Porn Nerd · 10-22-2010, 12:51 PM

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Originally Posted by marketsmart

i wish the 7 guys that gang raped me last week would find me on facebook and apologize...

.

You don't have to search Facebook. I don't know about the other 6 guys but I'm really sorry about that rape thing, especially now since my balls have this funny cheese-like substance on them. Have you checked with a doctor about your asshole?

SteveLightspeed · 10-22-2010, 01:11 PM

For the record, I've never watched "My Name is Earl".

CybermedAndy · 10-22-2010, 01:16 PM

Wow this kinda blows me away.

I was mean to a girl in high school too. Pretty viciously actually, endless taunting. That shit haunts you years later. I still cringe when I think about it.

I ran into the girl years ago and offered a heartfelt apology for everything we put her through. She was gracious and appreciative.

Regardless I still have all sorts of pain associated with how we treated this girl.

CybermedAndy · 10-22-2010, 01:17 PM

P.S.

Good for you Steve for doing that. Shows you got a soul and conscience.

TeenSluts · 10-22-2010, 01:30 PM

very kind of you to reach out like that

rep

Jdoughs · 10-22-2010, 01:32 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by SteveLightspeed

For the record, I've never watched "My Name is Earl".

You should, great sitcom about a guy who finds 'Karma' (or karma finds him) after winning a 100k on a scratch ticket.

Allison · 10-22-2010, 02:20 PM

This was really touching to see both sides of this and know how much both of you were carrying through these years and how just a simple statement can provide so much healing.

kichi · 10-22-2010, 02:25 PM

you are obviously not the type to give anonymous donations are you?

EllaBlack · 10-22-2010, 02:25 PM

Steve,
See, it's true, you are a sweetheart.

EllaBlack · 10-22-2010, 02:26 PM

At least NOW ;)

SteveLightspeed · 10-22-2010, 02:30 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by kichi

you are obviously not the type to give anonymous donations are you?

Actually, we do that all the time. But I thought sharing this story might somehow help other people that bullied/got bullied too.

Odie · 10-22-2010, 02:35 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Imortyl Pussycat

your story made me cry as i remembered moving to a small hick town from the city and all the kids making fun of my speech, my clothes and my darker skin (they were all white with no exotic in them), i was in 3rd grade at the time and it continued for a year or so. i was miserable and wanted the fuck out of there so bad. i ended up making tons of friends and leaving the bad feelings behind. but the best part was.....

I grew up to be way better looking than all those bitches and assholes that picked on me

AWWWW!!! I can relate..

we moved to a small hick town full of Nazi's when i was 4 and all I did was get picked on till I was 16. We even had race wars in high school..it was so traumatizing. I recently had some of the kids find me on f/b and wow are they ever fat and ugly lol!

Here's to being beautiful Julie!

Kiwigirl · 10-22-2010, 02:38 PM

Thanks for sharing Steve.
Now if only some of the people on this board could do the same and learn to play nice instead of being rude, obnoxious and arrogant.

dyna mo · 10-22-2010, 02:39 PM

this guy is taking action on bullying:

Quote:

Undefeated MMA badass Daniel Puder is laying the blueprints for a nationwide gay-bullying crackdown -- here's how it works: 1) send the dude an email, 2) dude flies to your school, 3) no more bully.
The issue of bullying has clearly made an impact on the former WWE star ... who recently blogged, "There is an issue with our society when gay young kids are getting bullied to the point they are killing themselves."

He adds,"You email me, I'll go fly to your school ... and we'll go talk to the bullies for you."

And that, ladies and gentlemen, is how you make 500,000 bullies crap their pants at once.

baddog · 10-22-2010, 02:46 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by dyna mo

this guy is taking action on bullying:

Take charge!

dyna mo · 10-22-2010, 02:51 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by baddog

Take charge!

hahahah, nice!

Vegas Ken · 10-22-2010, 03:18 PM

Kudos and good Karma for you!
Thanks for sharing.

SteveLightspeed · 10-22-2010, 03:24 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Jesus H Christ

Odd thread/post:

Let me get this straight, you apologized after 35 years because you now have a daughter the same age is when you bullied Tina? .... a bit disingenuous don't you think?

As I said, I wanted to apologize to her at the start of the next school year, but she had moved away. I tried to contact her before, but was only able to locate her after she joined facebook. The 35 year old wound was also mine.

But honestly, my daughter getting picked on at school did make it all more tangible to me. Having children of your own really makes you see lots of things about yourself differently. I think its human nature.

don_chelle · 10-22-2010, 04:01 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by RyuLion

I always knew you had a good heart man.

lol!

comments like this always make me laugh!

SteveLightspeed · 10-22-2010, 07:39 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Jesus H Christ

My point is you state that here to us, but your message to Tina:

Not trying to bust your balls, but your message reads about YOUR feelings by proxy because of your daughter and not what you did.

Meaning, it would have meant more if you left your daughter out of it..

I see your point, but its hard to sum up 35 years of emotions in just a few lines. I think she got it, and I plan to follow up with her too since she friend'd me on facebook.

GFY crowd sure is hard to please...

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