Split With Fiance

[dillfly2000]

Split with fiance up after 4 years of no arguments, just fun good times and love.
I'm drunk and high in Canada both legal so no judgement (you can judge if you want)

Lovable (too lovable if you ask me) Korean fiance always wanted to join the forces, applies for naval officer, she gets accepted. Goes to basic training in Quebec. All is good for the first month stays in contact as much as possible. eventually starts to sound distant, I ask what's the deal? She says she met another guy on base. I end it instantly, block all contact with her, almost no way of ever hearing form her again.

Been smoking weed like crazy trying to alter my mind state, going to the lounge daily since. swiping tinder like mad, temporary solution, Seems to help. Best thing to do is engulf myself in public as much as possible, don't want those depressing thoughts creeping up.

Anyway, hoping you're all enjoying the day lol.
Another day a new beginning.

[astronaut x]

Breaking up sucks. Especially when you actually love the person. Right now, you are using coping mechanisms. Coping mechanisms can be extremely medicating, but you are vulnerable right now so if they are not managed properly, bad things could happen. Not preaching, just friendly advice from someone who has been there before.

Maybe this will help...

When i turned 30, I was depressed as hell about it. By the time I was 35 I started to tell myself, "Hey, at least I'm not 45." Now, I am 45.. I tell myself.. "Hey, at least I am not 55".

What does that have to do with a breakup? Well, its the way you look at things.

You already have another girlfriend. You just haven't met her yet.

Right now, you got some free time for yourself to do whatever the fuck you want. And you will miss it someday, and regret you didn't take the time to enjoy it to it's full extent.

[CurrentlySober]

Originally Posted by astronaut x

Breaking up sucks. Especially when you actually love the person. Right now, you are using coping mechanisms. Coping mechanisms can be extremely medicating, but you are vulnerable right now so if they are not managed properly, bad things could happen. Not preaching, just friendly advice from someone who has been there before.

Maybe this will help...

When i turned 30, I was depressed as hell about it. By the time I was 35 I started to tell myself, "Hey, at least I'm not 45." Now, I am 45.. I tell myself.. "Hey, at least I am not 55".

What does that have to do with a breakup? Well, its the way you look at things.

You already have another girlfriend. You just haven't met her yet.

Right now, you got some free time for yourself to do whatever the fuck you want. And you will miss it someday, and regret you didn't take the time to enjoy it to it's full extent.

This.

Great advice. Hope you get your head into a better space soon and sorry it didn't work out, but nothing is forever.

[RazorSharpe]

Originally Posted by CurrentlySober

This.

Great advice. Hope you get your head into a better space soon and sorry it didn't work out, but nothing is forever.

Herpes?

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[CurrentlySober]

Originally Posted by RazorSharpe

Herpes?

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Well, that would just be a bonus really. More of a souvenir in my book...

[Bladewire]

You dodged a bullet man lucky you. Damn!

She dropped a stable guy for a womanizing grunt that's going to dump her after basic training. Her problem. She's weaker than you thought. You got lucky to find out now.

Get every single thing of hers out of your house. Put it in a rented storage unit and mail her the key, or email her the lock combo, after it's all in there. Give her a deadline for picking it up. her stuff being out of your house gives her no reason to come back to your home.

Change your Facebook status to single (if you use Facebook. I don't.)

After you do that go on a mini vacation somewhere you haven't been in a place that you have to fly to. 4 days minimum. No logging into Facebook.

When you get back, go shopping for stuff to replace her things you put in storage.

Go for a long walk every morning.

Shower every morning.

Get your hair cut, maybe even die it.

Buy new different style clothes, and wear them.

Volunteer at a charity food warehouse. You'll be humbled by true suffering and deeply fulfilled with your value at making other's lives better.

She gave you the gift of a new fruitful beginning. Take it.

[dillfly2000]

Whoa, solid advice.
astronaut x, I am vulnerable I agree, but yes this is a new beginning. Time to forget and move on.

Thanks Sober, I think in a few months things will be easier.

Bladewire funny that you mentioned, I just went clothes shopping and got a hair cut today. refreshing.

Appreciate the up talk. It does help.

[Bladewire]

There's The One waiting for you out there

[shake]

You're free to party, bang whoever you want, move anywhere, start a new business, anything you want without having to answer to anyone. Just imagine if it happened down the road a bit and you're paying a lifetime of spousal and maybe child support for her to be banging someone else.

[Bladewire]

A song thanking the ex for lessons learned

​thank u, next
Ariana Grande
In a promotional clip for their November 3, 2018 episode, Saturday Night Live comedian, and Grande’… read more »

[Verse 1]
Thought I'd end up with Sean
But he wasn't a match
Wrote some songs about Ricky
Now I listen and laugh
Even almost got married
And for Pete, I'm so thankful
Wish I could say, "Thank you" to Malcolm
'Cause he was an angel

[Pre-Chorus]
One taught me love
One taught me patience
And one taught me pain
Now, I'm so amazing
I've loved and I've lost
But that's not what I see
So, look what I got
Look what you taught me
And for that, I say

[Chorus]
Thank you, next (Next)
Thank you, next (Next)
Thank you, next
I'm so fuckin' grateful for my ex
Thank you, next (Next)
Thank you, next (Next)
Thank you, next (Next)
I'm so fuckin'—

[Verse 2]
Spend more time with my friends
I ain't worried 'bout nothin'
Plus, I met someone else
We havin' better discussions
I know they say I move on too fast
But this one gon' last
'Cause her name is Ari
And I'm so good with that (So good with that)

[Pre-Chorus]
She taught me love (Love)
She taught me patience (Patience)
How she handles pain (Pain)
That shit's amazing (Yeah, she's amazing)
I've loved and I've lost (Yeah, yeah)
But that's not what I see (Yeah, yeah)
'Cause look what I've found (Yeah, yeah)
Ain't no need for searching, and for that, I say

[Chorus]
Thank you, next (Thank you, next)
Thank you, next (Thank you, next)
Thank you, next (Thank you)
I'm so fuckin' grateful for my ex
Thank you, next (Thank you, next)
Thank you, next (Said thank you, next)
Thank you, next (Next)
I'm so fuckin' grateful for my ex

[Post-Chorus]
Thank you, next
Thank you, next
Thank you, next
I'm so fucking—

[Bridge]
One day I'll walk down the aisle
Holding hands with my mama
I'll be thanking my dad
'Cause she grew from the drama
Only wanna do it once, real bad
Gon' make that shit last
God forbid something happens
Least this song is a smash (Song is a smash)

[Pre-Chorus]
I've got so much love (Love)
Got so much patience (Patience)
I've learned from the pain (Pain)
I turned out amazing (Turned out amazing)
I've loved and I've lost (Yeah, yeah)
But that's not what I see (Yeah, yeah)
'Cause look what I've found (Yeah, yeah)
Ain't no need for searching
And for that, I'll say

[Chorus]
Thank you, next (Thank you, next)
Thank you, next (Thank you, next)
Thank you, next
I'm so fuckin' grateful for my ex
Thank you, next (Thank you, next)
Thank you, next (Said thank you, next)
Thank you, next (Next)
I'm so fuckin' grateful for my ex

[Post-Chorus]
Thank you, next
Thank you, next
Thank you, next
Yeah, yee
Thank you, next
Thank you, next
Thank you, next
Yeah, yee

[Bladewire]

[dillfly2000]

Lol, yeah it's time to move forward.

[OneHungLo]

Her wanting to go into the military should have been a huge red flag there. Sounds like you dodged a bullet.

[JesseQuinn]

man I'm so sorry :/

know how it feels. been about two months since I broke up with my husband/partner of over 14 years (would have been 15 in january) and while it was very painful to do (he wasn't cheating on me, just stopped being kind and nothing seemed to work to fix it) it hasn't been long and despite the initial devastation I am now VERY much enjoying being single again

you're doing all the right things. blaze and recover for a day or two, then work out, shower and get outside. meet people, see your friends, get laid and rediscover how much fun 'new' is. rinse and repeat

I know it's hard though. now hang in there and go have some fun

[dillfly2000]

Onehung
Yes I've had my worries, but I never let her know. Just trying to be supportive. So yeah, definitely dodged it.


Thanks Jesse, 14 years is quite the time, glad you got through it.
Will 4 sure stay busy. Try to Keep the mind from thinking too much.

[2MuchMark]

Sorry to hear about your breakup. Have a drink on me.

[2MuchMark]

Originally Posted by Bladewire

Heheheh... awesome.

[dillfly2000]

Thanks 2much, needed that lol.

[GAMEFINEST]

Be the jedi you must be young padwin

[Klen]

Pay yourself a trip to country where hookers are legal, bang 10 of them, and you should be fine in no time

[CaptainHowdy]

I always feel relieved when a woman leaves . . .

[ianmoone332000]

We have a saying in Glasgow. You wanna get over someone, you got to get under someone

[plsureking]

if you want to cleanse your palette, go spend some time in Thailand. you won't remember her name. don't sit around all winter drinking and smoking...

#

[Holly Lez!]

Originally Posted by astronaut x

Breaking up sucks. Especially when you actually love the person. Right now, you are using coping mechanisms. Coping mechanisms can be extremely medicating, but you are vulnerable right now so if they are not managed properly, bad things could happen. Not preaching, just friendly advice from someone who has been there before.

Maybe this will help...

When i turned 30, I was depressed as hell about it. By the time I was 35 I started to tell myself, "Hey, at least I'm not 45." Now, I am 45.. I tell myself.. "Hey, at least I am not 55".

What does that have to do with a breakup? Well, its the way you look at things.

You already have another girlfriend. You just haven't met her yet.

Right now, you got some free time for yourself to do whatever the fuck you want. And you will miss it someday, and regret you didn't take the time to enjoy it to it's full extent.

I love this advice and the you already have another girlfriend.

[aimike]

I'm right with you after about 2 years..

Originally Posted by astronaut x

You already have another girlfriend. You just haven't met her yet.

no.. better advice would be to stay single always.. stay away from relationships.. a female will always fuck you over somehow eventually. It's in their nature to be selfish bitches.

[NatalieK]

Originally Posted by dillfly2000

She says she met another guy on base

hey ya! Sorry to hear this, sad times, but then, there´s plenty of great women out there and you shall meet another


Always welcomed to a holiday here in Spain, relax & enjoy some Spanish sun with good people...


wishing you lots of love

[CaptainHowdy]

Originally Posted by astronaut x

You already have another girlfriend. You just haven't met her yet.

That's a scary thought for me . . .

[Grapesoda]

Originally Posted by Bladewire

You dodged a bullet man lucky you. Damn!

She dropped a stable guy for a womanizing grunt that's going to dump her after basic training. Her problem. She's weaker than you thought. You got lucky to find out now.

Get every single thing of hers out of your house. Put it in a rented storage unit and mail her the key, or email her the lock combo, after it's all in there. Give her a deadline for picking it up. her stuff being out of your house gives her no reason to come back to your home.

Change your Facebook status to single (if you use Facebook. I don't.)

After you do that go on a mini vacation somewhere you haven't been in a place that you have to fly to. 4 days minimum. No logging into Facebook.

When you get back, go shopping for stuff to replace her things you put in storage.

Go for a long walk every morning.

Shower every morning.

Get your hair cut, maybe even die it.

Buy new different style clothes, and wear them.

Volunteer at a charity food warehouse. You'll be humbled by true suffering and deeply fulfilled with your value at making other's lives better.

She gave you the gift of a new fruitful beginning. Take it.

good stuff, rejection is protection.

[Grapesoda]

Originally Posted by astronaut x

You already have another girlfriend. You just haven't met her yet.

bingo!!!!

[Bladewire]

Now you're free to find your gypsy

[Intro]
So I'm back, to the velvet underground
Back to the floor, that I love
To a room with some lace and paper flowers
Back to the gypsy that I was
To the gypsy that I was

[Verse 1]
And it all comes down to you
Well you know that it does
And lightning strikes, maybe once, maybe twice
Oh, and it lights up the night
And you see your gypsy
You see your gypsy

[Verse 2]
To the gypsy that remains
Faces freedom with a little fear
I have no fear, I have only love
And if I was a child
And the child was enough
Enough for me to love
Enough to love

[bridge]
She is dancing away from me now
She was just a wish
She was just a wish
And a memory is all that is left for you now
You see your gypsy, oh
You see your gypsy

[Hook]
Lightning strikes, maybe once, maybe twice
And it all comes down to you
And it all comes down to you
Lightning strikes, maybe once, maybe twice
And it all comes down to you
And it all comes down to you

[Outro]
I still see your bright eyes, bright eyes
And it all comes down to you
I still see your bright eyes, bright eyes
And it all comes down to you
I still see your bright eyes, bright eyes
(She was just a wish)
(She was just a wish)
And it all comes down to you
Lightning strikes, maybe once, maybe twice
And it all comes down to you

[Bladewire]

[Look Chang]

Originally Posted by plsureking

if you want to cleanse your palette, go spend some time in Thailand. you won't remember her name. don't sit around all winter drinking and smoking...

#

Wise advice ...

[MFCT]

I'm sorry that happened to you. You're doing what you can to cope. But you have to be prepared for when it gets worse.

Worse, you ask? Yes. Because sooner or later, she'll try to get back with you. Because whoever she's become involved with most likely considers her a fling, not long-term. You're going to be vulnerable because of what you're going through, and you may very well accept her back.

Thing is, if you do that, you're giving her the eternal right to do the same thing to you again and again. Can you handle going what you're going through now, over and over?

Don't wait for her to come crawling back to you to move on. Just find someone else, the sooner the better. Or maybe you don't have a place in your life for more drama right now, so just be single for a while.

Its a rough road ahead of you. Be strong. Throw yourself into your work to keep your mind off things.

[dillfly2000]

Originally Posted by GspotProductions

hey ya! Sorry to hear this, sad times, but then, there´s plenty of great women out there and you shall meet another


Always welcomed to a holiday here in Spain, relax & enjoy some Spanish sun with good people...


wishing you lots of love

Thanks haha
Sounds kinda nice right now.

Appreciate the advice peeps

[Phoenix]

feonsay!!!

jk...hit the gym

[NatalieK]

Originally Posted by dillfly2000

Thanks haha
Sounds kinda nice right now.

Appreciate the advice peeps

anytime and meant...

off to the UK for a tour Thursday for a week, but anytime onwards, you´re always welcomed in our home

[CaptainHowdy]

Originally Posted by Bladewire

Now it's no time to get all maudlin . . .